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Post by Alison » Mon Nov 24, 2003 4:33 pm

Well, despite spending the whole weekend lying down and hoping and praying that the bleeding would stop, as expected AF arrived this morning. After 5 IVF/ICSIs and 1 FET this is the end of the road for us, and we won't be having any more treatment. I'm feeling pretty numb at the moment. Spent a large proportion of the weekend in tears, and am now at work trying to bury myself catching up with all I missed last week, and take my mind off the fact that this story isn't going to have the fairytale ending I always believed that it would.<br><br>I won't be going far and will keep an eye on you all. Apart from anything else this message board has been part of my life for the past 18 months and in that time many good friends have had the joy of a positive result, although some have suffered far more heartache than is fair for anybody.<br><br>Wishing lots of love and luck to those on the 2ww and those who are gearing themselves up to go again in the new year,<br><br>Alison x


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Post by Traci » Mon Nov 24, 2003 4:37 pm

Alison<br>I feel for you terribley, I too feel like its a big fat negetive for me too this time but will go to the clinic to discuss 1 more go. You poor thing No words will comfort you right now so here is a big {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<br><br>Lots of Love <br>Trace x
1st cycle own eggs Neg
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06

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Post by Dawn Blake » Mon Nov 24, 2003 4:40 pm

Dear Alison<br><br>I truly do not know what to say, nothing I can say will make you feel any better, I only wish it could.<br><br>If you do ever want a chat/scream/rant you know where I am.<br><br>Lots of love to you and DH, I am totally gutted for you.<br><br>D x
Me 34, DH, 37. Married for 11 years, ttc for 6+, failed 4 x fresh IVF tmts. 5th attempt at Lister Hospital gave us Megan on 5 April 2004 with a very straightforward pregnancy and labour. Attempt number 6 to start hopefully September 2007!

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Post by Grace » Mon Nov 24, 2003 4:50 pm

Dear Alison<br><br>I really don't know what to say either, except that I am truly so very sorry. It just does not seem fair and I wish we could somehow understand these things and understand why life is so cruel.<br> <br>As you know there is a very supportive group on the life after bit. When and if you feel up to it myself and the others will be there for you.<br>I really am so sorry Alison.<br>With love and a big hug<br>Gracexxxx

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Post by Jo Locker » Mon Nov 24, 2003 4:55 pm

So sorry Alison. No-one should have to go through this, life is so cruel. Cling close to your DH is the only thing I can think of.<br><br>With lots of love, Jo.xxxx

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Post by fiona_lk » Mon Nov 24, 2003 5:25 pm

Dear Alison,<br><br>I just don't have the words to express how sorry I am to read your result this time - I know I haven't posted much, but I log on as often as I can to check up on everyones progress and pray for good news. I feel so much for my friends who do not make their goal through ivf.<br><br>I hope that you can find some small amount of peace as you (and dh) travel through the next very difficult weeks and months and a clear mind as you decide what your next steps will be.<br><br>You will always have a special place in my heart (as will Lucy, Luce, JC, Becky, Grace and others) and would hope that you can stay in touch with news of whatever in life makes you happy.<br><br>I truely hope my words are OK, as it is so difficult to know what to say.<br><br>Take Care, my friend<br><br><br>love Fiona xxx
Me:36 Dh:46, ttc 5+yrs, M/F (96% abnormal).
13 unsuccessful Txs From 2000 [4xClomid (NHS), 7xIUI(d)s & ICSI#1 (MFS), ICSI#2 (MFS) Oct 02 (ectopic)] Natural pg Jan 03 m/c 5.5wks
ICSI#3 (CARE) +ve boy (Xander) EDD 21/03/04 - so excited!!!!!!

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Post by caz1 » Mon Nov 24, 2003 5:49 pm

O Alison - I'm so so sorry to read your news. Take care of yourself and as Jo says cling close to your Dh and all the people who love you.<br>Keep us in touch<br><br>Cazxx

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Post by luce » Mon Nov 24, 2003 5:55 pm

Alison<br><br>Just got back from hols this morning and was really really sorry to read your news, after all you've been through. I had really hoped that this would be a fairytale ending for you too.<br><br>All I can say is take every minute, hour and day as they come. It certainly isn't easy to take those first steps to accepting our fate, but I am here for you to prop you up every step if you need it. <br><br>Take care of yourself and don't disappear from here, you have lots of friends here to help you<br><br>Love to you and your hubs<br>Lucy<br>xxx

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Post by louli » Mon Nov 24, 2003 6:30 pm

Dear Alison,<br>Have only just read your message. I had not realised that it was so imminent. There are no words that can really make you feel any better and only time will ease the pain. At this early stage it all feels so raw. I know that you have a loving hubby and that you will give each other as much love as possible. As Lucy says do not expect too much of yourself and take each step slowly.<br>Keep us informed. I have found it quite helpful posting on the board for life after failed IVF even though I am not quite there yet I realise that it may come to that. <br>Go steadily,<br>Lou

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Post by beckym » Mon Nov 24, 2003 6:42 pm

Alison, was devastated to see your message as I was really hoping that this would be your go. Can fully understand why you don't want to continue on the journey - it is such a rollercoaster. I hope that you will find a passion in life to fill that gap and as Luce says you have lots of friends on here to support you whatever choice you now make. All my love and thanks for your outstanding support. beckym xxx

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Post by jen » Mon Nov 24, 2003 7:05 pm

Alison<br><br>I'm so sorry that it hasn't worked for you, I know words can't make it better but I truly hope that you both will find hapiness whatever road you decide to go down.<br><br>Look after each other<br>Love Jen

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Post by LORRAINE G » Mon Nov 24, 2003 7:17 pm

I was so sorry to read your post Alison,<br><br>take care of yourself and DH<br><br>My love and prayers<br>Lorraine G

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Post by Lisa Ch » Mon Nov 24, 2003 8:19 pm

Alison<br><br>so sorry for you both. Take care and love and hugs to you and dh.<br><br>Love Lisa x

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Post by Nick » Mon Nov 24, 2003 10:09 pm

Dear Alison,<br><br>I began cycling a little later than you, and have not posted that much but I was aware of your cycle and am deeply disappointed that the blastos just didn't take. How terribly sad for you and your DH. I thought the clinic really pulled out the stops and supported you. I don't know how we survive these disappointments. As I said to Grace, I feel I may too be joining you shortly. <br><br>In the meantime you are deeply in our thoughts and hearts,<br><br>Nicky and Philxxx
1st IVF -ve. 2nd IVF abandoned 3rd IVF +ve but m/c at 8 wks. 4th IVF 1 embie - not looking good.5th IVF Short Protocol - more eggs er.. 5 actually - but -ve AGAIN. What now? Me 39 DDH 48. Unexplained

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Post by Dolly » Tue Nov 25, 2003 9:19 am

Alison, I was so sorry to read that it hasn't worked out for you this time. Life really isn't fair. Take care of each other.<br>Love and hugs<br><br>Dolly
Me 38 / DH 40. TTC 8 yrs
3 natural pg - 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage
2nd IVF +ve but miscarried
1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th IVF all -ve
Moved to the ARGC.
Just started for the 7th time (!) Feb/March 2006.

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