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Postby maria » Wed Dec 03, 2003 8:07 pm

Hello all!<br><br>I have visited this site on numerous occasions over the last year, and it has been such a help. Your messages and experiences are so similar, that it is very encouraging to know that you are allowed to feel wretched and that it does ease.<br><br>We have been ttc for 3 years now with no luck at all - not even a late period. We have both been tested and I have had a lap, but (and I know this is good news), there is nothing physically wrong with either of us. We last saw our consultant a couple of months ago and we have now been diagnosed with unexplained infertility, and told to have a break for another year to see if anything happens naturally, before deciding whether to go for IVF.The time is just going so slowly and I hate this waiting - all I can seem to hear is my bio clock ticking away, and I just want to get on with whatever (treatment / my life)but I am stuck.<br><br>I am not specifically seeking any advice, because I know his advice is right. We had told the people close to us about the investigations, and thought that by letting them know the good news that there isn't anything wrong, that they would be pleased for us, as it does give some re-newed hope. Oh no! Now all I am getting is 'helpful' advice like eating loads of yogurt, or tips on how to get pregnant! I feel like screaming sometimes "really? I didn't know you had to have sex!". I know people mean well, but some comments make you feel so low, especially when I am already paranoid that it must be something I am doing wrong.<br><br>Anyway, I have had my rant at the world, thank you for listening. I know my situation could be a lot worse, I am just having a bad day.<br><br>Maria
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Postby suzanne » Tue Dec 09, 2003 3:01 pm

Hi Maria,<br><br>your situation sounds very similar to mine, we tried for 3 1/2 years and were diagnosed as unexplained too. Just as I was about to begin iui treatment last January a miracle occurred....his name is Daniel and he was born on 27th Sept.<br><br>I too got sick of people advising me on how to get pregnant (just get drunk was a popular one!), but would you believe the month that I caught was the one month that we hadn't tried due to my feeling so low. So despite my getting pee'd off with being told we were trying too hard, there maybe something to it after all. Not quite sure though how to stop trying when all you want is a baby.<br><br>Anyway I just thought I'd share that with you, as there's no reason why the same can't happen for you. <br><br>Wishing you all the very best of luck for the future, and hope you'll have your own little miracle someday soon.<br><br>Suzanne.x
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Postby maria » Wed Dec 10, 2003 10:54 pm

Thank you Suzanne! You have cheered me up no end. Congratulations to you on the arrival of Daniel, it may sound strange because I don't know you, but I am so pleased for you. People I know are always telling me about miracle stories, so it is very uplifting to hear from someone who has been there.I wish you all the best. Maria
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