firefly: SO SO SO SO happy for you! I want it to be me next time!!!!
Lou: We're in the same boat - really not ready to tell people about this. My husband and I have a pretty close group of friends - 4 couples including us. The first got pregnant in college, way before they wanted to, and it was a real struggle on their relationship. The second has a 14 month old, who is precious, but they will say that having that baby was the hardest thing their relationship will go through, almost ended it (one not ready to grow up and be a daddy). The 3rd almost got divorced this summer - wife had an affair, and the rest of us are still struggling to forgive her, but since her husband did, I think it's our responsibility to do so as well. They got back together in August, and WhAMMy! They're 8 weeks pregnant now.
My husband and I have been married for 4 years, and are completely committed to each other. We both volunteer with kids (husband has been a vol-basketball coach for 10 years, and I teach life skills classes to at risk youth). We are always the overnight babysitter of choice for our friends, because we both LOVE children. I just don't get it! It's not that I think we deserve it more than anyone else, but certainly not LESS!
My clinic doesn't close except for 2 weeks in the summer. I make sure to tell them every day I'm there how much I appreciate them, because holiday, Sunday morning, whenever, they are there if I need them to be. I haven't had my follow up appt yet, so the RE hasn't given me a percentage likelihood. Interesting fact though, my clinic seems to not have the same rating scale as everyone else. My embryo is a 3, on a 1-4 scale with 4 being the best (that's what the nurse told me; I'm going to check to make sure she wasn't mistaken bc nobody else seems to be on that scale). Anyhow, I'm going in to chat with a nurse today (my follow up appt with RE is Dec. 4) to see what exactly I need to do and ask questions. I'll see if they'll give me a percentage.
As far as your trip, have a BLAST! If you don't want to tell them, make up a reason you're taking the shots (vitamin deficiency or something). I decided it's not lying when you don't have a bad intention - you just aren't ready to tell!
DH: 32, Male Factor
4 Failed IUI
IVF #1 - BFN
FET #1 - BFP!!! DD born Sept 2010
IVF #2 - Chemical
Next: Work on improving DH and my fertility while saving up for next round. Why does something that we want so badly have to also be so expensive?