I don't know if it is appropriate for me to join this group or not, but I do relate with all of you women. I am 41 and 34 weeks pregnant from my second IVF attempt.
It is very scary in our age group to be going through this. As you all know, we don't have the odds that the younger women do. Not to mention, if you are willing to explore other options, such as adoption, the age factor is also present there, so for us it was how long do we try before exploring other options. We had decided, after our second try, we would start adoption while concurrently trying IVF number 3. Thankfully, we did not need to do any of this, but it is a lot to think about. We are blessed to have some insurance coverage. I am so sorry to those who have to endure not only the stress of all of the IVF but the financial aspects as well.
I will give you a little history. First IVF attempt, we did a traditional Lupron supression cycle. I got six eggs, only four mature and only two fertilized. They both made it to day three, one 6 cell and one four = BFN. Second cycle, my RE wanted to use a flare protocol to try to get more eggs. I also tried acupuncture for this cycle (what could it hurt, right?) Well, we got six eggs, but all were mature and five fertilized. On day three, we had three 8 cell and two 7 cell. Because of my advanced age, the RE wanted to transfer four, so we transferred all but one 7 cell. That one would be watched to see if it made it to blast, and if so, frozen. Well, thank God, we got our miracle and now we are getting close to having her here with us. It was not easy, even after the BFP. My mother, who lived with DH and myself, and was my best friend passed away suddenly when I was 8 weeks and I was terrified I would lose my little angel. Thank God again, we made it through.
I want you all to know I will be reading your posts and pulling for you every step of the way. You are all incredible women, to be going through this at all, for as we all know, infertility is incredibly hard. Not only the wanting, wishing and praying, but the actual up and down of shots, ultrasounds, retrievals and transfers is just exhausting. I wish you all the best wishes and baby dust.
TTC 3 1/2 YEARS
ME - 41/ DH - 39
First IVF Jan '08: BFN / 2nd IVF: March '08 - BFP!
Katie born 12/4/08