The worst day of my life

Announcement of pregnancy and birth following assisted reproductive treatment.
Tracey S
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The worst day of my life

Post by Tracey S » Tue Sep 09, 2003 10:58 am

I am so sorry to tell you the baby was dead when they scanned us - lots of fluid in the abdomen.<br>Clearly Ian and are I devestated and I have to go in to labour tomorrow so feel like shit as you can imagine.<br>I can't imagine the way to pick up all the pieces but hope that you all continue where I left off and go on to have the baby or babies you all so deserve and I did too.<br>I am sure you will understand that I need time away from the site to got through labour and post mortems and cremations etc.<br>Love to you all<br>Tracey<br>xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!


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Post by Jo Locker » Tue Sep 09, 2003 10:59 am

Oh Tracey. All my love to you darling, and to Ian. <br>Praying for you. I can't believe it. You are wonderful and life is so terrible.<br><br>Jo.XXX

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Post by GB » Tue Sep 09, 2003 11:24 am

Trace and Ian<br>I just wanted to reinterate my sentiments left on the other board...<br>Just know that my thaughts and prayers are with you both!<br>Wishing you only best of luck and good news.<br>Take care.<br>Love<br>Gila.

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Post by Becky28 » Tue Sep 09, 2003 11:27 am

Tracey and Ian,<br>I'm so so sorry, what a cruel and pointless thing to happen. You are such a fantstic presence on this board and I can't bear it that something so awful could happen to you. I'll be thinking of you all day tomorrow and in the days and weeks to come. With love Beck xxx

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Post by Nina1 » Tue Sep 09, 2003 11:39 am

Tracey and Ian,<br><br>I can't take this in. I'm so, so sorry. I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you both.<br><br>With love,<br>Nina

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Post by Lizzy7 » Tue Sep 09, 2003 11:51 am

Tracey and Ian,<br><br>Can't even begin to have the words.........just so choked for you<br>Cruel, cruel, cruel<br><br>Thinking about you always, <br>Lizzy xxx

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Post by Helen S » Tue Sep 09, 2003 12:01 pm

Tracey<br><br>I am so sorry that I did not get home in time to post the message you wanted me to before you did it. So sorry that you had to come on here and go through that process.<br><br>You know that David and I are thinking of you and Ian and the enormous mental and emotional anguish you will have to go through and have already been through.<br><br>Please know that we are here for you, whenever you feel you are able to talk. Anytime at all day or night please get in touch if you want to. You are so always here for everyone and we are here for you.<br><br>Look after each other as best you can and just take each day at a time.<br><br>With all our love, you are constantly in our thoughts.<br><br>Helen and David<br>xxxxxx<br><br>

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Post by Sarah30 » Tue Sep 09, 2003 12:10 pm

Oh Tracey, I'm so so sorry. I really don't know what else to say. I'm thinking of you and Ian, my heart goes out to you both.<br><br>Stay strong for each other and get through this awful moment.<br><br>My love to you both<br><br>Sarah x x

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Post by SallyP » Tue Sep 09, 2003 1:10 pm

Dear Tracey,<br>I really can't believe it. I've sat here, trying to think of what to say, but there's nothing. It's so sad and so cruel - you are such a lovely person and deserved this baby so much - it just seems so unfair. I'm so sorry there's nothing I can say to make things better for you. I wish I could do something to take away your pain. You have always been such a positive presence on this board - chivvying us all along, making us laugh, dispensing encouragement and words of daftness or wisdom, and remembering little things about everyone - you are a lovely, special person and really do not deserve to be unhappy and for something so devastatingly horrible and tragic to happen to you and your dh. I'm sending you prayers, love and peace and am thinking of you.<br>lots of love to you, your dh and your angel in heaven, Sally xxxx
Me - severe endo, DH - poor sperm. First IVF ICSI Nov 02 neg. Second IVF/ICSI May 03 Positive.
Miracle baby Jay born on 27th January 04

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Post by Jules R » Tue Sep 09, 2003 1:16 pm

Oh Tracey, I am so very sorry to hear such sad news. Our thoughts are with you and Ian.<br><br>You have been such a pillar of strength and encouragement to everyone on here. Take all of the time you need to grieve and if you need us, we'll be here for you.<br><br>Jules<br><br>
TTC 5 years. Daniel & Charlotte born 22.03.02, 1st ICSI treatment. TTC for 4 further years. 2nd ICSI cycle abandoned, 3rd cycle BFN. Looking forward to being a happy family of 4.

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Post by fiona_lk » Tue Sep 09, 2003 1:29 pm

Dear Tracey,<br><br>It is so hard to know what to say as words cannot express the sadness at reading your post - I will be thinking of you and Ian as you go through the next very difficult few weeks.<br><br>Love Fiona xxx
Me:36 Dh:46, ttc 5+yrs, M/F (96% abnormal).
13 unsuccessful Txs From 2000 [4xClomid (NHS), 7xIUI(d)s & ICSI#1 (MFS), ICSI#2 (MFS) Oct 02 (ectopic)] Natural pg Jan 03 m/c 5.5wks
ICSI#3 (CARE) +ve boy (Xander) EDD 21/03/04 - so excited!!!!!!

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Post by KirstyC » Tue Sep 09, 2003 1:37 pm

Oh Tracey,<br>I am crying as I am typing this. I can't believe this has happened.<br>My thoughts and prayers are with you and Ian at this difficult time.<br>You have always shown such strength. I hope that you can continue to be strong and get through this. If you need us, we are here for you,<br>Love<br>Kirsty<br>xx
TTC for 7 yrs (have severe endo and pcos and hubby has v low sperm) until became pg after ICSI cycle last feb. Now am the lucky mother of perfect little boy called Joshua born last october.

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Post by emma0908 » Tue Sep 09, 2003 1:40 pm

Tracey and Ian<br><br>I am so so sorry to hear your devastating news! I don't know what to say. Its so cruel and I can't begin to understand why this has happend to some one who has so much to other a baby and everyone else too. My heart and love goes out to you both.<br><br>Love <br>Emma<br>x

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Post by Helen G » Tue Sep 09, 2003 3:13 pm

My dearest Tracey<br><br>I can only begin to imagine how awful you must be feeling right now. I feel sick with the thought of what you've had to go through.<br><br>I am so desperately sorry for you and Ian. Take care of each other and if there's anything I can do please let me know.<br><br>My thoughts are with you.<br><br>LOL Helen xx

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Post by ogr1 » Tue Sep 09, 2003 3:47 pm

we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!

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