triple WOW! Congratulations! I bet you are still in shock! After all you have been through, what a blessing! Hope you are feeling well and take it easy!
Anything good on tv? how is your taking it easy week going? I hope you are getting tons of rest! I will send you that list when I find it
it is sometimes hard to find it with a doppler, don't worry too much, yes we IVFers are way more scared! Glad the RE is seeing you!
You are right, I need to see it as one step closer to another IVF! Thank you hun. Rub your belly and poke it gently and say grow little bean! I am praying for good results on Friday! There is always hope, stranger things have happened!
I might make someone upset with my opinions but I don't mean to offend anyone. I always wanted genetic screening. I did not want to do CVS or Amnio because after IVF, 1 in 100 or 1 in 200 risk of miscarriage was too much for me! So I did the nuchal and 1st blood test. I was 36 and keep in mind that because you are 36 they give you crappy odds (they might use 29), so nuchal was fine. The blood test came in as increased risk of downs and even upped my odds of having a down's baby. I was devastated and scared. My OB still did not want me to do an amnio. We waited for the second set of bloodwork and level II us and finally everything was great and they gave me minimal odds of a birth defect. Those first blood tests can be wrong a lot. I went to other boards for support and numerous girls had false positives for defects. I had scheduled an amnio for after my level II in case it was still looking bad but then cancelled. My cousin who is 42 and pregnant went straight to CVS, she is a doctor and her DH is an OB, she didn't want to risk defects. Now the big question is are you willing to have a baby with a birth defect? Some birth defects are painful for the baby and the baby does not survive more than a couple of terrible months. Some other defects they can live with and have a productive life. Are you willing to end your pregnancy? If you are not willing to end your pregnancy no matter what the tests show, then don't get tested. If you will consider terminating your pregnancy, then get tested. My sister in law is adopted. She has cerebral palsy and numerous other birth defects. Her parents were 18 when she was born and gave her up. My in laws adopted her and my DH had to spend his childhood caring for her. I see how hard everything is on the family. the numerous surgeries she had to go through and how hard every day is. I know that I could not go through the same thing or put my son in that position of losing his childhood to care for a disabled child if I could avoid it. I am sorry and I know many people will disagree with me and I commend you for not feeling the way I do. I am being bluntly honest that I would terminate a pregnancy if I found out my child had a serious birth deffect. My friend ended hers when the OB said her son would die in 2 months time since he had trissomy 16 (I forgot the number). Sorry for the long post but you asked for opinions, I won't give you advice, but tell you what I would do and it might not be the choice for everyone. But having been there with a close history of it in the family I have a little hands on experience with living with a disabled person. It is a very personal decision and I wish you the best!
AFM - Thank you for your kind words ladies!
I had a feeling in the back of my mind that I probably wouldn't get this lucky twice so I kind of expected this IVF not to work but of course I am still devastated. With that said I have very high hopes that my next cycle WILL work and I am very excited about it. I also didn't want to leave this board after my bad results because I feel like I might be able to contribute or help here and there. I know there are other girls here who are moms already and I think it helps to get that support when you are a first time pregnant IVF mom! Plus helping others is always a way to feel good
So you girls can't get rid of me that easily
hehehe! I am having such bad cramps and bleeding, nothing like an AF. I went for another beta today so please pray that it is very close to 0. Hope you are all having a good week, happy hump day!