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Postby MickySul » Sun Aug 06, 2017 7:46 pm

Hello
I'm a single man who had a beautiful wife. We lived together for 4 years, enjoyed every minute. That day she called and asked to take her from work. It was pouring with heavy rain. She died as a result of an accident on the road. I drove home and crashed into a tree. I didn't get any scratch. Doctors tried their best, but they failed to save my wife.
I'm only 30, and my parents ask me to find a new wife. But I can not. I can not even think about it. I love only her, and I miss her. Her only dream was to make me a daddy. Since I don't want to get married again, how about if I go for surrogacy? I just want one child, with whom I can spend rest of my life. I really need some serious advice or suggestion. How and from where shall I start?
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Re: Help me, please

Postby Ghost » Sun Aug 06, 2017 10:59 pm

You can be sure that soon some poster will claim, without evidence, that some clinic in the Ukraine is the best for surrogacy.

It's a dishonest form of advertising.
Note: I am not an MD and not an expert.
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Re: Help me, please

Postby MickySul » Mon Aug 07, 2017 8:46 am

Ghost wrote:You can be sure that soon some poster will claim, without evidence, that some clinic in the Ukraine is the best for surrogacy.

It's a dishonest form of advertising.


What's wrong with you? I have no right to share my problem?
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Re: Help me, please

Postby Ghost » Mon Aug 07, 2017 8:56 pm

MickySul wrote:
Ghost wrote:You can be sure that soon some poster will claim, without evidence, that some clinic in the Ukraine is the best for surrogacy.

It's a dishonest form of advertising.


What's wrong with you? I have no right to share my problem?


Where did I say you have no right? Nowhere.
Note: I am not an MD and not an expert.
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Re: Help me, please

Postby MickySul » Tue Aug 08, 2017 11:46 am

Ghost wrote:Where did I say you have no right? Nowhere.


Ok, than I apologize. I misunderstood you
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Re: Help me, please

Postby Honey_Sunny » Tue Aug 08, 2017 11:51 am

MickySul wrote:Hello
How and from where shall I start?


I am very sorry to read about your loss. This is a terrible tragedy. I am so very sorry.
Yes, you can pursue surrogacy. The first step is always Research. It will be important to determine who will be your egg donor. Will you ask a family member to donate eggs? Or will you work with an egg donor? This is the most important choice you have to make in the beginning!
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Re: Help me, please

Postby MickySul » Wed Aug 09, 2017 8:28 pm

Honey_Sunny wrote:Will you ask a family member to donate eggs? Or will you work with an egg donor? This is the most important choice you have to make in the beginning!


I'm definitely not ready to do this with my relatives. So I'm considering the option with the donor. So, how much does it cost me?
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Re: Help me, please

Postby Honey_Sunny » Wed Aug 09, 2017 8:33 pm

MickySul wrote:
Honey_Sunny wrote:Will you ask a family member to donate eggs? Or will you work with an egg donor? This is the most important choice you have to make in the beginning!


I'm definitely not ready to do this with my relatives. So I'm considering the option with the donor. So, how much does it cost me?


It's not cheap. It can also potentially take a few cycles to have success. You may have a surrogate fall through and need a second one. Your surrogate may have a complicated pregnancy. A lot can go wrong and the costs add up.
I think the least expensive journey I have ever heard of was in the ballpark of $30k for everything. I have also seen cases of it costing the IPs $100k or more. Especially with travel associated with international matches.
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Re: Help me, please

Postby Ghost » Thu Aug 10, 2017 2:09 pm

Surrogacy cycles (actually the wrong name, but it seems to be routinely used here) can cost anywhere from $4000 to almost $100,000. Some are fortunate and have a friend or sister that will carry for them for free, and if they use donor embryos, they can avoid most of the IVF costs, too. That would be a very rare case.
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