Can't believe it!! No sperm!!

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Post by ogr1 » Wed Jun 14, 2006 10:46 pm

i was going to e-mail you but i have to different ones to e-mail and i dont want to e-mail to the wrong one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i can be such a dense!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


i am still angry with your clinic for not warning you that this could happen..
they have only known that you needed sperm for how long?????????

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Post by jemima » Thu Jun 15, 2006 6:54 am

Hi Nicky...

I felt sorry for you. I've been following this forum but never posted anything. I found that you are a very nice person like an angel for everybody who needed.
I'll pray you will find your miracle. Wish you the best

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Post by Traci » Thu Jun 15, 2006 7:12 am

Nicki
What clinic are you at? have you thought of trying another clinic near to you ? it might be worth ringing around , I changed clinics half way through and the proceedure was great £25 to get my notes but I got my donated eggs ! the clinic I was at didnt have a single one , I know that the CARE clincs are fantastic and when I was there they were bursting at the seems with donor everything! just a thought .

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Post by lynne » Thu Jun 15, 2006 9:50 am

Hi Nicki,
I've just been reading through this thread.
I can understand your heartbreak.
We did it all back to front. We had 3 donor inseminations and were told there was no donor sperm left and the likelyhood of getting any was 'nil. We went the adoption route next. This was a wrong decision! Eventually my DH changed his mind (hurragh!!!!) and we are on the 2nd round of ICSI with his TESE sperm.
Before this all started though I approached a friend to be a donor. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. He is a single gay man and SUCH a lovely person, we thought we could do no better. However I was terrified that if he refused we would lose his friendchip. It took months of talking between DH and I before I could work up the courage to speak to our friend. Eventually I thought that if I didn't ask I would never let myself rest.
He was shocked and didn't know what to say. He asked for a while to think about it. He NEVER answered us. Some weeks later I said to him the clinic needed to know and he just said "sorry". To this day I don't know his reasons fo not wanting to do it. It hasn't effected our friendship, but it is always there between us. I love him dearly and at least he knows that, but in a way I wish I hadn't asked him as it caused him embarassment and heartache.
There is nobody else on earth I would have ever considered asking, so his refusal was a big shock.
What I'm trying to say is, if you do have a friend who would donate it would be fantastic. However, be very careful who you choose as you may lose the nicest person you know for ever.

On a brighter note, I went for my second scan yesterday (12 follies stimming nicely, ER tomorrow) and a guy arrived carrying a cryogenic fridge full of sperm. It was a private thing, not clinic funded and being brought in for an IVF woman. We had a little chat about it. So clinics are using the foreign donors more and more often. I'm sure you'll find something out there.
Good luck.
Lynne

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Post by NickiMark » Thu Jun 15, 2006 5:45 pm

Wow, thanks so much for your replies, not feeling so bad now just going with flow really....What can I do really???

Anyway, Jamimia Thanks, thats made me feel great. you are lovely too, and to take the time to post to me is great too, what a star....
I dont even know where to satrt to look for info sperm abroad, and I am scared about buying it online, I worry about whether its been screened, coz the last thing I want is to end up with a life threatening disease, I woudl rather be childless than with aids or any other diseases......

So any advice on sperm donor abroad would be great. :D

Lynne, I have asked DH to have op and re think it, and well thats how it stands, dh is thinking about it, but I dont want to keep going at him, so have left the thought with him.....We will see huh???

Traci, I have thought about changing clinics, I would hurt to call and ask about donor sperm, but from what i hear the shortage is all over the UK....
Parhaps on my next day off I will call around, its not easy having that conversation at work or on ur mobile in your lunch break.....

A big thank you to ya all, Love ya all xxxx
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Post by Macca8 » Thu Jun 15, 2006 7:49 pm

Nickii,

How bloody frustrating this is for you. Can your clinic get it from another. I know my clinic told me they had no shortage.
The name of it is Manchester Fertility Services (MFS). Its the leading one in the Northwest of England. Their number is 0161 227 0010, web address is www.manchesterfertility.com

They offered me sperm donation in February and told me there's never a shortage. Must be all the students up here desperate for the cash.

I really hope something works out for you quickly honey. You're in my thoughts.

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Post by princess » Fri Jun 16, 2006 2:43 am

nikki,
I can give you the name of a place here in the states.
It's where I got mine not sure if they send out of country though but you can check, they are screened for everything and you can get pictures of the donor as a child usually.
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Post by bella-s » Fri Jun 16, 2006 5:02 am

Nicki,

I have no info I can offer you, and if my DH didn't have such lazy sperm, I would offer you that. All I wanted to say was I wish you all the strength in the world to get through this latest hurdle. It's not fair of your clinic to leave it til the last minute to tell you - they obviously have no idea how much we all wait and anticipate our next cycles.

I hope you get the sperm you need and finally get that BFP - you deserve no less. You are an angel.

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Post by jemima » Fri Jun 16, 2006 11:16 am

Hi Nicky...

You are right, You must check the credibility of the institution. About AIDS, genetic disease, you do not have to worry. They repeat all test. But its better you communicate with the staff the way they choose the donor. they have official website.

I hope i hear good news from you soon...

Love
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Post by NickiMark » Fri Jun 16, 2006 6:34 pm

Bella, Jamima, Princess & Macca, thanks for your messages xxx

I will on my next day off call the clinic's I plan to call the local ones to me and London so will call Manchester too, even though thats the oposite side of the UK to me, I am in Suffolk.

I plan to call my clinic first and ask if they will buy in from other clinics if I am happy to call about, and that why. why would they say no huh???

Princess would like to know the info on where u bought your sperm from too, do u have web page/ address/ tel no??

Jemima, same as above do u have the web page for me to view?

Thanks, fro your kind messages, I am touched!! This site is truely amazing and so helps me, feel better xxxx :D
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Post by ogr1 » Sat Jun 17, 2006 6:53 pm

nick i hope you know how amazing you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Post by NickiMark » Sat Jun 17, 2006 8:01 pm

Thanks. xxx :D
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Post by ogr1 » Mon Jun 19, 2006 4:24 pm

your welcome!!!!!
are you going to see a doc about your knee?

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Post by AMck » Mon Jun 19, 2006 4:51 pm

Nicki, how you doing? So sorry to see the news about the sperm. That really sucks. Hope you can find some. There MUST be a way you can sort this. Lots of clinics in UK have sperm donor programmes, there must be some somewhere.

Hope your knee is OK too!

Lots of luck
Bye for now
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Post by NickiMark » Mon Jun 19, 2006 6:29 pm

Apparent;y its at crisis point all over the UK, and clinic's will only let their patients have it,which I guess is fair enough, but some are more strict than others, so just need to call about really, Ive been told that London would be the best bet.

Also been told that buying from abroad is a way too, but can take a while because of a lincence needed from HFEA.....

So the search continues....There must be some some where with our name on, but it's crazy really it is...

I urge all dh's to donate, pls guys it would mean so much to us and sure others in our situation, we need more donors.....
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