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Discussion group for all topics related to infertility including preparation for pregnancy, causes, investigation and treatment of infertility.
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Post by Juliana » Mon Jul 26, 2004 11:07 am

What can I say, I am lost for words! I am so very very sorry that it did not work out this time. Life really isn't fair, I cannot believe it did not work after everything you endured. I can only reapet what the other said, you and your dh are in my thoughts and I do believe you will recover and succeed but right now this is no help, so I am just sending you lots of love and hugs,


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Post by Dagny » Mon Jul 26, 2004 12:27 pm

Thankyou so much to all of you wonderful girls :)

All your messages have touched me and my DH and it's so nice knowing you are all there for us.

I tested again this morning just to satisfy the fertility team and as I knew already it was negative again. I am feeling really pi$$ed off and so sad and just can't really understand why it had to be negative but it is and I have to accept it.

To top it all a very good friend of mine text me this morning that she is PG AGAIN :roll: Jee wizz - I so didn't need it today of all days.

It's also 5 months today since Katelyn died and so it's a pretty crap day altogether.

I will pick up the pieces and move forward again and see what my consultant has to say when I see him in my follow up appointment. There is not a lot he can say really but the fertility nurses are really sad for us and are always there for me if I need to speak to them. They are really kind.

Thanks again everyone.

Love Dagny xkx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle

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Post by DMOYER » Mon Jul 26, 2004 1:30 pm

Oh Dagny - you are in my thoughts and prayers! I was away yesterday and thought about you often. I offered up my communion for you the past three Sundays at church - now I am praying for you and you DH to have the strength to get through this.


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Post by hope2004 » Mon Jul 26, 2004 1:39 pm

Just logged on after the weekend and saw your news. I'm so sorry that life is being so hard to you and DH! It just isn't fair. We work so hard to get pg, harder than most people can imagine, only to be so dissapointed.
So sad for you..hugs,
Me - 35 Unexplained DH 37
TTC#1 since '97
5 IUIs
1st IVF 5/04 - transferred 2-neg
2nd IVF 7/04 - transferred 3-pos but MC at 8 wks.

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Post by Val R » Mon Jul 26, 2004 1:39 pm


I'm so sorry! I wish I had some idea of anything to say to help you feel better but I know that isn't possible. I know that time is the only thing that will ease the pain and I can only keep the hope and faith that you will, some day, be the Mum you are so deserving to be.

You are in my thoughts...
Val xxx

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Post by tammi » Mon Jul 26, 2004 1:42 pm

Dagny - So sorry. Hope you can get on okay. It's been a rough couple weeks. I went away this weekend It kinda helped. Maybe try to get away. I think the worst are all the calls from friends asking the dreaded question " Are you? ". Hope your not giving up. I think all the girls here need you. I know how much guidance you gave me. God bless and hope to hear from you all. We are on our way to the doc to hopefully get an explination.

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Post by alisonn » Mon Jul 26, 2004 1:55 pm

dagny, i was so scared to log onto today, i felt so upset to read
your post, i realy cant understand how life can be so cruel.
i can understand how u think u will never become a mummy, its just
so raw at the moment, i felt the same, especially as i was 43, i thought
time was realy running out, but give yourself some time, and u will
get there. alisonnxx

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Post by TERESAWANTBABY » Mon Jul 26, 2004 2:02 pm

This can't be it !! WHY???? Darn, why is it so ....... ARRRRRRRRRRGHHH, I am so sorry, I hope you spend some real good quality time with DH and hope your dreams will be fullfilled SOON !!!!!!

Keep smiling GIRL !!!
-Teresa :D
TTC 20 months
Me 28 Dh 31 low sperm count
IVM/ICSI 1st try
IVM (Invitro Maturation) Natural Cycle (no meds)
EDD March 21, 2005

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Post by eacole » Mon Jul 26, 2004 2:21 pm

Dear Dagny,

I'm pretty new here but I've always followed your messages with interest because you are so generous and supportive. I'm writing to say that I am so sorry to hear your sad news. It must be very difficult for you right now. I hope you and your DH have alot of support and love. I know that you will pull through because you have been through so much and still haven't given up. Just to say, I sincerely hope that you don't give up. Because it has happened once, tragic though your loss is, I believe and sincerely hope it will happen again, though I'm all too aware how hollow these words can ring when you have experienced such great disappointment once again..all the same, I hope you can get some comfort from everyone's obvious faith and hope for you...

"Whatever gets you through the night..", as John Lennon put it so eloquently. You are in my thoughts., and I'm wishing you all the most of the very best...elizabeth (eacole)

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Post by LORRAINE G » Mon Jul 26, 2004 2:22 pm

Just wanted to say how sorry I am and that you are in my thoughts and prayers...

much love as always to you and DH

Lorraine G

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Post by Ellie » Mon Jul 26, 2004 3:33 pm


Although I am pretty new here just wanted to say how sorry I am for you.Life is so horrible sometimes,I think you sound unbelievabley strong and I hope you can get through this and move onto whatever you are going to do next.


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Post by Janeya » Mon Jul 26, 2004 4:23 pm

Dear Dagny and DH
Words cannot describe how I feel for you both I had every faith that it would work for you.take some time out together and have each other to give support as you really do need each other at a time like this!!!!
I have been waiting all day and thinking about you all day and feel on a real downer for you both now.
Never give up hope
You will both get through this even though it is hard now
BIG LOVES to you both

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Post by Chubbs » Mon Jul 26, 2004 7:47 pm

Dagny and David

Late on line and I'm so sorry to hear your news. You are such inspiration and amazing support for us all, I don't know how I would have got through my last IVF without you. Words feel so empty, just a big big cyber hug for you both
Love Chubbs :cry:
Me 39 DH 34
Dec 2003 1st IVF/ ICSI - poor response 1 embi - neg. FSH up post cycle
April 2004 2nd IVF / ICSI - 2 embis - neg
August 2004 - 3rd attempt : 1 embi, testing 2/9/04

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Post by Susan L » Mon Jul 26, 2004 8:39 pm


So very sorry and sad to hear your news i really had everything crossed for you it seems alot on here did you give so many of us great support.

you are a little fighter it will happen

take care and stay strong
Me 27 DP 28
ttc 6 years started ivf Oct 03 due to M/F
ICSI Oct 03 negative
ICSI April 04 Positive but ended m/c at 10wks
FET Nov 04 positive boy girl twins born 5th july 2005 at 35weeks Blake 6lbs13oz kirsten 6lbs10oz

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Post by Alette » Tue Jul 27, 2004 8:39 am

Big hug for you Dagny, I cry for you

after lots of IUI, 4 FETs and 5 IVF's
a babyboy!

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