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Postby jill dickens » Wed Nov 29, 2006 10:13 am

Hi,
It's so long since I have written here I don't know who will remember me now. I stopped writting after my last M/C as I found it too painful. I just wanted to pop on and give my good news after 9 years of TTC we went down the adoption route and we have just brought home our beautiful baby girl, we were placed at a year old. I can't believe how quickly we have fallen completely in love with her and she has bonded so well with us. I hope my story will be a help to some of you that may be going down the same route all I can say is our baby has brought sunshine into ours lives and she truly is our baby.
Much love to all and good luck at whatever stage of your journey you are at.
love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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Postby Ems1971 » Wed Nov 29, 2006 1:02 pm

Hi Jill

I just had to post a reply to your wonderful news. I would really like to know more about the adoption process and your whole experience in getting your baby girl. We have decided to give IVF one more go in the new year and if it doesn't work this time to pursue the adoption route. We've been to a couple of open days and have been truly enlightened.

Emma x
ME 38 DH 32
Severe Endo
1st IVF Sept 06 - BFN
2nd IVF Jan 07 - BFP! Ruby May born 24.10.07
3rd IVF March 10 - BFP on 30.3.10! Iris Josephine born 1.12.10
Our family is complete
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Postby jill dickens » Wed Nov 29, 2006 10:43 pm

Hi Ems,
Thanks for the congratulations our baby is fast asleep in her cot she only moved in today. The adoption process took us about 2 years from start to bringing our DD home but the length can vary quite abit. The whole thing is very intrusive and hard work at times but also fun. You have to have medicals, get referees, get police checks, talk about your IF and your relationship, both your family history, work history, about where you live. There is probably more but I can't just think what else. We waited 8 months from passing panel to being placed again this varies considerably.
Anything else you want to know if I can answer it I will, good luck on your journey,
Love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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Postby Ems1971 » Thu Nov 30, 2006 2:35 pm

Thanks for your reply Jill.

Its so great to hear happy endings!

When you started the adoption process were you asked what age child you would ideally like to adopt? I mean, is it possible to request a baby, how much longer is the wait, is this request frowned upon by the agency...?

Sorry to keep asking questions but all the info helps.

Thanks again
Ems x
ME 38 DH 32
Severe Endo
1st IVF Sept 06 - BFN
2nd IVF Jan 07 - BFP! Ruby May born 24.10.07
3rd IVF March 10 - BFP on 30.3.10! Iris Josephine born 1.12.10
Our family is complete
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Postby jill dickens » Thu Nov 30, 2006 8:32 pm

Hi Ems,
You ask away it's the only way to get the info you need. There is a long long list of things you have answer regarding what age/disability etc you would like/could cope with. We were fairly limited really but our SW knew we wanted as young a baby as possible. We were warned we would have a very long wait so couldn't believe it when we got the call about our baby. I think something to bear in mind is to be very honest when you say yes,no or limited to certain things like family background, disability, contact etc if you say yes just to look good it could back fire all these things are discussed in great detail through the home visits.
Hope this helps love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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Postby Kat » Fri Dec 01, 2006 1:55 pm

Hi Jill, I remember you :D

Congratulations on bringing home your DD, I am so pleased to see everything has worked out for you

Lots of love
Kat xx
Me & DH both 41
ICSI #1 - abandoned
#2 - cancelled - DH accident
#3 - 1 transferred, bfn
#4 - 2 transferred, bfn
#5 - abandoned
#6 - no eggs at EC
#7 - DE in Barcelona - bfp but lost Dec'05
#8 - DE UK - bfn
#9 - FET Sept/Oct '07....
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Postby christine202 » Tue Dec 19, 2006 10:55 pm

HI Jill

I remember you I think we cycled together one time.

I am so pleased to read you story. It is lovely to hear a happy ending. What is your little girls name?

We are on our last attempt at IVF. On the dreaded 2ww at the moment. We have decided enough is enough if this doesn't work and going down the adoption route. Was the two years from your intial app form to bringing her home.

Hope you don't mind me asking.

Take Care

lots of love christine xx
Dh 30, Me 38. TTC for five years.
Conceived 2001,but sadly lost twins at 17 wks.
1st IVF Jan 05. Total freeze. 11 little embies
FET May 05. Embryos didn't survive. 9 embies
FET April 06-ve
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Postby jill dickens » Wed Dec 20, 2006 7:23 pm

Hi Christine,
Ask any questions you want, I didn't stop asking throughout. Our adoption journey started in January 05 and we were placed with our baby in November 06 so not too bad of course it hasn't felt like that as our whole journey has been nine years! I am afraid I can't say her name on here because of confidentiality. Good luck with the your journey and feel free to ask me anything.
Love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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Postby jill dickens » Wed Dec 20, 2006 7:25 pm

Hi Christine,
I have just re read my signiture I suppose we did start in November 04 that's when we went to open meetings but our actual process began in January 05
Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
jill dickens
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Postby christine202 » Sun Feb 25, 2007 9:18 pm

Hi Jill
our last Ivf ended in m/c at 8 wks. I am just about picking myself up again.

So adoption is def for us. We have recently filled in our application form to adopt and have had our crb checks done and they are ok. We are awaiting allocation of a social worker. They warned us it could be a while, as we have stated we would like a child as young as possible. Do you know roughly how long it took you from this point to being approved?

Also roughly what we can expect from our home visits?

Hope you are ok

luv christine x
Dh 30, Me 38. TTC for five years.
Conceived 2001,but sadly lost twins at 17 wks.
1st IVF Jan 05. Total freeze. 11 little embies
FET May 05. Embryos didn't survive. 9 embies
FET April 06-ve
FET Nov 06 +ve sadly m/c 8wks
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Postby ogr1 » Mon Feb 26, 2007 3:53 am

i could have sworn that i posted here.
jill what great news.. congradulations on becomming a mom..

have you posted any photos yet.
you can go to
www.photobucket.com
album; ivfgroup
password; ivfgroup

would love to see yooour family
and again congradulations on being a mom...

christine i know here in the states that a home study can be done alot faster and for free if you become a foster parent.

good luck
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby jill dickens » Tue Feb 27, 2007 11:07 am

Hi Christine,
I am sorry I have just found your e mail. I am so sorry about your recent M/C it will be a difficult time for I know from first hane experience do give yourself time to grieve.
Our prep course was January 2005 but didn't start home visits until November 2005 which was a very difficult wait. we finished that and passed panel in April 2006 and waited 6 months before we were placed with our baby girl who was just over 12 months old.
The home visits are emotionally quite hard as you have to go into your infertility experience, passed relationships, work, family history, where you live, get references, police checks, medicals etc so it's not to be taken lightly but you do each stage at a time so it doesn't seem too bad.

Write with any more questions and take care love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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Postby jill dickens » Tue Feb 27, 2007 11:09 am

Hi Ogr,
How lovely to hear from you and thank you for your good wishes over our baby it's been a long hard 9 year journey but now she is here my heart is filled with joy and she she simply is our baby girl.
love jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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Postby Alette » Tue Feb 27, 2007 11:45 am

Jill!!

What a wonderfull news you bring!!

Finally a mum, you must be over the moon!!

Enjoy enjoy, you deserved it!!

love,
Alette
after lots of IUI, 4 FETs and 5 IVF's
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Postby jill dickens » Tue Feb 27, 2007 6:50 pm

Thanks Alette, I remember you very well I know we cycled at the same time. Many congratualtions to you too, you are one of the lucky ones to have had success with treatment but I know you will be well aware of that i am delighted for you love Jill x
TTC nearly 9 years
Raised FSH
natural pg M/C, 12 months on Clomid +ve M/C
1st Egg Donor IVF Cycle Oct 04 +ve M/C my dream is over
Nov 04 Began the adoption journey
Nov 06 our beautiful baby girl has come home we were matched at just over 12 months
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