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Post by Sweetness » Wed Mar 22, 2006 11:59 pm

Hi ladies,

Well to those of you who knew my blood test was today, I just thought I would let you know the results. I got a BFN, but I was not surprised, I dont have any answeres to my questions yet, as to why but my dh and I have an apt. on Friday to talk to one of my doctors to get some answers and and to figure out what our next step will be. Thanks to all of you who have given me encouragement these past 2 weeks, it was really a blessing. I'm very out of sorts and very tired, I don't have the energy to be sociable right now. Hope everyone is having a good day.

Sweetness me 37
dh 38
tubal damage
1st IVF March-Failed, got a BFN this morning :(


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Post by bella-s » Thu Mar 23, 2006 12:04 am

I'm so sorry for your news today. Take as much time as you need to grieve - it truly is an awful time, and you need to let yourself cry, scream, whatever you need. You will get stronger, and your day will come, I promise. It just seems so far away right now, but it will happen. We are all here for a chat or cyber hugs if you need. Take care hun...

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#2&3 FET both -ve
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Post by Eminde » Thu Mar 23, 2006 7:27 am

Oh Sweetness, I'm so sorry for your terrible news. Take the time you need to get over this and I hope that you find again the strength to try again. Take care of yourself and DH.

Eminde xx
Me 32, DH 43, TTC 3+ years
3 failed IUIs: 2005
IVF Nov 05: cancelled
IVF Feb 06: -ve
FET Mar 06: +ve!!!!

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Post by Mel_P » Thu Mar 23, 2006 8:54 am

Hi Sweetness,
So sorry to hear of the BFN. Bella is right, its a truly difficult time. Give yourself lots of time and space to deal with it. Things will come right and they will get better. Take care. Big hugs
ME: 31 DP: 36
TTC: 6 yrs
Tubal damage - failed surgery Aug 04
1st IVF: Nov 05 -ive
1st FET: Mar 06 BFP!
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Post by Cla » Thu Mar 23, 2006 10:58 am

Sweentness, I'm so sorry. Sending cyber hugs your way.

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Post by sml » Thu Mar 23, 2006 12:44 pm


I'm so sorry to hear of your BFN. Please take some time to be kind to yourself. I got a BFN on my first IVF cycle last month and it hit me in waves -- but time really does heal the wounds (as did, for me, some indulgent hot baths, facials, beauty treatments, etc.) The ladies on this board are an amazing source of support. What helped me also was coming up with a game plan for how we would proceed. Even just phoning the clinic to schedule a follow up consultation helped me feel back in control. Hope you and DH can spend some quality time together this weekend -- perhaps escaping to the movies, taking long walks, and going out to dinner. Take good care and sending cyber hugs your way.

xx sml
Me: 38, DH: 39
Jan 06 - 1st IVF -ive
April 06 --2nd IVF, -ive
August 06 -- myomectomy to remove 9 fibroids
April 07 -- IUI, -ive
October 07 -- 3rd IVF, BFP, then early miscarriage

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Post by fulloffaith » Thu Mar 23, 2006 1:52 pm

Sweetness...I am so so sorry for your news. Reading your post brings me back to my BFN...seems like it was yesterday now. I totally understand how you are feeling. Mad, sad, defeated, and then mad again!! The worst part is I felt like I let my DH down - kept apologizing over and over again to him. I felt like a failure. But this is all normal and I guess something we have to go thru that eventually makes us stronger.
Take time to grieve and hopefully this will bring you and DH closer together.
I will be praying for you that you'll find peace thru this mess. Don't give up! Somehow God has this all worked out already... we just can't see it yet.

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Post by LisaB75 » Thu Mar 23, 2006 4:19 pm

Sweetness - my heart goes out to you during this difficult time. Take care of yourself and your dh. Many, many people who are unsuccessful on their first IVF go on to success in later cycles. I know it is too early to be thinking of that - but don't give up hope! We are here for you!
Lisa B
Age: 35
Blocked Tubes
First IVF cycle Mar/Apr 06 - BFP!! DD born December 2006.
Left tube removed 2007
Ectopic Pregancy naturally in June 2008
Right tube removed 2009
Round 2 IVF - Oct/Nov 2010 - BFP!!!

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Post by Sweetness » Fri Mar 24, 2006 12:20 am


Thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers, it is truley overwhelming to know how you all care for each other. I'm in a dark place right now, I don't want to email, read the news talk to family nothing...I want to just be left alone, this is not like me, but I have never gone through this before either. I'm a Christian and I know Jesus will see us through this darkness. My dh is fine, but I'm not..he has been very supportive and kind. We have a follow up consultation with our doctor on Monday, maybe she can enlighten us as to what to do next and why she thinks this time it did not work. I'm sure having only one embryo had a lot to do with it, anyway, it might be a few days before I post again I just dont have it in me right now to chat. Thanks again ladies you all are truley a blessing.

me 37
dh 38
severe tubal damage
1st IVF March 06 failed :cry:

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Post by kikiraf » Fri Mar 24, 2006 5:04 pm


Im so sorry for the awful news.
I pray for you to have peace in your heart right now. This is the absalute worse thing, you are right.
Take care of yourself and DH.

Best Wishes,
Me 29 DH 32

1st IVF Mar 22--ve

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Post by 032323 » Fri Mar 24, 2006 11:16 pm

sweetness - so sorry to hear your sad news!!

sending cyber hugs.


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Post by asante » Sat Mar 25, 2006 1:48 am

I am so sorry. God bless your heart. I hope things will go well with you. I guess march is not a good month for most of us..

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Post by larisaM » Sat Mar 25, 2006 3:47 am


I was very sorry to hear your results. :cry: Please don't give up. I am praying for you to become a mother soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care.

Me29 DH33
Married 3.5 years
TTC 3.5 years
4 natural pregnancies (no live births)
4 miscarriages
1-IVF with PGD treatment in early March++++
Good Luck to ALL!

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Post by bubblymichelle » Sun Apr 02, 2006 12:04 pm

I am really sorry to hear your news
big big hugs

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Post by NickiMark » Sun Apr 02, 2006 8:47 pm

i am sorry honey, Big cyber hugs to you x x x
TTC 6yrs......Have jumped off the rollercoaster for now, too many BFN's and too much heartache, to keep going....Moving on to fulfil other dreams!!!

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