Hello LEORIRA...first, I'm really, really sorry for your losses. It always breaks my heart to find out about parents loosing their precious ones as I know exactly what it feels like.
Last May I had a D&C, and I have to agree with what the two other ladies have said. I did not experience much physical pain, I was just a bit tender, came home and spent the rest of the day laying on the couch/bed, watching tv and letting dh pamper me. I do have a 1 year old who did not understand that mami needed to rest, so I was pretty much doing most of what I normally do the next day (of course, I did try to take it easy as much as I could and bring down a notch or two any physical activity, nothing major...but I was up and about); exactly a week later I was on an international flight (with two lay overs) alone with my one year old, and I was ok.
My first pregnancy also ended on miscarriage and I did not have a D&C at the time, I just waited for the baby to come out on its own (this second time I decided to have the D&C because of my travel plans), and I have to say that having the D&C in a way felt easier. I'm ok with my decision of waiting the first time around, but comparing I'm able to realize that physically I felt better this second time around, and there was barely any bleeding. The other thing about the D&C is that all the pregnancy symptoms automatically disappeared in about a day. I think one of the worst feelings after finding out the baby had died was putting up with all the fatigue, mood swings, and so on (it's ok to feel all of that if you know there is a thriving baby inside, but not when you know the baby is not alive anymore).
Does your work involve much physical activity? lifting? if not, I would just go and keep it low key after the D&C, but if it involves lifting, and such I would consider staying home longer.
And sweety, YOU WILL BE OK...I know it's easier said than done. As somebody who's also gone through a lot of physical and emotional pain, I can tell you that it will be ok. I agree with Arabsrcool, as someone who has been on both sides, it is ABSOLUTELY worth it...take good care of yourself, heal, and keep on moving. We're here for you. Lots of luv. Let us know how everything turns out.
me: 33 dh: 40
2 miscarriages (natural pregs. #1 Aug 2006, #2 May 2010)
IVF # 1 jan 08 BFN
FET #1 March 08 BFN
FET #2 July 08 BFP (DD born on April 2009)