Afternoon ladies, I'm finally back home for a while, so determined to start being a more regular poster on this thread!
katie - yay for lots of movement yesterday! Isn't it an incredible feeling? And it just gets stronger and better from here on in... Is it strong enough that DH can feel it yet? My DH tried for a good 2 weeks before he happened to have his hand on my stomach at the right moment - my tip would be to try it after you've eaten something and are sitting down (or lying in bed in the morning after a cup of tea), as the sugar rush always seems to get Zorba going! Are you getting closer to narrowing down a shortlist of names? I've always liked Emily, I wonder what you'll end up going with! (Btw, our friends have just called their little girl Ava, and I think it's a beautiful name, but I guess you won't want to use that if that's what the puppy was originally called!) I think DH and I need to start thinking about names as well at some point... p.s. I see that I'm currently at the top of the due dates list, now that we haven't heard from Rachel for a while. All my cycle threads I've been pretty much the last to go, and now I'm going to be the first (well, that's if some of the twin Mummies don't beat me to it!) - scary!!
gi - has your little girl got going now as well? I bet those tiny thumps were it starting, won't be long now! Btw, I'm always so happy when I see your ticker and see those weeks clocking up for you - 18 weeks already, almost halfway there!
claudia - yay for another Mummy starting to feel movements! Have you felt Flick again much this week? Are you still getting stretching pains? I had lots of those, some of them around week 16 were actually pretty painful and in the middle of my abdomen rather than down the sides - worrying, but all totally normal.
Karen - I'm so happy for you that the cerclage seems not just to have halted the thinning but actually improved things as well. How are you coping with the limited activity which has been imposed? Will that continue right up to term?
Steph - thank goodness your headaches are letting up, that must be such a relief. I LOVE your baby names, Ethan Jay and Angelina Lily, so cute!! Hahaha, so it's not just me then who comes up with various nicknames for people/animals which sometimes have nothing to do with their given names??? Thankfully, each of our dogs (although not always the brightest!) has worked out that their name at any given time is one of a small collection of things! I have to say, I'm slightly jealous of you not really putting on much weight - I'm 13kg up already (that's a little over 2 stone or 28 pounds, I think) and I've still got 12 weeks to go! No matter what I eat, Zorba is piling the pounds on me at a rate of knots! Mind you, my appetite went haywire at about 24 weeks and I feel I could eat a horse most days... Speaking of which, mmmmm ... lunchtime soon...
babyluv - more cute names, I love the name Juliet Helen. Do you know what flavour the other baby is yet? And another one starting to feel movement from your little ones, how exciting!
Angela - are you still suffering in the heat? Hopefully the summer won't be too bad for you - you should get some energy back soon and the second trimester should be a little easier than the first, at least it was for me. Sounds as if your weaning off Xanax has gone well, save for your nausea and headaches, poor thing. I know what you mean about juggling lots of appointments with work and other commitments, but these things do tend to just work themselves out, so try not to stress over it. The main thing is that they are going to keep a close eye on your baby, and that's the most important thing. Is your local baby boom still continuing? How funny that so many people are announcing their news and due around you.
lou - honey, I'm so pleased you had a good holiday, you and DH really needed that time together. It's good news that there are no obvious problems from the hysteroscopy, did you get the genetic testing results back yet? I have absolutely everything crossed tightly for you in your July cycle...
Finally, Steph, katie and Karen - I just wanted to say thank you for raising an issue with Helene which had been bothering me as well. Perhaps if it was a general feeling across the thread, we all should have said something before, but it definitely needed bringing up. I wish I'd been around at the time, as I would have chimed in with my own support of what you guys were saying. I think the issue of what people in some cultures might do if the baby is the 'wrong' sex is the reason why a lot of public hospitals in this country won't tell you the sex, and I'm pretty sure that there isn't a clinic in this country which would do genetic testing just to work out which sex the embryos are before transferring the 'preferred' ones (the only exception I am aware of is where there is a serious genetic condition which is gender specific). While some of us might have a slight preference about whether we would like a baby girl or baby boy, I'm sure that without exception we would all say that all we actually really, really want is a healthy baby (or babies). I just cannot get my head around the concept of having baby after baby until you grow your family into the 'right' group of genders, particularly when you already have 7 kids. Plus, how must the poor ladies who've suffered such terrible tragedies on this board feel when they read about Helene's plans for a 'designer family'??? Sorry, rant over!
AFM, all is OK with Zorba. I had my 28 week midwife appointment this morning (only 12 weeks to go - eeek!!!) - my stomach measures at exactly 28 weeks, my blood pressure is still on the low side but the same as before, and we heard a nice healthy heartbeat. (katie - next time you're updating the list, I have my next midwife appointment at 32 weeks on 14th July.) We're off to a department store on Friday to look at buggies/car seats/nursery furniture and then I think we need to make some decisions - some things take 8 weeks to deliver so we don't want the baby to be here before the stuff arrives!!
As far as things with my father go, as you know we got the biopsy results last Friday. Essentially, the news was at the better end of the range. It is definitely pancreatic cancer and definitely inoperable - the oncology doctor was surprised at how fit (relatively speaking) Dad still feels (apparently most people by his stage of the cancer have lost a lot of weight, can't eat, and feel horribly fatigued), and said because of that, he might have 12 months or possibly even 18. We were dreading him being given a timeframe of a couple of months, so whilst it is obviously still bad news, it's not the worst that it might have been. The doctor suggested that chemotherapy might also give him a little extra time, and has invited him to take part in a trial for a new pancreatic cancer 'vaccine' (which seems like the wrong word for something which is essentially intended to be curative rather than preventative). So Mum & Dad went off on Monday on a planned holiday for a week in Scotland and the intention is that Dad will start both chemo and the vaccine trial at the end of this month. In a strange way, I feel pretty positive about it all, probably because I was preparing myself for the prognosis to be much worse.
That's all from me for now (apologies for writing a novel!) - speak to you all soon. Take care,
Me 35, DH 41
TTC 4+ years
4 IUI's, BFN
#1 IVF, 04/2009, BFN
#2 FET, 07/2009, no transfer, frosties failed to thaw
#3 IVF, 12/2009, +ve HPT New Years Day!
GEORGE THOMAS ALEXANDER born 18th September 2010, 9lbs 4.5oz. Our beautiful boy.