Hi egg heads - you sound like a lively lot! I've been lurking around the "Over 40's" thread (Hi Chriss, JenB, Sonia!) and am suddenly at a bit of a cross roads in my treatment plan.
If you have a moment, here's the brief run down on the situation -
5 years TTC (ever since we were married!), 4 years IVF treatments. 6 iui's, 5 icsi's, 2 FET's (all own eggs) - no joy!
This year was a make or break one for me. I've been 'priming' myself for one last mega cycle using my own eggs this Nov or Dec. I've been on DHEA for 11 weeks, and taking Chinese herbs for 6 months.
Now all of a sudden we're considering donor egg. I actually hadn't really thought about this until my Chinese TCM doc suggested it only a couple of weeks ago. The problem is, I have to make my decision soon as my clinic is expecting me to start my next cycle using my own eggs in the next month or so... If we go with donor eggs, I will have to change clinics as the one I'm currently at does not offer donors. All this preparation (herbs and DHEA) will have been wasted if I don't go through icsi now. (I have to stop the herbs in a couple of months as I've been on them for too long now). The donor waiting lists are quite long so any health benefits from the last 6 months will not necessarily be there when a suitable donor is ready. If I go straight to DE now and get put on the wait list, (and it works 1st try!), then I will still be a 42 yr old 1st time mum! If I use my own eggs, there's a much lesser chance of live birth, and I'm not sure I can go down the whole pregnancy and threat of a mc again.
Hmm - quite a decision!
Shall I skip the icsi and go straight to donor? How did you ladies make your decisions? I guess I have no problems with using a DE. I do have an issue with giving up the possibility of using my own eggs forever as once I go down the DE route, there will be no looking back for me.
DH wants to adopt but is quite excited about the advantages of using a younger woman's eggs, but says it's up to me and will support any decision I make (talk about sitting on the fence!). Doc at clinics (my current clinic and possible DE clinic) say it's up to me and I can still use my own eggs if I wanted to.
What an introduction aye? Apologies for the rave... Best of luck to all the egg heads!
DOWN BUT NOT OUT...
4 rollercoaster yrs of IVF using own eggs, then -
1st IVF (DE fresh) Jan 2008 - BFN
2nd IVF (DE frosties) May 2008 - cancelled