Hi Bobs we've spoken on the phoenixes thread. As you may remember my dh went through sperm retreival only for it to be negative and now our only option is donod sperm. Our unit said they can't offer us donor iui because of the shortage caused by anonymity being lifted. Infact I phoned all private/specialist units in Scotland and they all said the same!! That they couldn't take us on or treat us!! My own unit said they could only treat us if my iui's elsewhere fail and I need ivf with donor - in that situation they still can't guarantee an available donor because the one they may have selected for us may have reached the limit of 10 pregnancies by the day of fertilisation and they may not have any more stocks......crazy!
As a result I phoned round some units in Northern England and found 2 with their own sperm banks. I spoke to someone within each unit that said so far they are not encountering any problems with shortages. So we went ahead and made an appt for Darlington for 3 weeks time.
Basically you need to find somewhere that has their own sperm bank. Someone who I also pm (originally from this board) said you can get the clinics to buy it in from America. Apparently the clinic can get a licence / or may already have a licence that covers this and it can be bought already screened and quarantined etc and ready to use.
Like you, we were devastated. Dh had 6 days beforehand, had his negative result from sperm retreival and we had just made the decision that we would use donor only to be told that we may have difficulty getting treated anywhere. I cried and cried the whole day
We were asked if we knew anyone that could donate for us. We don't but we are both against that idea.
So definitely search around. I phoned hfea and they were as much use as a chocolate fireguard! They couldn't even tell me which places had their own bank. I went onto their website to get clinic addreses then phoned them.
If you want to talk more please feel free to pm (private message) me anytime. Take care and I keep everything crossed that your dh has the result you both want from the big thaw.