Can join you? I’ve been eavesdropping since Tburks tipped my off to your little group. The title of this thread feels so appropriate since I definitely feel nervous.
In a nutshell: I had an FET 1/30. According to online calculators, my due date should be 10/21/09. I am actually thrilled about the date because it’s the day after my birthday and the day we lost our last pregnancy in 2008. It feels like this is meant to be.
The nervousness is mostly due to past experience. We lost our previous pregnancies at 10w, 7w and 14 w. I want to be unconditionally happy, but I am so scared we won’t make it all the way. The loss at 14w was due to ancephaly, which is a rare (1 in 1000) nueral tube defect. Now that we’ve had it once, the chance for reoccurrence rises to 3-5%. We already had a little scare with the betas this time, so I’m really, really, really hoping it’ll be smooth sailing here on out.
On 2/24, we had 1st u/s and saw 1 sac, yoke, fetal pole, (2.8mm) and hb (100 bpm). Our next u/s will be tomorrow.
So far, we’ve only told a very, small select group (our parents, my siblings, my best friend and my boss). We’ll try to keep it from everyone else until we’re feeling super secure or I’m so big it can’t be hidden. It was very painful to have to share the loss last time with all the people who knew, so I really want to avoid that possibility this time. As much as people wanted to be supportive, I found most of them really didn’t know how and it was very awkward.
I’m still fitting into my pants so far, so I’m not ready for maternity wear yet. But, I saw some of your earlier references to it. I thought I’d mention that Target, JC Penny’s and Baby Gap all carry a small selection. I have a few pieces I picked up last fall. It’s pretty shocking the first time you put on those expanding belly pants.
I won’t always be so long winded. Just catching up!
Good luck to you all.
My OB doesn’t schedule until 8-10 weeks, but your records belong to you and you should have complete access to them whenever you want.
08 IVF: lost twins 1 MC/1 anencephaly
1/30/09 FET: BFP!
9/21/09 She's here! born 5 weeks early, 4lb. 6 oz., 17-1/2 in.