My appointment went well I suppose. It was mostly informational, although it did include a vaginal ultrasound.
We have Dr. Whelan, and nurse coordinator Selina. I found both of them extremely personable, as well as knowledgable.
Don't know if I mentioned this before but, I previously had two IUIs with injectibles, a couple of years back at DIAMOND (NJ). The difference between these two facilities is like night and day. If I had started at REACH, I might be done with this journey all ready. DIAMOND was not a good experience, to say the least.
I gave DIAMOND ample opportunity to forward my records to REACH. And even confirmed that they had been sent. Unfortunately, they were not there. I would have preferred for Dr. Whelan to have that information before him.
The doctor noted a lot of immature follicles that is indicative of ovulatory dysfunction. However, he wants me to wait until March 1 to see if I begin my menstrual cycle on my own. Then, the fun (lab work) begins. If it doesn't come on its own by March 1 then of course, they can give me a script to bring it on.
We discussed egg donation. At my age, I could possibly conceive on my own but, there is a medical condition I would like to avoid passing on to any children.
REACH has an anonymous ed program. But, you can be subject to long waiting lists because they match donor and recipient by blood type, eye color, hair color, height, weight, and facial structure. I am ethnic minority and not the least bit interested in waiting that long. REACHalso works with two ed outside agencies but the fees are way above anything we could ever, afford.
What did surprise me is that even private egg donors are subject to the extensive screening process, which is regulated by the federal government. Our prospective known donor is willing and able to go through the process, we were just unaware of the process from a time aspect. We've waited all these years, I have no clue why I should suddenly feel like we should hurry along.
Dr. Whelan didn't discourage us from using a private donor but, he did mention that the anonymous donors are ready to go from the moment of selection.
As for the chicken pox vaccine, he said they'd retest me because sometimes immunity levels fluxuate and my immunities may have just been down on that particular day. So, we're still at I may or may not need the vaccine. But, it would be a 30 day wait before treatment could begin not the 90 our GP told us.
needs to schedule a semen analysis. He seemed thrilled
when he heard this.
Now, the hard part ... money. Dr. Whelan, of course, only spoke to us about money in general terms. I know we're looking at more money with an egg donor but, it would be more comforting to have hard figures. While DH
almost choked when he heard figures (I already had an idea of course, because of all of my reading online), he almost choked. But he didn't say no. He said we needed to talk more. That surprised, and comforted me.
I told DH
that if he said no, I wouldn't be angry. I'd be hurt, but only upset by our financial inability to proceed, not hurt by a common sense decision.
So, this is where we stand.