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1st ivf failure

Postby tony » Sun Aug 07, 2005 2:49 pm

:cry: ..hello all my namy is Tony and i'm from NY....just yesterday my wife and i got the negative rusult of the IVF....boy is like someone just died in the family,we're devastated....we ben tryng for 5 years now and the last 3 attempt was done via injection,and finally 2 months ago we decide to go for the ivf procedure....we were positive that this was going to work,but now i'm wandering if we will ever become parents...
so let see,doctors retrieved 14 eggs,with only 2 at the end survived,my only concern after sitting down at the orientation class was ho boy are we playng God here??so i've bin prayng day and night for a miracle,maybe
i need to pray more.........................................T.C 35
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Postby Sand » Sun Aug 07, 2005 3:15 pm

Hi Tony .... Welcome to the Site. I'm sorry you've had a -ve. Many of us know just how much it hurts and how crappy you'll be feeling. This site is a good place to talk through your feelings and experiences, amongst others who know just what you're going through.

It'll take time for the hurt to go away, but it will get easier. Many girls here have tried several cycles. Some conceive on the their 3rd/4th/5th/6th .... there's just no accounting for it.

If you want to do some reading, to understand more fully what's going on with your bodies, there's a book we recommend called "Fertility and Conception" by Zita West. It also includes a chapter on assisted conception, which is really useful.

I had more eggs fertilise on my second cycle, than my first. I'm convinced it's because I read the book and followed the tips (diet, lifestyle, supplements etc ..).

Make sure you take it easy for the next few days / weeks, and be kind to yourselves ... do something you enjoy ... things will improve.

Take care

Sandra x
Me 41 yrs old - dh 49 yrs old. ttc 110 yrs.
1st cycle (ICSI)....Mar 04 -ve.
2nd cycle (ICSI)....Aug 04 -ve.
3rd cycle FET........May 05 -ve.
4th cycle (ICSI) ... Feb 06 -ve
5th cycle FET ..... Feb/Mar 11
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Postby jag » Sun Aug 07, 2005 10:04 pm

Tony I am sorry to hear your news.

Re playing god - I always think that god, mother nature or whatever you may believe in, has given the doctors the knowledge to investigate IVF and to the knowledge to carry it out. If He didn't like it he wouldn't have given them the knowledge.

I hope you find knowledge and comfort from reading this site. Good luck for the future.

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Postby tony » Sun Aug 07, 2005 10:17 pm

well thanks guys.....my wife and i are really glad to have found this site,
we just hope that one way or the other we will become parents...so good luck to all of us...... :)
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Postby tony » Sun Aug 07, 2005 10:38 pm

ho yes ...Sandra thank you for the tip,im buying that book
me 35 dw 30
6 iui
2 ivf and 1 fet all negative
4th ivf... no heart beat d&e at the 8th week
5th ivf bfp....and 3 frozen ebryos!!!
2 boys !!!!!Anthony and Alessio
............CIAOBYE..........God Bless all of us
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