Discussion forum for those particularly interested in infertility.
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Cahbi- I know how you feel. We just had our first baby after going through 6 cycles. (male factor infertility) I'm sure that your DH feels inadequite and it is a sensitive subject. Maybe you should seek counseling, I think they even have infertility counseling. If he is not willing to go with you, it would benefit you to go by yourself also. Good luck with everything.
After 7 attempts (2 negatives/3 miscarriages), we have TWO miracle boys!! If you would like to hear our story, please visit http://www.ivfsuccessstories.info
. Never give up, it can happen for you!!
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If you have positive attitude in the life the success is always yours. To gain something never complain of what you don't have. May be something better or best is waiting for you and the time has not come for its delivery to you. There are a number of things that may underlie your unexplained infertility. Through patience and careful testing it may be possible to attribute your infertility to one of these underlying factors. Fertility treatment can then proceed based on the diagnosis. To name the few Abnormal Fallopian Tubes, Abnormal Eggs, Luteinized Uncultured Follicle (LUF) Syndrome, Abnormal Luteal Phase, Immune Problems, Infection, Weak Sperm.
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Hi, I feel exactly what you're describing. You're not alone. Infertility is a very difficult thing to go through, especially when its unexplained as no one can give you answers. I've been diagnosed with the same, trying for 3 years and now entering our 4th.
The relationship with your husband is crucial when going through a hard and traumatic life experience. It's easier said than done but you need to keep trying to get close to him and not lose vision of the bond and love which if lost, you'll be left with no basis to start a happy family life. Be strong and be thankful for all the blessings you already have. I have been going crazy too. I tried ivf and miscarried, I really feel that stress was the main reason to blame for this.
Feel free to visit my new blog randomgirltalk.com I get on there and express myself on different issues. Anyone going through similar experiences is welcome to ask me questions and post comments. I'll do my best to help. Support is very important. Whatever you do don't give up! Good luck
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I have cried and cried and cried after reading your post as it is word for word exactly my situation right now. Words cannot explain how intensely I can feel your pain as we are rocking on the same boat. I have also been ttc for 4 years now with one miscarriage at 6 weeks when we first started to try. I fell pregnant within the month of trying but was unfortunate to have lost the baby. This severely broke me at the time but we carried on trying and till this date no success. My husband has no issues however after a lot of testing and retesting my doctor diagnosed me with PCOS a couple of months ago, as I was having very irregular periods or no periods at all for upto 7-8 months at a time. This news has broken and shattered me completely again as I have near enough given up hope of ever having a baby.
Everytime I hear news of someone or the other having had a baby I show the smile on my face where as in the inside it is ripping me into a thousand pieces. I cry myself to sleep every night at the moment and my husband refuses to understand what I'm feeling he thinks that by ignoring me issues will be solved. I feel like I am dying a little bit everyday to a point where I just want to end it all completely and put a stop to all this suffering. I wouldn't wish even my enemy to go through the pain of infertility it completely consumes you and puts a huge strain on yourself as well as others around you. My whole family has never had any infertility problems so I do not know what my God is punishing me for. I just don't know what else or how else to say or explain my feelings anymore. But I do sincerely and from the deepest depths of my heart wish you all the best and hope upon hope The Lord relieves you from all this suffering and grants you with your little bundle of joy. Thoughts and prayers will always be with you and anyone in the same situation. Lots of love
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dixie_chop wrote:You are not alone! I think the worst part is not having people around you to talk to that truelly understand. That is what makes this board so helpful. Me and my DH have been trying for almost 4 years as well and also have unexplained infertility. We did a few cylces of medications with IUI and timed intercoarse with no results. I was so afraid of the next step (being IVF) that we took a year off. I think I was in a little shock that we would have to go to that level. I always thought that the medications would work. Anyway, after a year break, we started IVF and were successful on our first attempt. We are now 7 weeks pregnant. I know how scary the "next step" is, but honestly, I wish we hadn't taken that year off. The IVF experience was great for us and went by so fast. So talk with your DH, and if you both want this, go for it!
We have been trying for about 4 years now ourselves and still no results. We would go for IVF if it didn't cost 10 grand, which we don't have. We are still childless. Really, really sux major big time.
I can't say I feel you because I have two cute babies. But I'm here to share with you a viable option if you cannot afford the "10 grand" IVF procedure. Have you heard about medical tourism? Please read about it here http://www.mexicosurrogacy.com.mx/mexic
... -families/ and let me know what you think.
All the best!
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yes indeed ivf costs much, and its price is one of reason of undergoing ivf abroad. European clinics offer great service, affordable prices (can compare
), high success rates, short waiting list, etc. If someone considers ivf abroad to save at least 1/3 of money, I recommend to look at international boards of fertilityfriends co uk or babycentre co uk with comments and reviews.
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How old are you? It is so heartbreaking to read your massage, I was in the same situation, but it worked good for me, because I like to travel and just packed my bags and went abroad to start new life and make my way, good that my husband was with me through this period. I am in my fertility program now and have a cycle and fertilization in the end of June, if you need IVF or more, you can use this place for good service perfect-surrogacy.com, but you have to be open minded for traveling and trust. They do IVF also egg donation without surrogacy, just not sure what you need from your post, but anyway, lot of love an d good luck!
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I also need help in this regard. I am also TTCing for 3 years. I also tried IVF. But at the end of every cycle I got disappointed. I got married at the age of 25. Now I am 37 years old. At that time my career was on peak. So I do not want to avoid it. I stopped planning for the baby. Now I want a baby. For that I am doing all this. I also gained some weight to become pregnant. But nothing happened.