Question about Movement!!?

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Question about Movement!!?

Post by Guest » Thu Feb 03, 2005 6:43 pm

Hi Girls

I have got myself in a right state worrying that my baby has not moved yet..............I am 18+3 and all of my friends have felt movement before this stage?????!!

I am beginning to panic a bit........I know I have got until 20 weeks but am so scared that I am not feeling or maybe not recognising it??

Can those of you who have been here help me or share your experiences on this one??

Thanks girls




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Post by Jules R » Thu Feb 03, 2005 7:08 pm

Hi Jen,

Try not to worry too much. It's one of those things that varies hugely and I didn't feel any movement until 21 weeks. It didn't bother me (luckily) but what did bother me were the hundreds of people who asked if I'd felt any movement yet - if I'd been a bit more neurotic about it, that would have really got to me.

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Post by Toni » Thu Feb 03, 2005 7:27 pm

Hi Jen,

don't know if this helps or not but I read somewhere that first time mothers feel movement much later than with subsequent children. Whether thats true or not i dont know, but i am sure everything is fine! I understand tho, like you said to me earlier, everything is a worry.....................!!

Love always

Toni xx
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Post by DebraP » Thu Feb 03, 2005 8:39 pm

Hi Jen....

I felt nothing until about 21 weeks. My also pg colleage (due 3 days after me) had felt her baby weeks before but not told so not to worry me -how thoughtful was that?

The first time was so extremely, extremely subtle that I wasn't sure what it was. It was only because I was sitting alone with no distractions that I even noticed at all.

It will happen (and then you'll worry because it's stopped for half a day!!)


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Post by Zed2003 » Thu Feb 03, 2005 9:58 pm

Hi there,

I was also slightly later than you when I first felt my son. It really does vary and it also depends on which way the baby is lying. Try not to worry too much - the time will soon come when he/she is kicking you big style and you'll wish for a rest!!! :lol: :lol:

Try lying ina warn bath and you may see some movement then!

Take care

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Post by alicia » Fri Feb 04, 2005 8:11 am


I didn't feel movement until I had an ultrasound at 19 or 20 weeks. When I saw that one of the babies really was up in my ribs, I realized I had felt him moving the week before but not recognized it, thinking it too high up. I did not feel the other baby move until about a couple of weeks ago, at about 24 weeks. But I knew he was moving because of the ultrasounds. He was just lying so low that it was hard to feel until he got a lot bigger.

So it really does just depend on the position, I think. Try not to worry. You'll be surprised to feel your baby moving when you least expect it.



Post by Guest » Fri Feb 04, 2005 10:53 am

Hey Girls

What would I do without you all??

Thanks so much for your sweet means a lot........I'll try not to think about it and when he/she moves...........I'll let you know!!

Good luck with all your pregnancies/babies




Post by Guest » Fri Feb 18, 2005 12:33 pm

Thanks again Girls

For those of you who have not seen my other post...........the little one has been moving away since I went on hols on 7th Feb!!

You were all right........xx

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Post by Barny » Sun Feb 20, 2005 9:17 am

Hi Jen,

Congratulations on feeling the baby move - it's truly wonderful isn't it?
So so reassuring.

I didn't start feeling mine move until about 21-22 wks. I'm now nearly 28 wks and am still completely obsessed with it's movements. I can sit for hours on end just feeling it move.

Take care,
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Dec '03 - IVF/ICSI - Ectopic
July '04 - IUI negative
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Dec '05 Natural pregnancy - Baby girl born 22/8/06


Post by Guest » Mon Feb 21, 2005 9:08 pm

Hi Barney

It is great..........makes it feel even more real! Although as you know at this stage it is a bit intermittant so I do have the odd panic when I have gone for some time without feeling it!! I wouldn't be me if I didn't!!

Did you find out what you are having??

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.......i will be looking out for you!


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Post by Barny » Fri Feb 25, 2005 7:22 pm

Hi Jen,

I'm a worrier just like you. DH says I'm not happy unless I'm worrying about something. Guess I won't stop worrying until I'm holding that healthy baby in my arms. But then, I suppose I'll have a whole load of new worries. It's never ending. Ha Ha. Where would we be without this forum?

We have decided not to find out what sex the baby is. I not sure why we took this choice. Probably because I would worry that they would get it wrong if they told me what it was.

Take care of yourself.

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Post by caz1 » Wed Mar 02, 2005 3:38 pm

Hi Jen - been so busy - havent posted for ages!
Just read your message - looks like youa re all sorted now - but I hardly ever felt much movement - even at the end I was always worried I didn't get much kicking and certainly never had to MEGA moves people always talked about!
Anyway - all was fine and I have an 8 week old (VERY SQUIRMY!!) little girl. Shes a poppet but I've forgotten what sleep is like!!

Take care


Post by Guest » Wed Mar 02, 2005 4:34 pm

Hey Caz

Soooooooooo happy for you!!! Dreams can come true hey!!

I take it your life at the gym has now come to an end!!

Can't believe she is 8 weeks already!!!! Did you find out the sex before or was it a surprise??

I still get up everyday thinking.......another day down......but so far so good.......!! All being well........I will be posting something nice on here in July.......a big pleasant change to the despair you have seen me in for the last 2.5 years.........fingers crossed!

Wishing you loads and loads of fun will your little both deserve it!

Big hugs


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Post by sophiejane » Tue Mar 15, 2005 10:49 am

I've just read through these posts as I am 20 weeks 3 days pg and still haven't felt the baby move. At the scan she was moving around all oevcr the place so I know she is alright, but I can't bl**dy wait to feel her little kicks. Hopefully only a few more weeks (max another week) and I will be able to feel her. Like Jules said its so annoying as everyone asks me whether I have felt her move yet. To some people I lie and say yes just so they dont worry me by pulling a concerned face.
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me tubal damage
ist ivf Feb04 -ive
fet July04 -ive
ivf Nov04 +ive twins, but sadly one twin died at 10 weeks gestation. Freya born 21st July 2005. She's amazing!


Post by Guest » Tue Mar 15, 2005 3:02 pm


I posted for you on our own thread.........I know what you mean about other people asking...............I bloody well wanted to punch them! In fact I am sick sore and tired of ridiculous questions and compare and contrasts.........its my pregnancy of course it is going to be bloody different to someone elses!!


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