meg12 wrote:Wow, sorry for the book. Haven't posted in a whole day and it just kept flowing out! Sorry!!!!!! I don't blame you if you skipped most of this--you're probably better off for it!
Well, miss Meg
, i beg to differ w/you. i am glad i didn't skip what you wrote! and i definately do not feel i would be better off had i not read it. So there
! I am sorry that it has been a crappy day for you! (and w/o hormones??!!) Now what is this you say about Auntie F not making an appearance yet
? That beotch! I am sorry... it sounds like the wait is quite hard on you. I know for me also, once i am moving forward things are much easier emotionally... like you said, the whole "proactive" stuff.
Now, as for your friend... wow... to still be bitter after 10 years... and to pass that onto you as you are cycling... that sucks. Yep, sounds like being careful w/her for now is a good idea. Isn't that hard, though? At least it is for me.
: I dont know about the furrowed brow... maybe amanda can answer that for you... too bad botox won't cure the underlying cause of the furrows....
. As for the emotional stuff.. i don't know.. like i said, i don't regret doing back to back... but i also believe it caught up to me. I think if you are aware of that ahead of time, you will be in a position to deal w/it better than i have. As for my eggs... dear RE... at least he is honest w/me (and he says it in such a diplomatic way)! i told my mom i was "offended" on behalf of my eggs
!. Unfortunately, he appears to be right. Luckily i do have some embs... although all were just ferts when frozen, but my problem is getting embs that are chromosomally nl and grow to blast. So fingers are crossed for next wk when they get all thawed out...
i know, i know, just as you thought this email couldn't get any longer... Meg
, after reading your frustrations w/the stupid things people say (also one of my personal pet peeves)... thought i would share w/you this list of responses i got off another site... some are funny
INFERTILITY COMEBACKS TO:
"YOU JUST NEED TO RELAX."
I AM RELAXED, DAMMIT!
Gee, I hadn't thought of that! You mean relaxing will make my husband start producing sperm?
I was relaxed for the first year and a half we were trying, but it didn't work, so I gave it up.
And here I was thinking we just needed to have sex. THANKS!
You try staying calm while your husband gives you a shot in the butt.
You try staying calm when you have five pelvic exams a week.
I am relaxed... except when people make stupid comments.
We already tried that method, now we're trying something different.
"SO WHEN ARE YOU TWO PLANNING TO START A FAMILY?"
So, when are you planning on minding your own business?
When the egg and sperm decide to do a tango.
About 3 years ago!
We're way past the planning stage, we've already contracted with professionals.
ASAP. When are you going to have liposuction/plastic surgery?
"WHAT DO YOU WANT A BABY FOR, ANYWAY?"
For tax purposes, of course.
So that there will be someone to laugh at all the nasty comments I make about you behind your back.
Well, the dogs seem to have turned out well...
"WELL, I KNOW IT'S NONE OF MY BUSINESS, BUT ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT?"
Why? Do you want to show us how it's done? (accompanied with a leer)
Oh, you mean he has to put it inside of me?
Well, we got this book... I admit, it's a bit confusing... but I think we've got it down pretty well... Tab A goes into Slot B, right?
Lemme guess, you're offering private lessons, right?
You're right! It is none of your business.
"WHY DON'T YOU HAVE ANY KIDS?"
Because our cats are allergic.
Hang on, I'll go make a copy of my medical charts for you.
You want the full length motion picture version in color and Dolby surround sound, or will you be satisfied by hearing that we're working on it?
All right, ladies... let's hope tomorrow (or for Amanda and Fee.. later today) is better for us all![/b]. I just keep thinking we are all going to look back on this when we have our children...