I am so sorry that you are going through this and having to deal with all the stress. Has your OB put you on any precautions? There are differing opinions depending on who you consult with, but at minimum, most believe with a SCH (hematoma) you should be on pelvic rest (no sex, no orgasm) and drink lots of fluid to keep cramps and uterine irritability at bay. Some recommend bed rest, but others say it doesn't help.
The good news, from my research, is that most women with a SCH go on to complete their pregnancies and deliver healthy full-term babies.
For me, my experience was very scary and stressful for the majority of my pregnancy. I started bleeding soon after we heard our two little HB's at 7 weeks. I had a 'big' bleed with lots of red blood, and then brown bleeding for days. I bled off and on until I was almost 20 weeks. Most of that time it was brown blood, but I had a fair amount of it and had to wear pads day and night. For me, there was a clear correlation between my activity level and my bleeding. As a result, I was on strict bedrest after red bleeds (one time I bled so hard and so much I went to hospital in the night convinced I had m/c) and modified bedrest when I had brown bleeds. Lots of women do not do any bed rest with brown blood and do fine. This was my last shot at pregnancy and I wasn't taking any chances. I had to feel as though I had done everything possible. And, as I mentioned, for me--when I was more active I bled more so I felt better doing the bed rest.
I did push fluids and drank as much water as I could. I joined an online support group (thanks Leora for recommendation!) through BabyCenter dot com. It was mostly helpful to talk with other women going through the same thing, but it was also upsetting with other women freaking out and especially when someone had a loss. I was so worried that I was going to be next. May or may not be helpful for you.
Try to take it easy. No heavy lifting, no sex, and drink lots of water. Try to think positively and focus on the fact that most women have success.
I was also told that the amount of bleeding doesn't exactly correlate to the size of the hematoma--which is wierd--but seemed to be most women's experience on the other website. Some would have huge hematomas and hardly bleed at all and some would have small hematomas and bleed a ton.
Mine shrunk and shrunk and thinned out. Once you hit second trimester they worry about it causing placental abruption, but if your OB is watching you carefully they can make sure all is well there. My OB was the best. Whenever I had a red bleed they would do an u/s to reassure me. I was seen every 2 weeks throughout my pregnancy except towards the end when I was seen weekly and then more often (but that was because of twins and then pre-E).
Jen--hang in there. Do your best to stay positive and to take it easy the best that you are able. (((HUGS))) as you move through this.
OH! I also got a dopler for like $50. It was VERY reassuring to me to be able to find at least one HB--usually both. However, you do have to be careful not to get too stressed out over it if you get it as you are not always able to find the HB reliably even when all is ok.
I hope that some of this was helpful. These things are weird and unpredictable. It is soooo frustrating that not more is known about them or how to treat them. But you can get through it.
Best of luck with your pregnancy!!!
Me: 44, endo. & 1 tube due to rupture
DH 36 fine
IVF#1 double ectopic/severe OHSS 12/08
IUI#1, #2, and #3, 2010 BFN
IVF#4-2/11 HPT=BFP 11dpo; 13dpo=240! 15dpo=653, 20dpo=5522,3/29=u/s-1sac1yolk 4/4=2 HBs!