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Postby Butterfly27 » Mon Nov 06, 2017 4:54 pm

Hello, everyone! :wink:
My name is Liana.
Someone said that there was nothing better in the world than to see a baby and to hear his/ her laugh. I totally agree with this quotation. That’s how my husband and I thought years ago. But now, after so many attempts, we can’t figure out what to do and how to go on living, since we are so depressed and frustrated. I even don’t remember the last time we had fun. We had parties every month; we invited our friends and lived happily. Once my husband and I decided to become parents, but we got disappointed very soon, since every time we tried, something went wrong. To be more specific, I had six miscarriages and there was no hope anymore to give birth to a baby. Every visit to my doctor became a tedious procedure. My doctor prescribed me so many medications. But every pregnancy ended with miscarriage. Every time some symptoms were developing, and we couldn’t do anything to solve this problem. It is essential to have good heath to carry and deliver a baby. To tell the truth, we didn’t even know the reason of miscarriages! We were always surrounded by our friends. We liked communicating and spending time together. But now we are concerned only about having a baby. Every day we try to enhance our heath, but, frankly speaking, I don’t have hope anymore. Yes, I gave up! The relationships between me and my husband are becoming worse. Sometimes, he gets angry at me, but then he understands that I am not the one to be blamed. This problem influences our life very seriously. After so many attempts, we decided to try surrogacy. I have to mention that we live in France, where surrogacy is totally forbidden. We are willing to do everything right, so that we can become legal parents of a baby. We started surfing the Internet. Therefore, we found out so much information about the surrogacy and cheered ourselves up. My husband and I were aimed to achieve a positive result. I mean, we needed to be sure that we would have a baby. And we started our trips to clinics, taking into consideration service, prices etc. We started with the USA. Clinics in the US were really expensive. That’s why we were ready to try Asian service, and we were so disappointed! When we first came to India, we couldn’t believe our eyes! At a guess, we noticed that there was so dirty. Moreover, sanitary conditions were awful! But there were a lot of intended parents who also were trying to use surrogacy. I understand them. We even had a thought to try this service, but then we decided that it’s better not to have a baby than to have an ill one. There are so many horrible stories about Indian service and ill children as well. I know that we have to be sure that everything is going to be all right, but I can’t. I can’t even tell anyone about our problem. I feel down in the mouth! This happens because I can only think about babies, about having one in our family. I know that everything will change if we have a baby. Right now, everything is getting on my nerves, I’m so confused! Girls, please help me to find out useful information about European clinics, their service. What have you tried and what have helped? Describe all pros and cons. We would be so grateful!
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Re: my story..

Postby Sandra2 » Thu Nov 23, 2017 6:28 pm

Hello dear. You are true and really appreciate your precious words. Nothing is more painful than living a life without a baby. Infertility is a curse in this world that most women are facing now. It is the dream of every woman to have the baby with whom she can live and share love. I was also suffering from infertility. I think you are here to chest off the pain and your story sounds similar to me. I was also terribly facing infertility problems in my life. But one day, one of my friends met me in a party where we discussed it in detail. With her help, I finally found the best solution and after this I got ready to change my life with great courage. Today I am blessed with a 4-month-old baby and living a wonderful and delightful life with my family members. That little suggestion of my friend changed my life forever and today I want to share the feeling with all the women who are here.
First of all, women should not give up and lose hope whenever she finds it is not possible to get fertile. Of course there are many ways to get pregnant and conceive a baby. Due to the imbalance of hormones, it happened. But with the help of advanced medical research tests, there are many possibilities to get pregnant. It is better to change the schedule and be aware about your health. You need to eat healthy foods and add minerals and vitamins, which is very beneficial for your health. Surely all women will be able to make their wish come true and live a happy life.
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Re: my story..

Postby Sandra2 » Thu Nov 23, 2017 6:33 pm

I’m wondering about women who have been married for a long time with no pregnancy and doesn’t give attention. There might be a problem with her fertility. There are statistics showing that if couples are married for a while with no pregnancy, there might be a problem with her or his fertility. So, You can’t be silent about your health. You should be in touch with a doctor to regularly follow up with your health. Infertility is not a simple problem, even if you don’t want children. It can affect your health and your work.
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Re: my story..

Postby diana001 » Wed Dec 20, 2017 6:52 am

Hi, Liana! Firstly, I'm so terribly sorry for what you've faced and hard times you're still having  I know how emotionally draining the process could be, but for us - it's emotional side wore than physical one, I should assume. We're currently passing DE IVF in surrogacyinfo. It was not the simplest choice for our family definitely. Dealing with the completely new way of treatment and moving overseas we were expecting the things worse than they actually turned out to be.
Well I cannot find the right words to describe how difficult it was for me to start realizing that I'll never have biologically related to me children.  I'd been just an emotional wreck as I felt defected, angry, frustrated, miserable - all kinds of feelings that cannot make the situation better. So it took me quite a long time to cope with it and stop blaming myself. (Thanks to my super supportive husband of course.) So after the 1st app conducted, all papers signed, the process went on pretty fast. We've chosen our donor in 1.3 weeks and the donor matching program completed in 2 weeks.
Also I remember the beginning of the treatment plan was uneasy as I have a huge phobia of needles. So I had my husband doing injections for first few days. Then again lovely ladies here advised wonderful tips I could do to make injections not so unbearable. Well, as every other couple we came to the clinic with a huge list of questions as for seems everything - lots as for the donor's requirements. We're in the program of 5 shots. One has been already done.. (I'm 38, DX - endo and PCOS, poor egg quality, DH is ok - both desperately want our life dream come true!!) Wish you all the best on this path. (Haven't mentioned the prices and package issues which are pretty attractive not to sound like add.) Be strong, keep positive and continue straggling - all babies deserve it
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Re: my story..

Postby Ghost » Wed Dec 20, 2017 6:49 pm

Avoid surrogacy unless you truly need it. Surrogacy is by far the most expensive route. Surrogacy also has potential legal nightmares.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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