Stephanie- i understand how you feel about your shower. try not to get too worked up but to add a few games to be safe and some food might make you feel a little better. i cant believe she waited 2 days before the party to tell you she's on a budget and cant go all out. i definitely think she should have told you so others can help this is special for you more than she may think. I guess people forget what you went thru to have a baby and it means the world to you. not everyone can afford or try to have another pregnancy so yes i'd treat it as it were your one and only shower. im sorry to hear that now you have to put work into your own party and your pregnant. parties are stressful to get ready in a time limit and to top it off last minute.
I just had a discussion with my sister. my cousin is pregnant and due in oct. on 2nd baby and my sister is pregnant due in dec. on her 3rd baby. so i told my sister a month ago i'll probably have my shower in nov. becausei dont want to in dec because of xmas and jan. is too last minute because we havent bought anything and are waiting on the shower to see what we get so theres no doubles. so a long story short. my sister called me up saying she's planning on doing her shower in nov. too i told her well i dont know yet the date im doing mine so she kinds got mad and said well i just wont have one. i told her do what she wants. then she came over a few days ago and mentioned it again. i told her do hers in oct she says my cousin i thinking of doing hers in oct.i dunno what to tell her cuz im not changing my mind. its just funny beacuse no one mentioned a shower until i said i was having one. this is our first baby. my cousin and sister already had one so now its my turn. im not backing off of my date. my sister didnt have one for her 2nd one but now she wants one for her 3rd. i dunno. i think she's just being weird about it now. she told me she bought everything so she's just going to do a little one to get everyone together. im thinking she wants some attention too so thats what its more about. so yesterday she calls me and asks if we can do ours together i said no cuz this is our first child she had one already. if this were our 2nd or something no biggie but this is my 1st baby and probably only who knows. remind you all no one in my family or my husbands know we had problems on our own and went thru ivf. so they dont know how much more special this is for us. did you all tell your family? do you think im wrong about not changing my date and having my shower on my own? I talked to my mom about it and she agreed. they had one already. i didnt plan on getting pregnant at the same time as two others in my family we're all two months apart from eachother. i just dont want to hurt their feelings but i think she should know i wouldnt want to share my special day.
thanks for listening to me vent






































