how many tries will it take?

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how many tries will it take?

Post by kim14 » Wed May 07, 2008 12:56 am

How many tries did it take for most of you ladies to get a BFP with IVF/ICSI. I am 33 and we have a male factor. 1st ICSI - BFN


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Post by Kery » Wed May 07, 2008 4:56 am

Hi ya
We also have male factor probs. it took me four goes at it.
Male factor
April isci - Cancelled
June isci - Failed
Oct iui - BFN
Apri iui - BFP!
DS 1 year
12 yrs

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Post by kellym » Wed May 07, 2008 12:19 pm

We were originally told we had male factor and should have no problem getting pregnant, after 9 attempts - the final one with the use of donor eggs - it worked. If I had to do it all over again I wouldn't have waited for repeated failures to start the testing on me.

I know we are an unusual case, but the additional tests that they did on me were not cumbersome nor invasive so I think it would have been worth it to do the tests at the beginning to get the whole picture.

Best of luck! Keep in mind though, that a failed first attempt is not unusual and I am sure your next try will work!!!
7 IVF cycles - 2 chemicals, 5 BFN
1 FET cycle - BFN
9th IVF cycle - BFP!! Twins born Sept 18/08
Trying again May 2010!!!

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Post by 2ndtimer » Wed May 07, 2008 1:07 pm

We also have the diagnosis male factor. I thought for sure we'd get pregnant the 1st time, but it took 2 IVF's, 2 FET's, then on the 3rd IVF I got pregnant. My best advice it to make sure your MD is very proactive with testing & changing up the protocal. Don't settle for "well, let's just try the same thing and hope it works this time."
Good luck!

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3rd IVF -BFP!!!

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Post by Ghost » Wed May 07, 2008 1:40 pm

In the United States, about 1 in 2 cycles is a BFP, and about 1 in 3 cycles results in a live birth. The average number to go through would therefore be about 2 for a BFP and 3 for a live birth.

Male factor usually has a good prognosis.
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Post by nicaliw » Wed May 07, 2008 1:43 pm

We have only male factor issues, too. We were told we'd be pregnant after 1 or 2 tries. Well, we got pregnant first time then real reason for that. Now Im pregnant with an FET but have had some signs of another miscarriage :cry: So, I guess there is no way to know. Its definitely an emotional rollercoaster....and thats putting it mildly. All the waiting and then when you get your BFP there's still a good chance of it not working out....but sooner or later it will usually work. I'm already at the point where Im wondering how many times I can go through the grief of getting a BFP then miscarrying.

Anyway, I digress. Bottom can take 2 or can predict for sure.
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Post by sharishu » Wed May 07, 2008 2:42 pm

Well, we don't have male factor- I'm an endo gal. BUT, we did do ICSI (the RE's in the center we went to do it often even when there's no male factor I think to ensure that there are embies in the final analysis, esp. since they only got 5 eggs from me). I got my BFP on the 2nd try, and am 26 weeks along. Lots of luck!
Damaged Tubes; 1st IVF- BFN; 2nd IVF-BFP, our precious son :); 3rd IVF stopped due to natural miracle BFP, then mc@8 wks.; 4th IVF: June '11- BFN :( Bring On IVF#4!


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how many tries will it take?

Post by angram » Wed May 07, 2008 9:26 pm

kellym - what sort of tests did they do on you that helped you decide to use donor eggs?
Me 38 - DH 34
IVF#2 - BFP 6/29


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Post by Dexter » Thu May 08, 2008 12:06 am

We didn't have male factor but were classified as unexplained IF. It took us 4 tries - 2 IVFs and 2 FETs. We got successful on the 2nd FET with twins. I know a lot of people with male factor that get pg pretty quickly, mostly 1st or 2nd try. Seems to be the best outcome esp with ICSI so I'd say plough on! It's a much different prognosis when it's ovarian demise or egg quality (or a combination of male & female factors), bit like stabbing in the dark waiting for the right egg and your number to come up.

I also have a friend that got success with ICSI on her first and 14th IVF attempt. She is 41 and was diagnosed with Down syn at her nuchal on her first attempt and lost the baby. 13 tries later and she's pg again - 14 weeks along now.

Keep your chin up and give it a few more goes if you can.

Good luck,

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Unexp IF - TTC 5years
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FET # 1April 07-BFN
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Post by brit1612 » Sun May 11, 2008 3:38 pm

we also have male factor inf. and we got a bfp on the second try, but then had a miscarriage. We will be starting our 3rd try in June. When will you be starting?
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Post by Anie » Mon May 12, 2008 5:07 pm

Hi. We have male factor as well.

1st ivf failed to fertilize
2nd icsi was a BFN
and now we will try again icsi in july....

hope is 3rd time luck for us :)
Anie :) Me 32, DH 34
1st IVF : Aug/07 - 6eggs but no fertilization :(
2nd ICSI: Oct/07 - test:22/Nov=BFN :(
3th ICSI: July/08; Testing:5th Sept-BFP :D


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Post by baylorbear33 » Mon May 12, 2008 6:14 pm

We too had male factor and are currently in the 2WW on our first IVF/ICSI cycle. While I cannot tell you yet how many tries it will take, I can tell you that we made the decision to use donor-sperm as back-up and it made a huge difference in the number of eggs that fertilized and ultimately were transferred and cryopreserved. I had 33 eggs that were at maturity and 20 of them fertilized, 11 made it to day 5, we transferred 2 and were able to freeze 3 additional. I will not lie, this presents a huge moral dilemma, etc. especially considering we had to make the decision to use one of each (one from my hubby and one from donor) for the transfer, but it did give us more options as a result of having the additional donor sperm. I hope this helps you a little bit.

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Post by riogirl71 » Tue May 13, 2008 3:08 am

I wanted to give you hope, we did ICSI and got a BFP on our first IVF. We only had male issues and I got tested throughly. We are now 18 weeks.

Good Luck!!!

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Post by alimoyni » Mon Jun 16, 2008 6:34 pm

what is the approx cost difference between a standard IVF cycle and one using frozen embros? Like 1/3 the cost?

Sad to see how many people get a BFP only to miscarry. Seems like the miscarry rate is higher than the average woman.

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Post by riogirl71 » Mon Jun 16, 2008 10:07 pm

I don't think the miscarriage rate is necessarily higher. Lots of women miscarry and think they are having a normal period, so those go unaccounted for. We know too much for the start and we pick up on the miscarriages and chemical pregnancies that would probably go undetected under non-ivf conditions.

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