Thank you very much for this post. I am so happy that you found your way to reach the happiness that you seek for.
I just wanted to share with you that even for a bio child, it takes time to love him/her. In my experience. I am still amazed by our bio daughter at times, because she is herself, she is not me nor my husband. I constantly surprised by the things that she does and wonder why and how she is like that. I sincerely rarely think my or my DH's genetic materials have anything to do with her loveliness. So, I can completely understand how you love your daughter whole-heartedly.
My DH never completely supported me to go through ivf and we agreed to go adoption route if ivf did not work. We are one of the luckiest couples in this ivf world, given my age (43 at the time we started) issue. We really only did one fresh ivf cycle and it worked, but I still love to think about adoption, if one day I think I still want more children.
Enjoy your little love and kiss her for me!
Me, 50 DH, 40
IVF, 11/05, 19 embryos(e), no ET, OHSS
FET, 02/06, cancelled, dominant egg
FET, 04/06, 4e, BFN
FET, 06/06, 6e, DD born 02/07
FET, 05/08, 5e, DS born 01/09