I am so sorry to hear about your bad news.
DH & me are starting ICSI next week. They have tested his sperm and have found only occassional motile sperm. He also has high FSH and they have said that he has testicular failure. We are going to try and retrieve some sperm on EC day, but it doesn't look too promising.
We may have to go down the donor sperm road, so I kinda know how you feel. You are right. Its sucks!! Having to use donor sperm is bad enough, I think. Additional sh*t like this to deal with is just life taking the p*ss! I have gone past upset now, and now just feel angry.
I have been worried about the sperm shortage so had a nosey on another forum this morning. Apparently, there is a compnay is America that a lot of UK clincs use for sperm (not my clinic tho unfortunatley). Its quite expensive, but apparently, they ship the sperm over to your chosen clinic. Its www.xytex.com
I don't know whether this will help. I may have to go to them myself, so if it works out, let me know how you get on.
Keep your chin up Nicky. We will both get there one day!!!
Love Corinna xx