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Postby bdantonio » Fri Jan 09, 2009 8:52 pm

Like i said before people may get mad but here goes nothing. I know alot of people would not of made the same decision i did. However i feel i have to expain why i made that decision. I was told at age 19 i would never concieve naturally. I could of excepted this and went on with life but i chose to do ivf. I chose to help nature out. I felt who was i now to tell mother nature they screwed up and gave me a less then perfect child and that i didnt want it. I asked for a child not a perfect child. I was lucky and i played the dice and she was perfect but i was okay with whatever she would have been. I loved the child i was carrying. I could feel her in me and after loosing 3 children i felt prior i had 2nd trimester losses i could not go and then take my own child. I could not take the life that i was givin. I looked at it this way i had lost 3 perfectly healthy babies for no reason known and if my fate in life was to carry to term a down syndrom baby that was my fate and i live by what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger. I also believe that when you grow through fertility you have to believe that cause their are plenty of days you want to give up and lay down.
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Postby lynniecat » Sat Jan 10, 2009 7:00 am

I think a child with down syndrome is still a perfectly lovable child that will be the light of your life. It will also be more difficult to raise her or her. Only you know if you have that strength! Either way, do not let others pressure you. If you can not do it, then try again, if you think you can, you will never regret it.
Me: 44 severely reduced reserve
DH: 44 perfect
IVF 1: Feb 08 -BFP twins (lost one at 7 weeks, one at 13 weeks) :-(
IVF 2: June 08 -BFN :-(
IVF 3: September 08 -BFN :-(
IVF 4: November 08 - Katherine Emma born 8/9/2009 :D
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Postby geckogirl » Sat Jan 10, 2009 2:19 pm

I am so sorry that you are at this crossroad. You need to trust yourself to make the decision that will be the best for you and DH. Don't let people judge you or tell you what you "should" do because it is your decision. My thoughts are with you.
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Postby alreadyblessed » Sun Jan 11, 2009 12:53 am

babies galore~ What a terrible situation you and DH are in. My heart goes out to the both of you, and as many posts before mine have said, no matter what you decide, it is a very personal decision. I know for myself that if I were faced with the situation, I would try to find special education groups that deal with downs so that I could see for myself what raising a downs child would be like. I would talk to parents of children with downs and try to understand their hardships, and also learn of their love. You may find it refreshing, or you may find that it is something that you just could not do. Please know that many will be praying for you and your DH and I hope that the heaviness that is on your hearts will be lifted no matter what you decide. God bless. Good luck!
1st IVF~DD 2004
2nd IVF~ 2008 BFP
Thank you Lord for this blessing
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