pep23 - from what I understand, 9 weeks is a little early to be finding a heartbeat with a Doppler, and I'm sure everything is just fine in there. However, I think your OB's attitude is disgraceful and if he was going to try and listen, then he should have been prepared to give you a quick u/s to set your mind at rest if he couldn't find the heartbeat with the Doppler.
If I were you, I would call up the OB's office and insist that they give you an u/s right now (explaining that you have spent the entire time since your appointment panicking that something has gone wrong), and if that doesn't work I would call up your RE, explain what happened and ask if they will give you a quick u/s just to find the heartbeat and reassure you that your little bean is doing just great. I would also think very seriously about changing your OB! I mean, do you want that kind of unhelpful attitude for the result of your pregnancy? As I said, I'm sure everything is going perfectly, but us IVF'ers all worry about everything anyway (even when stupid OB's haven't given us a reason to) and 3 weeks is a long time for you to be sitting and getting anxious!
Let us know how you get on. Hang in there!
Me 35, DH 41
TTC 4+ years
4 IUI's, BFN
#1 IVF, 04/2009, BFN
#2 FET, 07/2009, no transfer, frosties failed to thaw
#3 IVF, 12/2009, +ve HPT New Years Day!
GEORGE THOMAS ALEXANDER born 18th September 2010, 9lbs 4.5oz. Our beautiful boy.