I just went through IVF for the 5th time, still no success. My
DH and I just don't know what to do. I'm almost 33, he's 30. We've been married over 6 years and
TTC for all of that with the last 2 1/2 years being IVF. Our dilemma is IVF if paid for by my insurance, so for each cycle we maybe have to come up with $300 max plus car expenses to drive 1 1/2 away for every appt. Neither of us have anything with our work that helps with adoption other than you can take time off without pay if you have adopted. We don't have a lot of money, we are paycheck to paycheck and no one wealthy in our family to help us pay for adoption. Well, other that my father-in-law until he got divorced, paid his wife off, and then had to pay for his 17 yr old daughter to have 2 babies within 2 yrs.... Whole other sorted story.
I just don't know what to do. Drs can't figure out what the problem is other than we never have but 3 embryos to transfer each time, nothing left to freeze, and the one time it worked I miscarried a month into the pregnancy.
I'm just sick to my stomach. I don't know ANYTHING about adoption other than it takes forever if you want a baby or at least under 1 yr old (which we would prefer... race or sex isn't a huge deal to me) and costs a lot.
IVF is covered by insurance so we could just keep doing that and hoping it someday works... if the dr is willing... or give up. There's just no way we can afford to adopt.
I just don't know what to do.