Carolyn Testing - 26th Nov

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Post by Welshgirl38 » Sat Nov 24, 2007 10:03 am

Carolyn,

Im lost for words hun! I really dont know what to say to you. Nothing that i do say will make u feel any better or any different right now, but i want u to know that - u are a lovely lady whom has helped me thru some tough times, my only wish is for u to one day get the well deserved family that u desire.

I dont want u to give up just yet - take time out yes (hell knows u are the most deserved person to have time out) but please dont ever give up on ur dream, i know thats not what u want to hear right now, all i can do is offer u my love and a hug.

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Post by CarolynB » Sat Nov 24, 2007 12:17 pm

Thanks Beckster for your lovely post.

Just took call from ARGC. Bloods confirmed what I already knew. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: (1 for each -ve we have had).

Lovely girl called me and was so kind that I could not even speak on the phone. What an awful job to have to call us with such bad news.

Anyway, I shall try to take a day at time & put 1 foot in front of the next. I'll mail clinic and see what they say early next week.

Hugs & thanks to all you strong and kind ladies.
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Post by beachbaby » Sat Nov 24, 2007 12:26 pm

carolyn, I am so sorry, i know nothing we can say will heal the hurt, but please know we are all here for you. take care. Hugs
jayne
Me 39, DH 40. TTC 5years
4th times a charm,1-IVF, 3xFET's, 2 chemical
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Post by Xrayem » Sat Nov 24, 2007 12:49 pm

I am so sorry. I wished so badly for you that this was your miracle. I don't know what to say other than look inside yourself and you will know where to go from here.

Much love to you and your DH,

Em
TTC 5yrs - Unexplained Infertility
3xIUI's (April, June & Aug 06) - BFN,s
1st IVF - Oct 06 - Jasper & Finlay born 07/06/07
Natural preg - Addison Grace born 15/10/08

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Post by Jen1d » Sat Nov 24, 2007 2:52 pm

Oh Carolyn

I wish there was something i could do to help. I know only to well the pain your going through and am here for you anytime.

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Have sent you an email

Love and hugs

Jen xxxxxx
me 38 dh 38, ttc for 6yrs,
HSG - Tubes Damaged
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Hysteroscopy - 30th Oct 07
4 IVF - BFN, 3 ED - BFN
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Post by lolajones » Sat Nov 24, 2007 3:13 pm

Carolyn, this is too unfair sweetheart.
Take some time - have sent you pm

much love. Lola xxxxxx
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2 ivf, 3 fets - 2 bfn, 3 bfp (1 ectopic, 2 m/c @ 9wks and 12 wks)
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Post by lara312 » Sat Nov 24, 2007 6:06 pm

Carolyn i'm so so very sorry you deserve a baby so much you have so much love to give you must be truly devastaed i am sat here crying for you to hun massive {{{hugs}}}for you and dh you have always been there for us now we are here for you
lots of love Rachel x x
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Post by Dexter » Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:36 pm

Carolyn,
Just logged on to read your news. So sorry this hasn't worked this time. My gosh, can't imagine how you feel. I know it's hard to understand and get a grip on, but I met a lady on the plane from the UK who plonked her baby on my lap during the flight and told me it was her miracle baby - conceived on her 6th IVF attempt. Unexplained and no reason why it worked that time and not the others. Quite simply, there is no explanation. It's bloody hard when it seems so easy for everyone else and for us ladies, it's a struggle - taking up our every existence and waking moment. We try so damn hard.

Carolyn, hope you have the strength to get through this and try again. Will be thinking of you..

Sending love

Dex xx
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FET # 1April 07-BFN
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Post by Angie65 » Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:56 pm

I am so sorry Carolyn. Take care of yourself. AngieXXX
Me 39 PCO - TTC since Aug 05
2 IVF/ICSI, 2 FET. All BFN
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Post by gill12 » Sun Nov 25, 2007 11:07 am

Oh Carolyn I am so very sorry, its all just so unfair.
Take care of yourselves, {{{HUGS}}} to you both
love Gill xxx
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Post by lara312 » Sun Nov 25, 2007 11:22 am

Carolyn
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lots of love Rachel x x
after 8 yrs of trying 2failed ivf 1 m/c and 2 miracles
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Post by nimble » Sun Nov 25, 2007 5:54 pm

Carolyn, this process is so damn unfair and my heart goes out to you. I wish i could help in some way and can't imagine how you must be feeling after yet another knock back.

Take care and as Becky has said, don't ever give up your dream.

Big hugs to you and DH

Nimble xx
1st IVF - Sep 06 - +ve lost at 7wks
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Post by CarolynB » Sun Nov 25, 2007 6:46 pm

Thank you for your kindness. Thanks also for the PMs (Lola and Kelly) & the texts from all my extra special IM buddies (Jen1d, Gill and JB).

Whilst yesterday they were just making me blub :cry: then today they are helping me do a weak smile. :)

Guess what I am saying is that today is nowhere near as bad as yesterday. Just with the 3 new 21 year old eggs, I thought that we had a shot. Plus I have never ever seen my dh in such a state (other than may be when he lost his Mum suddenly). It was heartbreaking. He went to Nando's to get take away in the evening as I could not move and he was crying so much in the shop that the guy behind the desk had to help him. He did not tell me what set him off but guess that he saw a baby/small child. Seeing his so upset kept setting me off again.

Could not cry all day today as my eyes are red raw and so puffy that it hurt. Plus I need to get into some sort of shape for work tomorrow :roll:

We are going to look forward to Xmas as best we can. I shall be busy at work and we have a lot of social stuff too in the next few weeks.

We have sent some questions to IM and will see what they say before we take any rash decisions about what next (good advice Lola!). Based on what they tell us we will call it a day or decide on a final attempt. Could not face another go yesterday but dh is keen so sure that we will give it a go unless IM tell us that we are beyond hope :roll:

Thanks again to you all. You are very special ladies.
Love
Carolyn
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Me 42, DH 52 IVF #1, #2, #3 ICSI #4 - 10.05.2006, 12.12.2006, 10.03.2007, 27.07.2007 ICSI/DE/TESA #5, #6 PGD/IVIG #7 - 24.11.2007, 27.02.2008, 23.05.2008 - 7 BFNs
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Post by Sonix » Sun Nov 25, 2007 7:50 pm

Oh Carolyn, I am so sorry. This whole process is just so cruel. You try so damned hard, do everything possible which could have just a tiny influence the results, build up your hopes and then you just always seem to end up belonging to the group which gets the bad news. It’s so hard to get your head round that at all. But sometimes there is no explanation.
Even if you do everything right, everything seems to go to plan, there’s still that chance that you’ll be unlucky. Like Anna was too the 1st time at IM. So don’t give up hope.
Hoping that a shimmer of light will be there for you again soon and that you'll both find the right way forward.
Thinking of you and DH…

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Post by nimble » Sun Nov 25, 2007 7:51 pm

omg Carolyn that has just set me off. Sometimes we forget how they feel and how it effects them - I know they don't necessarily go through the physically aspects of it all but I guess they are on the roller coaster of emtions with us, but sadly they don't have all these fantastic ladies to support them through it like we do.

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