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Announcement of pregnancy and birth following assisted reproductive treatment.
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Post by Dolly » Thu Dec 11, 2003 1:54 pm

I had my first scan this morning and unfortunately there was nothing there. They could see some blood in the cervix so they are suspecting that I have miscarried - but as I had an ectopic this time last year - they can't rule that out.<br><br>I have had a blood test (finally) and I have to go in for another scan on Saturday.<br><br>I feel so numb. This is my 3rd pregnancy in 12 months - why couldn't it have worked out for us this time.<br><br>I am going to curl up in bed and feel sorry for myself for a while. <br><br>Dolly
Me 38 / DH 40. TTC 8 yrs
3 natural pg - 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage
2nd IVF +ve but miscarried
1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th IVF all -ve
Moved to the ARGC.
Just started for the 7th time (!) Feb/March 2006.


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Post by Jo Locker » Thu Dec 11, 2003 2:36 pm

Dolly I'm so sorry - here is a hug for you, what else can anyone say, its just so awful for you. Love to you and of course your DH. Jo.XX

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Post by Dagny » Thu Dec 11, 2003 4:25 pm

Dear Dolly<br><br>Oh no, I am so so sorry. I don't really know what to say except my thoughts are with you and your DH. Be together and take care of each other. You really do not deserve this heart ache.<br><br>Love and hugs from Dagny x <br><br>[Edited by Dagny on 11-Dec-03 08:26]
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle

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Post by beckym » Thu Dec 11, 2003 4:52 pm

I am so sorry Dolly. I know that it is the thing that each of us dreads on our scans and I know what the feeling is like when they search and can't find anything. In our case we were lucky enough to have had a happier ending. One thing I would say is that it is quite difficult to pick the sac up at this stage especially if they are in a strange position and it could just be that on Saturday they will see it. The other thing is that you have been able to get pregnant three times in the last 12 months so the problem is not the initial fertilization and embedding but the longer-term maintenance. Have you had any antibody tests done on your blood? I have something in my blood which slows the blood supply to the uterus so am on two heparin injections a day plus aspirin. Think Di is similar to me. May be worth talking to your doctor about this when you have had a chance to grieve. Again, am so, so sorry. all my love to you and dh. beckym xxx

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Post by Nick » Thu Dec 11, 2003 6:31 pm

Oh Dolly,<br><br>I am so so sorry. You poor thing, I really feel for you. What can I say - simply lost for words.<br><br>Do take care of yourself,<br>Nicky
1st IVF -ve. 2nd IVF abandoned 3rd IVF +ve but m/c at 8 wks. 4th IVF 1 embie - not looking good.5th IVF Short Protocol - more eggs er.. 5 actually - but -ve AGAIN. What now? Me 39 DDH 48. Unexplained

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Post by bubblymichelle » Thu Dec 11, 2003 9:26 pm

Dolly,<br><br>My thoughts are with you at this sad time, no-one can say or do anything to make you feel any better. I send you lots of hugs and just to say that when you feel ready we are all here for you to support you through this hard time.<br><br>Luv<br>Shell.xx

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Post by Tracey S » Fri Dec 12, 2003 7:51 am

Dolly<br><br>I am so sorry - don't know what else to say..... it is a dread every time and I now hate scans - have a mortal fear of them and have mine christmas eve. I hope this turns out but I am sure you know better than me. Perhaps in time they can push ahead with some post-implantations investigations and I hope they find the answer for you to find your dream<br>Love<br>Tracey<br>xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!

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Post by Amanda A » Fri Dec 12, 2003 9:21 am

Dolly,<br>I am so sorry. Nobody deserves this once let alone 3 times, it's so unfair.<br><br>I am praying that things look worse than they actually are at the moment and that Sat brings better news, that can happen.<br><br>I know that you will not be thinking about this now but have your clinic ever suggested testing you for killer cells? <br><br>Take Care Dolly,<br>Lots of love Rach XX<br>

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Post by Becky28 » Fri Dec 12, 2003 9:25 am

Dolly,<br>I'm so sorry to read your news. I feel really sad for you - it just doesn't seem fair. I hope your clinic will be able to offer some kind of explanation in time. Keep strong, we're all thinking of you and sending a cyberhug. Beck xx

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Post by Wibbs1 » Fri Dec 12, 2003 2:57 pm

Dolly........soooo sorry to hear your bad news, but as other people have said maybe Sat might hold a glimmer of hope, remember what happened to me we also thought we miscarried at 6 weeks and the hospital confirmed we did, but had to go back for a scan on the Monday and thats when they found another sac, and we are now 16weeks on Monday but we had spent the whole weekend crying, morning ,and getting drunk, smoking ,cursing our bad luck as also my 3rd miscarriage........but there you go micracles do happen.<br><br>I will keep everything crossed for you and DH but if they confirm its over, have a bloody good cry and hug DH.<br>Sending you lots of HUGS<br>Wibbs<br>XXXX

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Post by phil » Fri Dec 12, 2003 3:36 pm

Dolly, this is so sad and painful for you both. i wish it were different for you.i know that right now it is probably difficult to even think straight. i'm praying for you, for your strength for saturday. i hope saturday will bring some more answers for you, but please ask questions too. something more must be needed, as with becky, which is probably outside the normal standard protocols but available. <br><br>take care of yourselves,<br><br>phil x

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Post by Alison » Sat Dec 13, 2003 11:26 pm

Hi Dolly - I was so, so sorry to read your news. You curl up in bed and take as much time as you need to recover your strength - just do whatever feels right for you and your DH and look after each other. Wishing you a better 2004.<br><br>Much love<br><br>Alison x

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Post by GB » Tue Dec 16, 2003 12:51 pm

Hi Dolly<br>No words can describe how you must feel...just know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you all of the very best.<br>Take care and don't give up hope.<br>Lotsa luv<br>Gila<br>x-x-x

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