Phrases I never want to hear again!

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take a chill pill

Post by shafia » Mon Jan 18, 2010 11:38 am

For the insensitive ones reply them

"you just need to sleep and you get pregnant"

One which I heard was 'maybe your husband dosent love you enough'
for which I answered that ' I get all his love until I have a child' but I know when we will have a baby it will grow more'.


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insensitive comments

Post by Leogirl » Mon Jan 18, 2010 8:33 pm

Thank you thank you thank you!! DH and I have been struggling for 3 years, and it amazes me that people cannot take it seriously! We have heard countless times, "you just need to relax, it'll happen", "go drink some red wine, that's what happened for us", "everything happens for a reason", "maybe you're not ready for children"! and the list could go on and on and on! I finally decided we needed to tell more people about our struggles just so they would shut up about when/why we haven't had kids yet! Some are more sensitive now; others will just never get it! I'm glad others feel the same way, it's amazing how insensitive people can be!
Never pregnant
3 IUI's - :(
Next step ICSI
Currently waiting & continue to try naturally while saving $$ for above

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Re: Phrases I never want to hear again!

Post by expectant-mom » Sun Jun 27, 2010 1:31 am

I've seen it mentioned here before but "you should just relax and it'll come" was one of the most infuriating statements I heard during my tough times trying to cope w/ infertility. I know people meant well, but it was really hurtful for them to assume I was just too wound-up or something to be a good mother. The best thing you can do in these situations is just smile, nod, and ignore the person ;) Once you can let stuff roll off your back you'll be in a much better place mentally.
My husband and I were TTC for over 2 years until I found this guide on herbal remedies. It sorted out the B.S. from the real info. I followed this thing to the letter, and a year after I read the book, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl!

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Re: Phrases I never want to hear again!

Post by babyforme » Mon Nov 22, 2010 7:40 pm

i got a good one from my aunt the other day:

"if it can't happen naturally then you need to accept the hand that god dealt you" and you should think about adoption..

"and that I can always visit her lovely she proceeded to gloat about how beautiful they are etc..ugh!!!

or from a guy's prespective "you need to $%%#@ alot! ..nice..

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Re: Phrases I never want to hear again!

Post by debbiefrip » Tue Feb 08, 2011 4:53 pm

From a friend: "Don't worry about it, it(infertility) will go away in time."

It just goes to show how many people don't take infertility seriously. I was pretty red in the face after I heard this one, I didn't have a snappy come back, I just walked out of the room before someone got hurt.
2 IVF's and still waiting with Alert 1 and my dh.

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Re: Phrases I never want to hear again!

Post by jannypan » Sat Apr 02, 2011 6:36 am

I feel like one day I am going to punch someone in their stupid face when they give their little "advice!!!"

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Re: Phrases I never want to hear again!

Post by Sunshine1576 » Wed May 04, 2011 4:08 am

Cannot stand it when people say "It will happen", I mean how do they really know it's going to happen? Are they going to send the stork our way or something. Seriously those people kill me...I know they are only trying to give us hope but we only feel letdown when it doesn't happen!
Married 13 yrs
36, unexplained
1 natural pg- m/c at 7 wks
(2010-2012) 4 IUIs, 2 IVFs
FET cycle 2/25/2013
Beta: 95, 390, 1361
3/27 HR 140
4/10 HR 184
4/17 Released from RE
6/21 Found out we are having a BOY!

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