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adoption delay due to medical

Postby Womphas » Sun Jul 18, 2004 8:34 pm

We have completed the home study for adoption with our local council. We were supposed to go to panel in July but it has been put on hold due to DHs medical. He has a kidney diseaase which we have been totally honest about from day 1. The medical advisor for the panel has spoken to his renal consultant but is not satisfied and now wants to speak to the GP (who is on holiday!) I don't understand why the GP needs to be consulted - she has only met DH twice in 4 years and has already deemed him fit to adopt during the medical she did. :? I asked my SW if I should worry about this and she wouldn't answer me. I get the feeling she knows alot more than she is letting on to us. Any advice as to what you think is going on??? The not knowing is driving me mad.
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Postby Womphas » Sun Sep 12, 2004 6:06 pm

:lol: :) Just an update! We go to panel on Wednesday! The team leader who came to do the "quality control" visit says that we have a strong case. AND in light of DH's illness the medical advisor has reccommended that we be matched with a child asap to enable us to bond as a family before DH needs further treatment etc. :lol: :lol: :D :D I am very excited.
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Postby ogr1 » Sun Sep 12, 2004 8:36 pm

what wonderful news.. i am so happy for you both.
you must be on cloud 9.
is your dh goping to be ok?
my aunt and sisters have had battles with there kidney's
lots of stones and infections.

but yahooooooo on the adoption :D :D :D
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby beckym » Mon Sep 27, 2004 5:48 pm

I really hope you passed panel and the fact that you have not been on here is because you are celebrating. However, if you want reassurance re people who have had immense medical problems and eventually gone on to adopt please do email me at Menzieshunt@aol.com. I have lots of uplifting stories to tell of people who failed panel first time because of medical reasons and did go on to adopt.

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