Just need some sympathy - and hope if there is any

Announcement of pregnancy and birth following assisted reproductive treatment.
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Just need some sympathy - and hope if there is any

Post by medusa » Wed Aug 12, 2009 12:32 am

I never posted to this site before b/c I didn't want to jinx myself. But now it doesn't matter.

My background - 40 years old, 3 miscarriages before this pregnancy, a wonderful 3 1/2 year old son. We got pregnant on the 2nd round of IVF with twins. We lost twin A at 8 weeks and I am now 15 weeks. Everything seemed fine with the baby but then I got Fifth's Disease which isn't a big deal unless you're pregnant. It can cause miscarriage and fetal death in about 4% of pregnant women. Yesterday we had an ultrasound which showed swelling around the baby's heart and in the neck and anemia - all bad symptoms of the disease. If the baby lives another 3 weeks, they can give the baby a blood transfusion - very risky. Our OB told us to go home and "prepare for the worst." We go in next week for another ultrasound to see if the baby will still be alive.

I'm in shock. I can't believe this is happening. Only 2% of women have 2 or more miscarriages - I'm in the 2%. After a good heartbeat is seen, the risk of miscarriage is only 5% - I was in that 5%. Only .25% of pregnant women get fifth's disease - I'm in that .25%. And only 4% miscarry. Why can't I catch a break? Is there any hope? Am I not meant to have another baby? Do I give up now?

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Post by siouxsie » Wed Aug 12, 2009 1:19 am

I just wanted to let you know that you do have my empathy. There are many of us out there who, like you, have suffered greatly on this journey. I know it’s hard, but try not to get too wrapped up in the numbers. We lost a baby to ancephely, which has even lower odds than what you present - .001% The chance given to us for IVF success was only 20% to start with.

At the moment, you still have hope so don’t give up. Love your son. You’ll be able to face each decision point when you need to.

Wishing you the best.
07 MC
08 IVF: lost twins 1 MC/1 anencephaly
1/30/09 FET: BFP!
9/21/09 She's here! born 5 weeks early, 4lb. 6 oz., 17-1/2 in.

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Post by Arabsrcool » Wed Aug 12, 2009 1:12 pm

I am sitting here blinking back the tears after reading your post. This journey is so hard and it seems that you have had alot of trials and heartache. You have my sympathy and my prayers.

I say there is still hope that you will have another child. It may not be this baby, but you did get pg, so there is always hope. Don't give up on this baby, it may surprise you. I agree with sioxisie, Love your son, hold him close and pray.

My thoughts are with you

Miscarriage @12 weeks, 2000(natural)
1st DD born 3/21/05 (IUI)(3 IUI's)
2nd DD born 11/17/08 (1st IVF)
FET: 1/21/10, BFN.
FET:2/25/10, BFP. 1st beta # 459; 2nd beta #1106
June 2010, late miscarriage at 17 weeks, baby's heart just stopped beating.

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Post by brenda3 » Sat Aug 15, 2009 9:20 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I to have suffered many (5) miscarriages and 2 losses of twins with each one of my IVF pregnancies. I know how hard it is to have a loss of a baby.

I will keep you in my thoughts and try to keep a PMA things just might work out.
Me - 39 unexplained DH 50 Vas '88 (TESA)
1st IVF 3/06- DD born 11/06
Cycle 2-5 - BFN
6th FET- 12/8/08- BFP
IT's A GIRL!!!!!!!


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Post by Marina_A » Sun Aug 23, 2009 8:42 pm

So sorry :cry:
IVF#1-BFP,but lost our angel at 16 weeks
IVF#3-BFP,started w/tiplets,lost one at 7 weeks,lost a second at 15 weeks
Praying for a miracle baby to stay with us!
It's a girl!


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