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Postby kattty06 » Mon Jan 30, 2017 11:51 pm

Hi everyone! My name is Kaitlin, 36 yo. I've got pregnant in 2008 and everything seemed perfect. My husband and I had been ttc for a couple of years. My pregnancy was a miracle and blessing. We were so happy… But terrible thing happened. It was 27th week. Son of our neighbors pushed me into the stomach and placental abruption occurred. He was bullying another girl, who was younger then him and I just wanted to protect her. Our loss greatly influenced us mentally. We attended psychologist. He helped a bit, but still it's so hard to survive this and unbearable feeling inside… We still can't recover from shock.

Unfortunately that wasn't the end of our suffering. We went for surrogacy in Mexico. I wish we never went there! We put all our hope in it. And of course we paid so much money. Though that clinic had pretty good reviews and doctors seemed to be professionals, our procedure failed. Our surrogate mother lost our baby on 28th week. Idk, maybe we are cursed? Maybe we just not supposed to have children? It happened so because of doctor's negligence. That clinic was closed last year. No one will suffer because of them again. Then we decided to go to India for surrogacy. We spent all our money for Mexican clinic. That's why we started to save money for another procedure. But India suddenly was closed for foreigners!

It seems to me like someone's bad joke! We can't afford to have surrogacy in USA. Their prices are too high for our abilities. Girls, which clinic is better to address? Maybe you had surrogacy and can advise some good place to go? I really need your help! I'm so tired of failures. I still hope that we'll have chance to have a normal and happy family.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby TayloRSS » Tue Jan 31, 2017 5:58 pm

I'm so sorry about your losses. Your story made me cry. Life can be really unfair! Honey, I'm glad to see that you don't give up! I'm sure you'll get what you want. We should always fight for our dreams and goals no matter what. I also can't carry a baby by myself. I was born without a uterus. There is no chance for me to get pregnant and feel my baby pushing into my stomach. Still I'm grateful there are places and people who can help us with our problem. At the same time this is really hard to find good agency or clinic. There are so many scammers, who want to become rich, using poor people like us. There are even women, who pretend they want to be surrogates and then they get money and disappear. Unfortunately our family faced such woman. Three years ago my dh and I decided to find sm by ourselves. We thought the procedure will be cheaper in this way. We met with her and discussed everything. She seemed so kind and lovely person. After our first payment she was gone. She didn't answer our phone calls or mails. It was so hard to get back to search of another place to go. I was seeing deception and dirty tricks everywhere.

After our experience we decided not to contact agencies and especially search sm by ourselves. We were looking for reliable clinic with professional doctors and high rate of successful treatments. I think you did the same and bumped into this Mexican clinic… I'm so sorry about your experience there. We decided to concentrate mostly on Europe. As India was closed, we were choosing between Russia and Ukraine. Ultimately we chose Ukrainian clinic. Reviews were mostly positive and this clinic has high success rates. Though we had some doubts about their medicine, we decided to go there and check everything. Our concerns faded away when we talk to our doctor and program coordinator. We saw fashionable design of the clinic and modern equipment. And the most important we saw so many couples there! People all over the world came to this clinic for surrogacy and de ivf programs. We have no regrets! We are so lucky we went straight to this clinic. Our daughter Kristine was born in May last year. We celebrated her first birthday 2 weeks ago. Dear, I wish you all the best! I hope you'll become mother very soon! You really deserve this after everything you've gone through! If you have any questions, I would love to answer all of them!
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby kattty06 » Tue Jan 31, 2017 7:42 pm

I appreciate your support. I'm so sorry about your experience with that woman. Such people have no conscience. There are so many girls who really want to help. They propose their help on forums and the do it with pure heart. Because of such women like this one we just can't believe them. I'm happy for you and your successful procedure. My congratulations to your little girl! I understand that it was hard for you not too look for falls in each clinic you were finding. I have same situation and I see negative aspects everywhere. I hope you will give me some information.

I'm so tired of failures and misfortunes. The only thing I want is to become a mother. Do I ask too much? I just don’t know what to do and where to go... I want to stop this depression, want to start living, want to have a happy family and the most important – want to have children! I hope this one will be last one and successful. May I ask why didn't you choose Russia? I think there are also many clinics and lower prices. What is the name of the clinic you used? What services and prices does this clinic offer? Mexican clinic pulled a lot of money from us. We hope to find clinic with affordable price.

Was there a possibility to pay in parts? I'm little bit afraid to give all money right away... I think that clinic may slow down if it gets all money. Staff receives what they want and they don't harry with the process. I've read about such cases. We really don't want to waste time. I understand they can't clap and surrogate mother would appear immediately. I just don't want to wait for months and years in expectation of miracle.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby TayloRSS » Tue Jan 31, 2017 8:25 pm

You're welcome hun and thanks for congrats! Don't be sad. I know it's hard, but try to stay positive! Our mood is also very important in this situation. I'm sure this journey will be your last one and successful! You deserve this and you will get it. Maybe you're right about Russia. There are probably many clinics and prices are also much lower than in US or Greece. But its legislation is not very inclined for infertile couples. They have a law which gives all rights for child to surrogate mother. So she can leave your baby to herself if she wants to. We didn't want to risk, so chose Ukraine, which doesn't have this law.

We used the clinic, which is called BioTexCom. I should say that neither our program coordinator, nor our doctor made us to wait for too long. When we contacted the clinic for the first time, response was fast, answers to our questions were clear and we got all info we needed. In 2.5 months after our first visit our program coordinator contacted us and told us that they found surrogate mother for us.

The service was on a good level. Even some small details were considered. Despite we were in foreign and unknown country, we felt comfortable and didn’t worry that we’ll be lost or couldn’t find what we need. We were met by taxi driver. Then taxi was carrying us across the city. We didn't have to find the clinic by ourselves! We also had a translator so there were no misunderstandings at all. That girl translated everything for us and also answered all our questions. We stayed at nice apartment with all needed facilities. Btw, there are photos of housing, which the clinic proposes on their website. We had no problems with food supply or communication. Thanks to smartphones with Ukrainian numbers we could easily talk to our program coordinator. Speaking about price the clinic has packages. You can choose the one which suits you the most. We chose vip for 49 900 euros. I remember there were also packages for 30 000 euros and 40 000 euros.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby kattty06 » Tue Jan 31, 2017 8:56 pm

Thank you for kind words! I’m so grateful you’re helping me to clarify everything. I didn’t know about Russian law. Sounds really weird! Absolutely strange woman may simply leave your child. How it’s even possible? Baby is not even genetically related with her! I’m happy to hear Ukraine doesn’t have this law. I’m surprised the clinic found surrogate mother for you in such short period of time. I thought this process takes not less than 6-12 months. Where their surrogate moms live? Did you take your surrogate mother to live with you? As I know all of them should have children to become surrogate mothers. I don’t know if it’s possible and moral to take them away from their families. At the same time, I can’t even imagine being hundreds miles away from your baby during almost a year!

How much did you pay for those services, which clinic provided you with? Maybe it will be cheaper to find translator and housing by yourself. The only thing searching will be pretty hard. Language barrier complicates it. Did you pay this 49 900 euros at once? What’s the difference between those packages? Were there problems with documents for your babies? I have absolutely no idea how to arrange all this in Ukraine. I guess some documents for child to leave the country will be needed. How to make everything right? I need to clarify one issue which concerns me the most. Is it safe to go there at this moment? We all know about their war. I’ve seen so many horrible videos and reports from the news. Innocent people die there, whole cities turn into ruins. There are so many homeless and poor people, who became so because of this war. I pray for those people, I hope that situation there will change. But I should think first about safety of my family.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby TayloRSS » Tue Jan 31, 2017 9:57 pm

I completely agree that surrogate mothers should live with their families. It's hard to be thousands miles away from your baby during 9 months. But we should also think about those women, who help us to become parents. They care about our baby, they carry it for us. They make a great thing! So we should consider their needs and desires too. They will nervous less and be calm surrounded by relatives in their native home. Our program coordinator was providing us with all info about surrogate mother and our daughter at least once per month. Speaking about translator, taxi and taxi driver, accommodation, food and smartphones. All these services are already included into packages! You won't need to look for all that by yourself. We didn't pay some extra charges and we were never asked to pay some other fees. So the only amount we spent was that sum set in our contract. We chose package called VIP. It costed 49 900 euros and the sum was divided into 5 rates. 10 000 euros we paid after signing contract. 9 900 euros – during second visit and before the fertilization. 10 000 euros - on twelve weeks of the gestation of our sm. 10 000 euros – after the birth of our girl. And final 10 000 euros we paid after receiving all documents for our daughter.

Vip is more comfortable I should say. Needed blood tests were made by the coming nurse domiciliary. We didn't have to stay in lines and wait for our turn. As I've mentioned there were a lot of couples. Also the clinic provided us with all stuff needed for new born babies. Also we were provided with 24/7 phone consultation of the pediatrician. By the way she spoke English very well! Also we asked our pediatrician to come check our girl so we had no need to go to the clinic. She was crying and we thought maybe something was wrong. So the doctor came, checked her and gave us some advices. Also there was such service in vip package as babysitter from 9 am till 6 pm. In standard package, babysitter comes for only 4 hours/day. We needed to do all arrangements with documents, payments, tickets and so on. So 4 hours was not enough for us. So we didn't have to rush. We had time to overthink everything carefully. And also our surrogate mother has already had a positive surrogacy experience. That's why we've chosen this package.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby TayloRSS » Tue Jan 31, 2017 9:57 pm

Speaking about documents you have nothing to worry about. The clinic helped us with them too. I also had no idea where to go and how to organize everything right. They provided us with assistance in the Ukrainian civil registry office. We've got the child’s birth certificate there. And of course they helped us in getting a travel passes for our daughter. You can set your worries about war aside! We were in Kiev in 2015 last time. We were nervous too! We didn't know what picture we’ll see after we leave our plane. Especially after watching some videos our panic was huge! But I assure you it’s one of the most peaceful and friendly cities in the world. It's absolutely safe in Kiev. The hostilities take place in east part of Ukraine. So you have nothing to concern about. The only thing you should think about is your future baby.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby kattty06 » Tue Jan 31, 2017 10:37 pm

Thank you so much for all this info! It's really hard to find good clinic nowadays. There are so many clinics, but not all of them have professional doctors. I've experienced failed surrogacy procedure. I really don't want this to repeat again. Also the fact that there are so many scammers makes the search even harder. Their amount grows with each year. You never know for sure whom you speak with. Even looking for surrogate mother by your own isn't a good idea nowadays. I'm happy I found this forum. Now I know what to consider and where to move. I have a strong feeling this time I'll make it. So much nerves and efforts were spent. I appreciate your help! I wish all of us all the best. I hope we'll have new member in our family very soon.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby EmmaK » Thu Mar 23, 2017 3:16 pm

Dear Kaitlin,

I'm so sorry for your loss, and hope you re on your way to recovery. Me and my husband couldn't afford surrogacy in US so we turned to Ukraine where the prices were much much lower. We went though a surrogacy program at Inversono IVF. As we had our own frozen embryos in USA we had to transport them to Ukraine, and the clinic did a great job with that. We went to the clinic ahead of time to speak to the potential surrogates and to see the clinic and the staff. We were very happy with everything :) :) Right now our baby girl is 6 months old and we are finally enjoying being parents!!! As we had very good experience with our surrogacy clinic, I would want the same for you. You can check it out
http://intersono-ivf.com/treatments/fer ... /surrogacy
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby AvaJae » Wed Sep 20, 2017 3:04 pm

Surrogacy is really expensive in abroad. We cannot afford an expensive packages. Also, Our privacy is on stake. I am a famous player. I do not want to compromise on my privacy. I go married when I was just 25 years old. That time was peak of my career. So I proceed the career. Now I have also put some weight for getting pregnant. But nothing positive is happening. What should I do now? Please tell me a clinic which is best in keeping my privacy. Any guideline?
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby Ressia » Mon Oct 02, 2017 3:14 am

Hello, dear! I would like to suggest you that you will go to Ukraine. The country has affordable clinics which provide the same service cheaper than in US.
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Re: Surrogacy Abroad

Postby Anna-WWW » Fri Oct 13, 2017 7:59 pm

Hello, dear. I was crying reading your story. What a hard life you have. You definitely need help. You know, surrogacy is a great idea. My friend’s daughter was born by the surrogate. She is absolutely healthy and beautiful girl. I often visit them and enjoy spending time with her. As for me, this is 100% natural and safe way to give birth. It doesn’t matter who gave birth to your baby. You will become parents and it is the most important.
There are a lot of countries, which offer surrogacy legally. USA is one of the most expensive countries. I recommend you to go to Europe. For example Ukraine. That’s where my friend’s daughter was born. The reproduction center was called BioTexCom and I know that the prices there are affordable.
You don’t have to look for the surrogate. Your doctor will do it for you. The only thing you will have to do is to go through different examination. If everything is fine and the embryo is transferred, you just have to wait. You will receive a call from your doctor with the latest news. There’s a huge chance that the surrogate will get pregnant after the first transfer. If it happened, congratulations. You are about to become parents in 9 months. You will be allowed to visit your surrogate. But don’t forget to sign an agreement. It will help you to protect yourself and your future child.
I think you should keep trying again and again. This is really a great option for your couple. I wish you good luck, dear.
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