March/April cycle buddies??

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trx0424
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Post by trx0424 » Wed May 06, 2009 9:46 pm

Michelle. I'm so sorry to hear about your BFN. Don't give up. just keep on praying..God will be providing evrything that your going to be needing on your next FET. you'll be in my prayers too.

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CT_Michele
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Post by CT_Michele » Thu May 07, 2009 3:22 am

I went to see RE today. He honestly said he does not know why I am not pregnant, he said I should be, but sometimes it just doesn't work and there is nothing to explain it. He suspects it was just one of those cases. He does want to evaluate my uterus though, just to rule it out. He said that will be an in office biopsy to look for inflammation. I am going back tomorrow for u/s and bw, and if those numbers look ok I will start bcp's. He said I will be on them for a few weeks, then a few weeks of lupron, and then some estradiol pills for a couple weeks, and then the frozen transfer. He said i will basically not be able to transfer for 8-10 weeks. We have 4 frosties, so the plan is to thaw 2 and transfer 2, but if for some reason one doesn't make the thaw, then we would thaw all four and transfer 3. I also asked about a discount for the FET, and that was a no go, but at least we have over a month to figure out the money part of it.

I am frustrated I have to wait that long, but it is all part of the process. I guess depending on how I respond to everything, I should be doing the FET in early to mid july. The money is difficult but we will figure it all out. I honestly feel this is the only thing worth going into debt for, I just hope we end up with another child and not just a whole pile of bills.

I did find out something interesting though. Our insurance coverage has run out, but I asked what if I get a job and have a different insurance companies. They said because of hippa laws the new company is not allowed to ask for previous records and therefore would pay for 2 more times. They also said that as a teacher, most of the school districts around here offer teachers lifetime unlimited infertility benefits, instead of the max of 2 cycles. So if these FET's don't work, that is huge incentive for me to go back to work.

Thanks again for all your support, I am still finding it hard to cope, but I know it will get easier, and I am just focused on what comes next now, I just hate the waiting game again.
Me- 28 DH- 33 Male Factor
1st IVF- 12/07- BFP! Ella Michele was born 8/26/8
2nd IVF- 04/09 - BFN
1st FET- 09/09 - Chemical
3rd IVF - 04/11 - Embies didn't make it to ET
4th IVF - Fall 2011??
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Post by babyluv123 » Thu May 07, 2009 8:08 am

Hey Ladies


its been weeks since I got my BFN but I am still 'lurking around' on the thread. I am totally lost as to what to do next. Should I take a break for couple of months or get into the 3rd cycle right away? Should I loose some weight and then try to concieve natrually or go see another RE at a different centre? :roll:

DH is very upset as he thought it would atleast work this time around. He says he needs a break as he is 'mentally frustrated'.
I M TOTALLY LOST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?

My insurance doesnt cover infertility and hence both my cycles were sponsored by my mom. She actually told me to go in for the 3rd one as well but dont know what to do?

Please advice buddies :)

CT_Michele: I can totally understand what you must be feeling right now but take a look at Ella. The wonderful miracle that you got. She atleast gave u the priviledge of becoming a 'mother'. Pray and be patient. I m sure things will work out.
27 yrs Right fallopian tube blocked, Poor egg quality
DH:28 Low Sperm motility
AMH: Very Low - Below 0.30
2008: 4 IUI cycles - negative
IVF:ICSI - 1st cycle - Febraury 09 - BFN
IVF:ICSI - 2nd cycle - April 09 - BFN

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Post by kline » Thu May 07, 2009 10:00 am

hi babyluv! it's nice to hear from you again.. though i know you have some concerns..you are not the only one.. i felt the sadness and frustration too... we are all the same.. due to recession my DH work was reduced to 3 days per week, we had 2 series of car accidents after our BFN, the other day he was stopped by garda for overtaking in a straight line.. sometime this week i saw him crying..

never say a thing about our IVF experience.. but it's evident his distracted in every way... supposedly today is our case conference with consultant.. he refused to attend...he is upset..

i booked a 4 weeks holiday away from everything.. i booked it yesterday and pay for fee.. his face lit and shone.. he is more happy man last night. i think we all ought to take a break off from IVF world for a while before pembarking another cycle.. indeed this experince is quiet exhausting! and once we come back.. will do the IVF dance again.

to all my BFN cycle buddies.. this may not be our time.. but i know our turn will come...

the best of luck and keep that positve, hopeful, cheerful feeling! make it contagious like swine flu as pandemic as the ivf-ers! harharhar!

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Post by estrellita » Thu May 07, 2009 6:12 pm

Michele Thanks for the good wishes :) and it is good to see your spirit is back and you are ready again. Best of lucks. :)
amfmbaby Sorry if you are not feeling optimistic :( Good Luck!!!
Babyluv Nice to see you back! And hope whatever you decide is the best! :wink:
Kline Sorry your DH is so sad. I guess that is part of the IVF experience. Good Luck and enjoy your time off. Time off is always good :)
AFM Yesterday the nurse called us and said they were able to freeze 3 embies, I expected more but nothing we can do :) Now just waiting and waiting... Went on Lunch to CVS and got 3 hpts :) I want to feel something, anything, but nothing :(
Me: 28, DH: 31

1st IVF 04/09 = BFN
3 frozen embies

08/09 = BFP (Natural)

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Post by Neffi211 » Thu May 07, 2009 6:15 pm

Well I am back from ER. Everything went well. They got 17 eggs, but I doubt they are all mature. So tomorrow we will find out our fert report. We decided to ICSI half of them so that we at least get some chance of fert since DH morphology is like none. So we will see. I am pretty sore, but not too bad. I am just taking Tylenol.
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Post by estrellita » Thu May 07, 2009 6:18 pm

Neffi That's great! relax, and try to rest :wink:
Me: 28, DH: 31

1st IVF 04/09 = BFN
3 frozen embies

08/09 = BFP (Natural)

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Post by dys24 » Thu May 07, 2009 7:44 pm

Hi Ladies!

Neffi211- congrats on 17 eggs. Hopefully most of them will be mature so you can get alot fertalized. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

estrellita- 3 frozen is still great! some women have none, so 3 embies can give 1 or 2 FETs if you ever needed one. GL on your HPT journey, I hope you will get your BFP soon!

kline- have fun on your vacation with your dh :D

babyluv123- I'm not sure what advice to give you. Its nice that your mom can give you $ for another cycle but if you are not totally ready for it than wait off. However if you feel like it, I would go for it. GL on whatever you decide.

CT_Michele- I'm glad you'r in better spirits and looking forward to your next cycle. I hope you will get your BFP soon!

amfmbaby- I hope your embies are doing good. when is your ET?


AFM going for my first u/s tomorrow. I'm a little anxious and excited... so we will see tomorrow how my baby(s) are doing.

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Post by trx0424 » Thu May 07, 2009 8:53 pm

Hi Ladies. Just received news from my RE. I'm officially BFP! I'm very thankful to God for giving me this blessing. Also, thank you ladies for your support and encouragement. The information the you're posting here has been very helpful to me. I was very anxious waiting for the result of my beta., cause I haven't feeling anything much that i'm pregnant. I just sometimes feel minor cramps, no spotting noted, mild breast tenderness, my breast looks a little bigger, and I didn't try any hpt, so I don't really know the result.

I'll be coming back to my RE's clinic on May 11 for my second beta and ultrasound. I hope and pray everything will be okay.

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Post by CT_Michele » Thu May 07, 2009 9:10 pm

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amfmbaby - stim start Apr 22, ER May 1?
faith 03 - ER May 4
Neffi211 - ER May 7, 17 eggs!

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Latinosunshine – ET Apr 3, Beta Apr 17
sportsmom - ET Apr 30, beta May 11
statsgoddess - ET May 3, beta May 13
estrellita - ET May 5, beta May 15

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milpagan - BCP start Mar 7? RE consult Mar 9, ER/ET early Apr
biancajb - Last bcp Mar 20, stim start Mar 25
hope2beamummy - IVF w/icsi April
EmilieNZ - ER around apr 27
caperez - Last bcp Apr 14, start stims Apr 24, ER around May 5
Wishing4Baby - 31 frozen embies! FET May/June
Beta Results
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babymex - BFP...a true miracle! :D
Sara30 - BFN :(
kimbob - BFN :(
lionoe - BFP! :D
Sisi1 - BFN :(
aims327 - BFP! :D :D Twins!
ianmichael3 - BFP! :D
tabatha1975 - BFP! :D
cymplicity27 - BFP! :D
sbr - BFN :( FET in May
Sari - BFP! :D
hopeful57 - BFP! :D
babyluv123 - BFN :(
dys24 - BFP! :D
josee1973 - BFN :(
Trying for another angel BFP! :D :D Twins!
melanie_100 - BFN :(
kline - BFN :(
wishfull27 (carolyn) - BFN :(
Waiting For 4 - BFN :(
Hjw – BFN :(
CT_Michele – BFN :( FET coming soon!
trx0424 - BFP! :D

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Me- 28 DH- 33 Male Factor
1st IVF- 12/07- BFP! Ella Michele was born 8/26/8
2nd IVF- 04/09 - BFN
1st FET- 09/09 - Chemical
3rd IVF - 04/11 - Embies didn't make it to ET
4th IVF - Fall 2011??
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Post by faith 03 » Thu May 07, 2009 10:25 pm

CT michelle.. I got my ER last monday and will go for my ET either tomorrow or on sat ...
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Post by estrellita » Fri May 08, 2009 3:19 pm

trx0424 Congratulations on your BFP!!!!! :D
Me: 28, DH: 31

1st IVF 04/09 = BFN
3 frozen embies

08/09 = BFP (Natural)

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Post by CT_Michele » Fri May 08, 2009 6:41 pm

faith- good luck at ET, let us know when it happens.

dys- so excited for your u/s today...can't wait to hear how many are in there!

trx- congrats on your bfp! What a nice mother's day gift

neffi- 17 eggs is awesome...did you get a fert report yet?

estrellita- hang in there...I know the 2ww is absolute torture, but beta will be here before you know it

kline- so good to hear from you. sounds like a holiday is a good idea. let us know when you are trying again

babyluv- I know it must be frustrating for the dh's too. My dh doesn't show much emotion, I know he is sad it didn't work, but I think he stays strong for me. I wish I had answers for you, but I honestly feel like all of the heartache in the ivf process will eventually be worth it.

nothing new for me...I got the ok for bcp's last night even though my blood pressure was high again. I told the office I had not been watching it b/c I was just too stressed the past couple weeks, but I will start monitoring it again now that I am back on bcp's. I will call the office monday to set up the uterine biopsy and I want to ask them about exact dates. I joined the june/july thread, but I will still be over here keeping the list and waiting to hear about the people left. Don't worry, I am not leaving everyone!

I guess I am looking forward to mother's day...it is my first official mothers day, and a little bitter sweet. I was hoping to celebrate it pregnant, but I will still enjoy it, I have waited so long for a "mothers day." We are going to brunch and I am sure dh will get me another charm for my pandoras bracelet he just got me for my b-day. This whole bfn experience has really put into perspective how lucky we truly were on the first try...and as bad as I want another, I will forever be grateful for the beautiful girl I have.
Me- 28 DH- 33 Male Factor
1st IVF- 12/07- BFP! Ella Michele was born 8/26/8
2nd IVF- 04/09 - BFN
1st FET- 09/09 - Chemical
3rd IVF - 04/11 - Embies didn't make it to ET
4th IVF - Fall 2011??
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Post by estrellita » Fri May 08, 2009 6:56 pm

Michele Is good to see you are ready to start all over, I wish you the best on your next cycle. Hope you have a wonderful "Mother's Day"
AFM I'm already going crazy :roll:
Me: 28, DH: 31

1st IVF 04/09 = BFN
3 frozen embies

08/09 = BFP (Natural)

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Post by Neffi211 » Fri May 08, 2009 8:17 pm

SO I HAVE GREAT NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!! I HAVE 6 EMBIES!!!!!!!! 6!!!!! AND 3 OF THEM ARE FROM REGULAR IVF NOT ICSI. THIS IS HUGE FOR US! I AM SOOOOO EXCITED. NOW I HAVE TO WAIT 4 MORE DAYS UNTIL I CAN HAVE SOME OF MY BABIES BACK! THE 3 THAT WERE NOT ICSIED SHOULD DO FINE(HOPEFULLY) AND WE'LL SEE ABOUT THE ONES THAT WERE ICSI, USUALLY DONT GROW WELL. RE WILL CALL TOMORROW WITH THEIR PROGRESS. ET IS SCHEDULED FOR TUESDAY!!!
Me 32 DH 31
DS 3rd try
8 failed cycles
No luck with adoption
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