Miscarriage on Thanksgiving

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Neffi211
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Miscarriage on Thanksgiving

Post by Neffi211 » Thu Nov 26, 2009 11:18 pm

Well it looks like another m/c for me. Started bleeding at about 11am and it has been gushing with quarter size clots! I really dont have any hope and this was our last chance so it looks like this is the end of our IVF journey. The only hope left is that possibly I only miscarried one of two? I don't know if I would be bleeding so much even if it was that though. Although I am soooooo devastated, I am releived to know that I am done with all of this. It has been a trying time in my life and I am happy to say that I am at peace with moving on and saving money for adoption in the future. I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving....mine could have been better, but I am so thankful for the son I do have, he is my angel and I love him dearly.
Me 32 DH 31
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Post by turtle0619 » Thu Nov 26, 2009 11:27 pm

(((((((((((((((((((((((neffi))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
i am soooo sorry hun!! :cry: :cry:
there are no words, but you are right...you are blessed with jackson!
love him now and know that you and DH are in my prayers
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Post by fkm7783 » Fri Nov 27, 2009 3:51 am

So sorry for your loss. Hope you were able to enjoy some of thanksgiving day with your son. Take care.
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Post by Bubbles13 » Fri Nov 27, 2009 5:02 am

Neffi211, I'm so sorry for your loss and know that no words can help right now, but wanted to say I am amazed at your courage and positive outlook. This process can be so draining and hope that you find all the comfort you need to heal from your family, friends and the online support group here. You will be in my prayers.
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Post by 2010 » Fri Nov 27, 2009 9:59 am

Neffi211 - im so sorry but at the same time glad you are positive in this very difficult situation. please try and have a happy thanksgiving with your family...

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Post by lisa10 » Fri Nov 27, 2009 9:54 pm

Neffi Sorry is all I can say. I wish you luck in your future journey.
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Post by amysbabies » Fri Nov 27, 2009 11:11 pm

I'm sorry Neffie...please take care of yourself and take it easy. God has blessed you with a dear son, and adoption is a beautiful thing. The ability to love another's child as your own is not a gift everyone has ...and it's a blessing to have such a gift from God.
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Post by jaydentd » Mon Nov 30, 2009 12:39 am

Neffi- So sorry for your loss. God bless you and I'm praying for you and dh.
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Post by shelbyrn0214 » Mon Nov 30, 2009 12:32 pm

Neffi - I'm so sorry, Hun. :cry: When will you go back to RE to be checked out?
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Post by Neffi211 » Mon Nov 30, 2009 1:06 pm

I am going to have an u/s at 10:30 this morning. I know it will be bad news, but it will really hit me when I don't see anything on the screen. I had such a good feeling about this one.....maybe it will be a miracle!
Me 32 DH 31
DS 3rd try
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No luck with adoption
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Post by CT_Michele » Mon Nov 30, 2009 3:04 pm

Neffi- I am so sorry, my heart is breaking for you! I know how bad you wanted this and life just isn't fair sometimes. Send me a pm if you need to talk. And I feel the same way, if all I get is Ella, then I am the luckiest girl in the world, but that doesn't mean that we still can't hope for more. My thoughts and prayers are with you, dh and that beautiful little boy of yours. Hug him hard!
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Post by esperanza » Mon Nov 30, 2009 3:14 pm

Neffi, I'm so sorry my dear. Yes, be thankful for Jackson, but please also take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. Only we know how hard this journey is. Love and bear hugs.
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Post by Neffi211 » Mon Nov 30, 2009 5:02 pm

The u/s showed what they think may be a sac, but the image was blurry and she wasnt sure. They didnt seem optomistic, but I am waiting on HCG levels to confirm the m/c. Thanks for all the prayers. Who knows what we will do from here....
Me 32 DH 31
DS 3rd try
8 failed cycles
No luck with adoption
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Post by Neffi211 » Mon Nov 30, 2009 10:29 pm

HCG dropped.....I am sad....and having a drink right now! This IVF shit really takes a toll on you.....but I cant just give up....what to do????
Me 32 DH 31
DS 3rd try
8 failed cycles
No luck with adoption
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Post by to_have_fun08 » Tue Dec 01, 2009 12:50 am

Neffi - So sorry for your m/c. I know it sucks and there isn't anything we can do. I am at the same stage "What to do" there is only so much I can do and so much that we can afford. I just hate all of this and sick of it all. Give your little baby a big huge hug and hoping that you can figure out a plan on what to do next. Have you thought of donor embryos? I am wanting to do donor egg but it is so expensive. Donor embryo's would be a lot cheaper. What to do, what to do?

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