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bdantonio
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Post by bdantonio » Thu Feb 05, 2009 1:45 pm

ny4thtry you are callng her mean cause she was happy about her ph but u are the one out of order for what u said
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" dont think Natasha's mom is very mentally healthy.. i feel very sprry for her children and future children... "

just she has 1 child does not mean she can not have another. I went through ivf for 6 years with 7 bfp and 5 losses i have 2 children from it.. i know of loss and happiness but u have no right to judge her as a mohter!!!!!

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Post by NY4thtry » Thu Feb 05, 2009 1:57 pm

BD..read all the posts carefull and what she wrote about me on the other thread.. i did not call her mean she called me mean..

and as for her BFP...in fact even though she had the insensitivty to post her good news on my thread right after my bad news i congratulated her as i would anyone..

and it is not about whether or not you have children i dont begrudge anyone that but you have to admit for those of us who have none it is a bit more pinful.. we have to face the horrible fact that we may NEVER be a mom..which is very painful.. no one may ever call us Mommy...

please be clear what i wrote was AFTER she attacked me not a reaction to her initial post ...i question the mental health if anyone whose initial reaction is to go on the attack.. if i had posted "on the wrong thread" as she claimed.. i would have apoloized immediately and felty AWFUL.. she did not .. her reaction was to attack me... so i stand by wht i said.. i would be happy to rethink it if she were to apologize
Me 43 dh 65
6 cycles 3 chemicals
13+ banking cycles. 2 failed transfers to Surro
12/9 transfer 2 hatching blasts to surro beta 12/ 15

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Post by bdantonio » Thu Feb 05, 2009 2:06 pm

i completely understand the possible never to be called mom. I was 19yrs old when i was told i was in premenapause and would have to do ivf. i lost 6 total children... i know pain but when u put negativity out there that what u will get back.. I am sorry that u have had so many failed ivf's, but u should be greatful that u can keep trying. Maybe you should look into a new re or something 6 failed ivf's maybe there is more that can be done i went 2 three before i was able to carry..

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Post by NY4thtry » Thu Feb 05, 2009 2:37 pm

BD..

i just want to be clear i have NEVER been negative on this board.. the negativity that Natashas mom got from me was in reaction to the negativity that SHE threw out.. i really believe you should not be critisizin me but her...

I have changed Re's twice believe me i have done ALOT if reserach

i really appreciate your thoughts and am alos sorry for what you have gon through.. my best to you
Me 43 dh 65
6 cycles 3 chemicals
13+ banking cycles. 2 failed transfers to Surro
12/9 transfer 2 hatching blasts to surro beta 12/ 15

bdantonio
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Post by bdantonio » Thu Feb 05, 2009 2:42 pm

have u thought of donor eggs

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Post by NY4thtry » Thu Feb 05, 2009 3:02 pm

not ready to go there yet... i really worry about genetics
Me 43 dh 65
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13+ banking cycles. 2 failed transfers to Surro
12/9 transfer 2 hatching blasts to surro beta 12/ 15

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Post by natashamom » Thu Feb 05, 2009 3:42 pm

First of,if you ;look better at my first repply,I did say I was sorry...

And as I mentioned,I was very tired and saw esperanza`s name and just thought Id` let her know,didnt see the other painful words of loss,also pls quit saying I didnt tell about the donor,it`s all over thr board,so before you gudge anyone,I sugest you open your eyes.

I had alost too and never was I so rude and jealous so pls stop this ***.

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Post by NY4thtry » Thu Feb 05, 2009 4:18 pm

Natasha Mom

YOU are the one that needs to cool it..

first of all I never addressed your issue of donor eggs..

and secon of all i am not jealous AT all....

despite whatever i have been through i have lways been happy and supportive of others success.. i find you rude lets just drop it
Me 43 dh 65
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12/9 transfer 2 hatching blasts to surro beta 12/ 15

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Post by Liam'sMommy » Thu Feb 05, 2009 4:36 pm

I have to admit that i am the one that brought up DE. I do stand by what i said on that because by not disclosing it when you post about your success it gives other women false hope. I can see 46.6 women seeing that then running to a RE to do ivf with their own eggs. Something that would be very expensive and painful when it failed.

I also think that we should let it go. This is a fairly small board. It is usually full of support. I have never seen any negative posting up until now. I think is just a hiccup of sorts and none of us what it to become a common place occurrence. So we should let it go.

NY, i am sorry that you are in a very bad place right now.

HUGS, Kelly
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Post by kerpupples » Thu Feb 05, 2009 5:06 pm

Natashamom! BDAntonio!

You two women are completely out of line.

This is NY4thTry's thread. She posted it because she wants and needs support. She just got a BFN. I know when I myself got BFNs it was hard enough reading about other BFPs on the common cycle threads. But to come here and post about it when she is clearly hurting? In-frickin-sensitive. Go post the great news on one of the other common threads!!!!!
Jeez, self-centered much? NY4thtry has has 6 unsuccessful attempts. Can you try to empathize and imagine what that's like?

NY4thtry, I'm so sorry you have had to deal with these ladies trying to gang up on you on your own thread. I think you have an amazing amount of strength and courage to keep going. Please don't let this selfishness get you down.
Amy
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3yo DD from FET
IVF PGD clinical trial, FET Jan 2012 Beta 1/14 447, Beta 1/16 1161 U/S 1/30 it's twins!
Graham and Audrey born 9/5/12. 37w4d, no NICU time!

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Post by natashamom » Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:29 pm

Wow,I see one can`t make any mistakes on here,
I already said thousands times,I posted on the wrong thread,is it so hard to get it?!!!

And again lyams,look at all my other threads,they all say it was donated embies,I never hided it nor will I have a reason to do so!!

NY4,again sorry for your loss,that`s all I can say for now.

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Post by Kas101 » Fri Feb 06, 2009 4:13 pm

I certainly dont want to be anyone who makes anything escalate any further so i will not say anything negative about anyone who has made comments i disagree with on this thread, but i was just browsing and after reading in total shock and disbelief the last couple of pages, i am compelled to reply....

I have become very close to NY4th on these boards - we have been on a couple of threads together and both did our last cycles on the OCT/NOV/DEC thread. As i post most days, on another thread with NY4th i did not 'join in' on this one, but liked to read it as she deserves all the support and love she gets.

Serously ladies, i can honestly say although i like everyone on the threads, there are a handful of ladies, maybe 5 or so that i genuinely really care about like they were my friends and NY4th is one of these ladies. She is always suportive of everyone, is encouraging, positive and genuinely pleased for everyone that gets a BFN. Like many of us, i have felt the pain, not only of infertility and continued negative HPT's but also the pain of a BFN after IVF and i have so much admiration of NY's strength to pick herself up, not get bitter and carry on. She is amazing...

Also, if you notice, she shares information on new techniques, clinics, medication and supplements on a regular basis. This is just to HELP OTHERS. In my last cycle i was low on cash and low on meds, she sent me 4 vials of menopur to help me as i am self pay and i was struggling. And she is self pay too!!! menopur is $65 a vial. That is the action of a very kind-hearted, person, who WANTS to see everyone get their BFP. I am so sorry that she has been attacked, it makes me so sad.

NY - you have many friends on here who care about you, please dont let one or two people drive you away.....

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Post by lynniecat » Sat Feb 07, 2009 6:30 am

NY

I have been away for a three weeks or so. I am so sorry this round was a bust, how awful. I was really thinking it was it for you this time! Have you considered the genetic testing of the embryos that Kelly is doing? Boy I hope the next time works for you! Man, this has been a really hard struggle and I know how heartbreaking it can be when you get the horrible news (AGAIN)!


As for the person (who I do not know) who posted about her BFP right after you horrible news....I would be upset too. I was surprised to see that there was not an immediate apology once she realized her mistake. I am sorry you had to see those negative words. I hope you stay on the board, do not let one person chase you out. You have lots of friends here who would never be insensitive like that. Once again, sorry to see that that ugliness went on. Its the first time I have seen something like that on any of our threads!

My thoughts are with you in this time of pain. I think those who have not experienced the dreaded BFN after IVF just do not know how horrible it can be.....
Me: 44 severely reduced reserve
DH: 44 perfect
IVF 1: Feb 08 -BFP twins (lost one at 7 weeks, one at 13 weeks) :-(
IVF 2: June 08 -BFN :-(
IVF 3: September 08 -BFN :-(
IVF 4: November 08 - Katherine Emma born 8/9/2009 :D

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Post by Sara30 » Sat Feb 07, 2009 3:25 pm

Hi NY

I am sorry to read about your BFN. You have amazing courage to keep on going, will keep on sending the positive vibes out to you as I think you said in an earlier post you may give it another try.

Take care of you and DH...........

xx
Finally I am a mummy, we are about to adopt our beautiful little girl xxxxx

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