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approved for adoption

Post by alice1 » Tue Jan 27, 2004 6:38 pm

Hi all, not got the measure of this new website yet, where do my messages go? Anyway, just to let you know we have reached the end of the adoption assessment and have been approved for one child under two. Its been a long haul and we have along wiat for thr right child to come along, but we are passed and that is exciting for us. I can't wait to meet my child!!
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Post by Dee » Tue Jan 27, 2004 10:12 pm


Many congratulations! I have been looking for a message from you as I knew this was due to happen this month. Can't wait for your long awaited child to arrive. You so deserve it.

Lots of Love

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Post by Amanda A » Wed Jan 28, 2004 10:50 am

Hi Alice,
Congratulations, it must be so nice to have something to get excited about after such a long time.

We are now looking into adoption but not sure if we should go through our local council, private agency or overseas. What did you do and how did you make that decision? Can I also ask how long exactly has it taken you to get to this stage?

I hope that you get matched up really soon. & wish you all the best for the future.

Love Rach XX

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Post by Lorraine » Wed Jan 28, 2004 2:25 pm

Many many congratulations to you Alice. :D
What lovely news for you both and how exciting - it's going to be really hard waiting now!
How amazing to think that you are now kind of 'expecting'!
I am sure it must have been a very emotional, worrying and stressful time going through the selection process (the insecure bit of me would always be terrified that someone else would judge me as 'unfit' and further prove that I am worthless) - but look - now you've made it!
Well done you! :D
With the very best of wishes to you both
Lots of love from

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Post by alice1 » Wed Jan 28, 2004 5:41 pm

Hi all and thanks, especailly to Dee its nice to know you still pop in every now and again. I don;t come here often now, but think its still a great site.

Rachel, just to answer you, we went through our local council adoption service, but did look at and speak to 2 other agenccies as some have selection criteria that we didn't fit anyway. I think the bigger the better as church agencies don't get as many children coming through them and untimately the wait is even longer than normal. Its taken us 1o months from beginning to end of the process, including the classes, whcih is about normal for all agencies. It has been the best decision we ever made and we don;t regret giving up on IVF one little bit. Its along wait till matching, but you wait 9 months to give borth anyway and they have said about a yearish?? who knows.

Anyway, happy to answer anything abouut our experience, but each agency is different. Love to all xx

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Post by fiona_lk » Wed Jan 28, 2004 6:06 pm

Hi Alice,

This is fantastic news - I am so pleased that you have got through such an important milestone and hope that the your child will be available for you to adopt very soon.

It will be so exciting to look out for your post of this news. Until then, take care and your dream is so close now sweetie, wonderful.

Lots of Love

Fiona xxxx
Me:36 Dh:46, ttc 5+yrs, M/F (96% abnormal).
13 unsuccessful Txs From 2000 [4xClomid (NHS), 7xIUI(d)s & ICSI#1 (MFS), ICSI#2 (MFS) Oct 02 (ectopic)] Natural pg Jan 03 m/c 5.5wks
ICSI#3 (CARE) +ve boy (Xander) EDD 21/03/04 - so excited!!!!!!

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Post by Traci » Thu Jan 29, 2004 5:15 pm

How excieting , I am so pleased for you both , I bet everytime the phone rings you are on tenderhooks wandering if this is it! will you be a Mummy for this Christmas?


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Post by Zed2003 » Thu Jan 29, 2004 6:27 pm

Fantastic news - I bet you are both excited and relieved at the result!!!!
Here's hoping all your dreams come true soon... :D

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Post by Tracey S » Thu Jan 29, 2004 6:42 pm

What fabulous news - I am so pleased and you must be thrilled.
Do you know how long it takes now after approval.
Take care

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Post by Amanda A » Fri Jan 30, 2004 4:24 pm

Hi Alice,
Just wanted to say thanks for answering my questions. We spoke to a couple last weekend who had taken 3yrs (5yrs ago) this took me aback slightly!

It's great to hear that you don't regret giving up the ivf at all, it's so nice to be reminded that this nightmare will come to an end, one way or another eventually!

Did the fact that you had ivf count against you at all, did you have to wait a certain amount of months after treatment until they would consider you? I ask because I have read that this may be the case and as I have also had 2 miscarriages, I am wondering if this will slow things down for us too.

All the best. love Rach XX

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Post by Grace » Fri Jan 30, 2004 6:05 pm

I am so very pleased for you. I do think of you often, you have always been a wonderful support to me.
Can't wait to hear all about your new son or daughter once they arrive.
Well done you two.

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Post by louli » Thu Feb 05, 2004 3:18 pm

Great to hear your news. Now you know that you will be parents the wait will not seem so long. Congratulations for getting through all the assessments. I have been told that this is tough.

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Post by caz1 » Mon Feb 09, 2004 7:35 pm

So happy for you - congrats- testament to your determination - you deserve all the happiness

How long have they said you might have to wait before the big day?

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Post by ogr1 » Sat May 22, 2004 10:29 pm

oh my gosh this is so wonderful !
i am trying to play catch up
and i am not very good at it.
way to much reading. but this is such great news.
have you herd anything more yet

i am very happy for you. i know that we have enjoyed are foster kids that we have adopted

love becky
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!

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