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Postby innaK » Thu Dec 21, 2017 6:47 am

Hellow guys
I need some help from you guys. I am so confused right now. I don’t know what will be the best option in my case. I have been declared with infertility. It is because of some birth defect in me.
I got married last year. Now, I and my husband are thinking of having a baby. We can’t decide what will be the right option for us. Sometimes we think that we should go for surrogacy. But then we think that we should adopt a baby. Surrogacy is an expensive process. It’s useless to spend money on a process when the baby can’t share my genes. But then we think that the baby will share at least my husband’s genes. He will have some connection with us. Then we start considering adoption as a good option again. We are confused. We can’t decide between the two. We need help.
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Re: We need help

Postby Ghost » Thu Dec 21, 2017 5:58 pm

innaK wrote:I got married last year. Now, I and my husband are thinking of having a baby.


You previously posted that you lost a pregnancy late in the pregnancy.

Avoid surrogacy unless you absolutely need it. It is very expensive and can be a legal nightmare.
Avoid IVF and surrogacy in Ukraine. Ukrainian centers pay shills to post here under numerous sock accounts pretending to be patients in Ukraine. Centers using such deceptive advertising cannot be trusted and should be avoided.
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Re: We need help

Postby nora253 » Thu Jan 04, 2018 6:40 pm

hi, really a sad situation. But don't you worry, no need to adopt a child. you can have your own child. If not yours, at least from your husband side. You can choose the surrogacy with 100% results. I have heard about many surrogacy clinics, that are giving their services throughout the world. If you do not produce your own eggs, then choose a surrogate mother. Eggs are taken from surrogate mother, sperms from the male and are fertilized. Then fertilized embryo is placed into the surrogate mother. The surrogate mother then carries the baby till birth. And after birth that child becomes yours.
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Re: We need help

Postby Ghost » Thu Jan 04, 2018 9:37 pm

nora253 wrote: You can choose the surrogacy with 100% results...... If you do not produce your own eggs, then choose a surrogate mother.


1. There are no centers and no IVF options with 100% birth rates. None.
2. Using a surrogate does not solve an egg problem (unless you mean old fashioned surrogacy, which is an IUI cycle with a 10-20% success rate and loads of legal headaches). Surrogacy should be recommended only in cases where the intended parent cannot carry a pregnancy, such as uterine factor infertility. An egg donor can solve an egg problem.
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Re: We need help

Postby kierrajack » Sun Jan 07, 2018 10:02 am

Hey Innak, how are you? I think you should go for surrogacy. Because the baby will be yours genetically. I know a clinic in Ukraine which deals with the best surrogacy packages. On the other hand, adoption is also a beautiful way of loving a deserving child. Good luck. Take Care.
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Re: We need help

Postby Ghost » Sun Jan 07, 2018 6:10 pm

kierrajack wrote:Hey Innak, how are you? I think you should go for surrogacy. Because the baby will be yours genetically. I know a clinic in Ukraine which deals with the best surrogacy packages. On the other hand, adoption is also a beautiful way of loving a deserving child. Good luck. Take Care.


Ukraine should be avoided for ethical reasons. Surrogacy should be avoided unless absolutely necessary.

You are working un Sunday. Impressive.
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Re: We need help

Postby jaime » Thu Jan 11, 2018 6:23 am

Hi, innak! I think before deciding anything first think what you really want? If you want the baby to have your husband's genes then obviously surrogacy is the option. In the other case if these things do not matter to you then you can go for adoption. I was wondering if you have thought about IVF treatment. You can have your genes as well in that. First, decide what you want a baby or baby with your genes. All the best to you.
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Re: We need help

Postby voilet547 » Mon Jan 15, 2018 2:59 pm

hi. if it helps you make your mind uo, i can tell you about my own experience. i went for surrogacy after years of trying for a baby and failing. i t was a tough time, and eventually, i just stopped trying. i used a ukrainian clinic, and my experience was pretty great. i have two children through surrogacy now. the clinic is really state of the art, and they really take care of the couples they help. they also have egg donors, if that is your case. il attach a link for you, because i feel that in cases like these, your own personal research will comfort you more than m wods. and if i remember correctly, they offer different price packages. so check that out too. best wishes! (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbg ... xTYJhtR0rA)
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Re: We need help

Postby Ghost » Mon Jan 15, 2018 9:18 pm

Avoid Ukraine. Clinics there hire shills to post here pretending to be patients in order to deceive real patients into going to Ukraine for treatment. I would avoid any clinic that advertises so deceptively.
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Re: We need help

Postby simonafiat » Tue Jan 16, 2018 5:26 pm

Hi. Innak! I am so sorry to hear your story. Well you are partly right in thinking that if you go for surrogacy your child will have your husband’s gene. I am unaware of your genetic defect, but I would advise you to check with BioTexCom in Ukraine. They are very good Fertility clinic and I hope they will help you best. But according to my understanding if there is nothing wrong with your own eggs you can use your own eggs too for surrogacy.
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Re: We need help

Postby Ghost » Tue Jan 16, 2018 9:17 pm

simonafiat wrote:Hi. Innak! I am so sorry to hear your story. Well you are partly right in thinking that if you go for surrogacy your child will have your husband’s gene. I am unaware of your genetic defect, but I would advise you to check with BioTexCom in Ukraine. They are very good Fertility clinic and I hope they will help you best. But according to my understanding if there is nothing wrong with your own eggs you can use your own eggs too for surrogacy.


The above post is by one of the many fake sock accounts here posing as patients in Ukraine.

Avoid any clinics that advertise so deceptively.
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