IT'S ALL OVER

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tony
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IT'S ALL OVER

Post by tony » Mon Jul 24, 2006 7:59 pm

HELLO ...FRIENDS.....
IS BIN A WHILE FROM THE BOARD
TODAY WE WHENT BACK TO THE CLINIC FOR A D&E (I BELIVE IS CALLED LIKE THIS)
AN OTHER ULTRASOUND SHOWED THAT THERE WAS NO EMBRYO,JUST A SHELL....ANYWAY IS BIN REALLY HARD FOR BOTH OF US,BUT I'M JUST GLAD THAT IS OVER...SO NOW THE CLINIC WILL DO A TEST UNDER THE MICROSCOPE TO SEE WHAT WHENT WRONG....BUT HE (THE MD)THINKS THAT IS GENERIC....AND NEXT TIME THERE IS A BETTER CHANSE FOR POSITIVE PREGNANCY ..BUT I KNOW THAT LOTS OF YOU HAD MORE THAT ONCE MISCARRIAGE(MY HARD GOES TO ALL OF YOU) SO WHAT ARE THE CHANSE FOR US ?? WELL I'M SORRY I'M STEEL VERY UPSET
THANK YOU ....THANK TO ALL OF YOU :?
me 35 dw 30
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us

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Post by Claire » Mon Jul 24, 2006 8:30 pm

Hi Tony,

I'm very sorry to read your post. I've watched your progress on the forum and I hoped it wouldn't turn out for you both like this.
I know how you feel so much, it's heart wrenching.
Take time for yourselves to grieve before making any decisions, just take some time. Things do get easier though, I promise.
My doctor said to us that if one good thing came from our miscarriage it proved that at least I could become pregnant, which at the time didn't mean much, but now it does.
And the same will go for you, I'm sure.

Take care,
Claire x
First IVF cycle Feb 05, 7 frosties waiting.
1st FET Aug 05 -ive
2nd FET Oct 05 +ive sadly ended in m/c at 7wks
3rd FET May 06 -ive
4th FET Nov 06 +ive praying hard every day x
I'm 33 and DH is 35 ttc for 11 years

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Post by terri1 » Mon Jul 24, 2006 8:49 pm

I'm so sorry to hear your news Tony.
You are in my prayers.

love Terri
PCOS
TTC 2.5 years
BFP April 2006

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thinking of you

Post by racquel » Mon Jul 24, 2006 8:58 pm

Hi Tony, My heart goes out to you as well, this must be so hard. I've miscarried before and it was a horrible experience - it's got to be that much harder following IVF. Take care of yourselves and I'll be thinking of you. Regards, Racquel
Me 35, DH 41
DD 9 (almost 10)
TTC 5 yrs (male factor due to paralysis)
June IVF w/ICSI
7/10: BFP, 8/7: Confirmed twins

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Post by tony » Mon Jul 24, 2006 9:52 pm

....i see that we are not the only one....so you guys know how we feel...
Claire...you know that is what i told my wife ...so at list your body knows what is like to be pregnant...kind of a jump start for the next time....
me 35 dw 30
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us

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Post by Dory » Tue Jul 25, 2006 12:56 am

Tony & DW,

I am so sorry for your lose, and wish you all the luck in the future and hope your dreams come true and you have the baby you so desire.

Take Care
Hugs Rachel OXO
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Me-35 DH- 37
2 Ectopics, 3 Miscarriages, 1 New born Death 94
IVF - Nov 05 BFN, FET - May 06 BFN
FET - July 06 BFN, FET - Nov 06 BFN

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Post by tony » Tue Jul 25, 2006 1:08 am

Dory hi....you know i was thinking about you....you have some profile there.....wow ...you must be the strongest women in the world...
how do you deal with all this?
me 35 dw 30
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us

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Post by Dory » Tue Jul 25, 2006 1:24 am

Thankyou for the kind words Tony..

You never get over the loses, but you learn to live with it. You have to take everyday as it comes and try not to let it get you down too much, but that is easier said than done.

My DH calls me a strong stubborn *****, cause i never give up. I find i get stronger with each knock back, I have too..... He keeps asking me how i survive it all.

We have decided that as we only have 4 frosties left if this FET doesn't work we will do one more then that will be the lot. We will then look into adoption, We are determined to have a baby one way or another.

I feel this is god's way of telling us we are mean't to help the children without a loving home.

Hold in the you two, I'm sure it will happen for you. As so many have told you, you can get pregnant, that's a big hurdle to have conquered.

Take Care and all the luck in the world.
Rachel OXO
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Me-35 DH- 37
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IVF - Nov 05 BFN, FET - May 06 BFN
FET - July 06 BFN, FET - Nov 06 BFN

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Post by Ghost » Tue Jul 25, 2006 1:34 am

Sorry to hear about the loss. It's called anembryonic gestation, and it happens often enough. I see one every month or so. A failed cycle does slightly increase the chance that the next will fail. It's not a huge effect, though, and many successes, perhaps most of them, follow one or more failures. The fact is that most fresh non-donor IVF cycles fail.

Pregnancy losses are among the worst failures because hopes get up so high. The worst I see are when the child is lost right after birth. That almost happened to us (severe heart condition, since mostly corrected, but it was iffy for 18 days). Then they become teenagers and start driving and dating. It takes a lot of courage to embark on parenthood, far more than just IVF. A setback like this is painful, but don't lose hope.
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Post by LISA@BELLASALES » Tue Jul 25, 2006 2:22 am

Tony,

So sorry to hear your news... Take care of DW and pray for your next miracle.



GHOST,
MAYBE ALITTLE TOO MUCH INFORMATION FOR TONY RIGHT NOW.
!!!! :roll:
Are you going through IVF?
LISAMARIE
Me 36 DH 31
April 2007 - BFP!!!!!

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Post by patientIVFpatient » Tue Jul 25, 2006 3:45 am

Tony and Renee,

I've been "following" your posts!

I am so sad for your loss---but don't give up!

Just letting you two know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.
Amanda
26, DH--28
Married & TTC 3 yrs.
severe male factor
First IVF July--low BFP that didn't stay that way:(
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Post by Ghost » Tue Jul 25, 2006 4:04 am

LISA@BELLASALES wrote:Tony,
GHOST,
MAYBE ALITTLE TOO MUCH INFORMATION FOR TONY RIGHT NOW.!!!!
Perhaps so. Up to them to decide that. They asked about the change in their chances for future cycles.
Are you going through IVF?
No. I'm a researcher (scientist) in IVF. Information is what I have to offer.

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Post by DolceVita » Tue Jul 25, 2006 7:19 pm

Tony & DW


I am so sorry for what has happened to the both of you. Everytime i read your posts i get so emotional it takes me a few days to be able to write back to you. I hope the D&C she had went well and that with passing of time you two will move on to another cycle and that one will be the one to make your dreams come true. I wish the both of you peace right now and patience to deal with the pain and anguish. Remember God is with you. I will pray for you and your DW to pass this pain and get more determined for the next cycle. Please dont give up. If you ever need anything feel free to contact
With Gods Blessings BFP!

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Post by LittleP » Wed Jul 26, 2006 6:08 am

Tony

I am so sorry about your news. Stay as positive as you can and you will get there.

I had 4 miscarriages before I finally managed to get my beautiful daughter. I know that it is heartbreaking at the moment, but there will be the glimmer of a light for you soon.

Take care.

Little P
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Post by AMck » Wed Jul 26, 2006 8:01 am

Tony, so sorry to see your news. You and dw are in my thoughts and prayers
Take care
Anna x
Me 44, DP 42 ttc 3yrs
7 cancelled IVF cycles during 2005/6
ED tmt at IM June 06 BFN
ED tmt at IM July 06 BFP
Matthew born 23/3/07

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