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Postby Helen » Wed Nov 06, 2002 7:33 pm

Well its all over, I woke up yesterday (after saying to DH Monday night, I bet Ill come on in the morning) bleeding quite heavily, still went to the hospital to test though even though I knew the results.....BIG FAT NEGATIVE..... I now feel like crap.<br>I am now having the AF from hell, and I am aching all over especially my heart.<br>We are just gonna get through the next few days gently, walk the dog in the rain, drink lots of wine and cuddle on the sofa.....then we will decide what to do next, we have two frosties waiting for us so maybe we'll collect them in the new year (once we have saved some cash!). I grew up in care and would've loved a new family, and we've always thought adopting would be a great idea, even if we had our own children....so who knows?<br>Roll on 2003, this has not been my year...hope next year will be better for us.<br>Love to all the lucky girlies who are preggers, I wish I was with you, but it just wasn't meant to be.<br>Helen xx
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Postby sammy » Wed Nov 06, 2002 7:50 pm

hi helen,im sorry for both of you.You must both be feeling like absoloute s..t.This treatment sure does make us stronger,and you are obvioussley so there for each other.Its to early for me to say anything to you that would make you feel any better,but you do sound posotive.I wish and pray for you both that 2003 is gonna be your year in whatever direction you decide to take.<br>thinking of you both<br>take care<br>lots of heartfelt hugs<br>sammyxxxxx
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Postby andreaj » Wed Nov 06, 2002 8:12 pm

Helen,<br><br>My heart goes out to you - but I know that nothing anyone can say or do will take the pain away. My cycle ended in failure six weeks ago, and I was devastated - far more than I expected to be.<br>Just be gentle to yourself, allow yourself to grieve over what might have been, and don't blame yourself if you're not your normal bouncy self - you've been through a lot physically, and emotionally.<br>In my experience, cuddles and wine is a good recipe for recovery - I also found lots of bright, fresh flowers helped cheer me up; I had them in every room in the house - expensive, but necessary when you feel like crap.<br><br>If you want to talk.....<br><br>Andrea<br><><<br>
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Postby laura » Wed Nov 06, 2002 8:16 pm

Hi Helen,<br>So sorry to hear your news. It is very difficult to deal with an unsuccessful cycle and you're doing the right thing in allowing yourself time to grieve. I really hope that things turn around for you in 2003. Take care,<br>Love Laura
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Postby pru » Wed Nov 06, 2002 8:26 pm

Sorry to hear your news Helen but just try and take it easy and your time will definitely come.
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Postby beck » Wed Nov 06, 2002 8:31 pm

helen,<br>im so sorry sweetie..nothing i say or do will ease that pain. but try and to give eachother time to heal your hearts.<br><br>we are here if you need a shoulder to cry on.<br>cuddles <br>beck xx
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Postby Lissa » Wed Nov 06, 2002 9:56 pm

Helen am so sorry to read your message. <br>Nothing I can say will make it better but we are all here anytime you want to log on and get it off your chest. <br>Hope 2003 will be your year<br>Lots of love<br>Lissa<br>xxx<br><br>
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Postby Michelle » Thu Nov 07, 2002 7:30 am

Helen, I am so sorry for your news. I think that you should spoil each other rotten and cry for your loss. It is so unfair but hopefully if you decide to go-ahead again with your 2 Frosties that could be the one. <br>Adopting may be the way to go - you never know, if you take your mind off conceiving it may just happen naturally (or does that only happen to your sister-in-laws, brothers, wifes, sisters dog!).<br>Sending you a huge cyber hug.<br>Michelle x<br>
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Postby Sarah30 » Thu Nov 07, 2002 10:12 am

Hello Helen<br><br>I know exactly how you feel, I was right there where you are in May this year. Keep you chin up though, we saved our pennies and I'm now on the dreaded 2WW for the second this at the moment - testing on Monday.<br><br>It's hard to see past the next couple of awful days, but you soon adjust and start to look forward and focus on having another try. At least you've got from frosties so the cost will be much much less. I had frosties two, and it cost £850 for the FET.<br><br>Don't give up and good luck for 2003<br><br>keep smiling :o)<br><br>sarah x
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Postby caroline » Thu Nov 07, 2002 11:30 am

Sorry Helen. I had a failed attempt in June, so can appreciate how you are both feeling.<br><br>Don't give up hope. Your frosties are there when you feel ready to try again.<br><br>love Caroline<br><br>
TTC 5yrs 34yrs old DH 36
Tubal damage,PCOS,endo
1st IVF Jun 02 –ve FET Oct 02 –ve
2nd IVF Jan 03 –ve
3rd IVF Jun 03 +ve Daughter Amy stillborn 8th Mar 04 at 40 wks + 3 days
Waiting to undergo genetic tests before trying again
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Postby Mags529 » Thu Nov 07, 2002 12:31 pm

Helen<br><br>So sorry to hear your news, and cuddles and wine are the best tonic<br><br>Wishing you everything you want for 2003.<br><br>Mags<br><br>xx
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Postby Helen » Sat Nov 09, 2002 4:48 pm

THANKYOU EVERYONE....for your kind words, Im feeling alot more positive now its a few days on and things arent so raw.<br>Saw my neice this am and patted my sister-in-laws pregnant belly felt huge pangs of jealousy, but what can I do!!<br>Her babies due on the 30th of December so we are having my neice to stay for a bit, am looking forward to that, shes 21months and the most beautiful thing ever.....<br>We will be using our frosties in the new year, the hospital have said Feb/Mar if my af's are all back and regular, so you never know...<br>Anyway love to all of you, especially those who are in the same boat as me, and good luck to all of you who are 2w/waiting or even better preggers..<br>Helen xx (glass of wine in hand!!)
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Postby DEBORAH » Sun Nov 10, 2002 6:31 pm

Hi Helen<br><br>I am so sad to hear another failed IVF - I started to bleed the night before blood test on 29th October, still finding it hard to speak about it as I still cry NOW!!<br>I to will be starting another round of IVF come the new year we will have to wait and see what 2003 brings for us and everybody else.<br>GOOD LUCK and keep posting.<br>Love Debsx<br>
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