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My Boy!

Postby Lucy36 » Fri Nov 11, 2005 6:48 pm

Hi All

I have not posted much here for about 3 years but before that I was a constant poster. This site really helped me through 6 attempts at IVF with ICSI. I also made some fantastic friends (Tee, Alice, Michelle, Sandra)

IVF failed us and we moved towards adoption. Today we were told that we have a son. He moves in on the 5th December. We are over joyed he is absolutly wonderful.

It took us 7 years to get a family but we did it and we are probably going to have the best Christmas Ever.

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Postby ogr1 » Fri Nov 11, 2005 8:33 pm

lucy this is great news..

cant think of a better present..
if you can please tell the rest..
how old from where and all the wonderful news!!!!!!!!!!!

and again condragulations mommy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby Alison » Fri Nov 11, 2005 9:10 pm

Lucy, I am so absolutely delighted to read your news. I remember you being an "oldie" when I was a "newbie" (I think you might have been Lucy 33 at the time....) I'd be really interested to hear more, about how old your son is, how you have found it going through the adoption process etc. etc.

I think Christmas is a really hard time for those of us dealing with infertility, and I am so happy that you will have the best Christmas present ever.

With love and best wishes

Alison x
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Postby Lucy36 » Sat Nov 12, 2005 9:04 am


Yes I was lucy33 - time just slips by.

Our Boy is 3 years old and he comes from the other end of the country to us.

He came from the national adoption register.

The adoption process is hard but then so is IVF so we knew we would we would get through it.

I constantly worried about my husband and how he would be discussing feelings and at times it was difficult but we made it and it almost felt like a challenge. We knew we would make good parents and if anyone was going to try and put us off they were stopping a little person having a family.

We certainly didn't have plain sailing with social services and during the assesment we have some somewhat heated discussions. But we remained absolutly true to ourselves all along.

Luckly for us due to are discussions with social services we asked if we could have a particular social worker who we felt was the only one that really understood us. He was and is fantastic.

There is something about adoption that no person will understand unless they have been there when you have been given the gift of a child.

Lots of people have asked me why not adopt baby and the answer is simple for me.

We couldn't have a baby and we had to deal with this. Adoption is not replacing what we could not have. Our son is his own little person in his own right and not a replacment for a child that will never be.

Yes we will still have times where a lump might come into our throat over not having a baby but thats natural after all.

Happy to answer any questions re adoption if anyone has any.

Take care all
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Postby sally76 » Sat Nov 12, 2005 1:18 pm

:D Hi Lucy

Just wanted to say a massive CONGRATULATIONS on the news of your little son!

Brilliant news, and this really will make all your Christmases come true!

Me 29, DH 31, ttc since 2000.
1 abd IVF, 2 failed ICSI's
Turned to adoption to make our dreams come true.
Now proud parents of a beautiful 2 yr girl and are so very lucky!
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Postby Dee » Sat Nov 12, 2005 11:39 pm


I seldom log on to the site so I think it was meant to be that I logged on today and read your message. Many congratulations on the arrival of your long awaited son! Really delighted that your difficult journey has had such a positive result.

Enjoy being parents and have lots of fun with your son. 3 is a fun age.

Lots and Lots of Love
Dee xxx.
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Postby Miriam » Mon Nov 14, 2005 3:23 pm

hi Lucy,

Dee told me your news and like her I have not logged on for ages but was just so delighted to hear that you will have a little boy soon. Such fantastic news.
My little boy will be three in January and like Dee says, it's such good fun -I'm sure you will have a great Christmas and that you will be great parents.
I'm currently cycling again after a couple of miscarriages, the last after IVF, so we will see. Strange to be back here again after all these years but it's different now anyway. EC on Weds.

Am in touch with Dee and was with Michelle for a while - Dave still feels bad about an email he sent you all that time ago after which we lost touch - anyway we send you lots of love and wish you all the luck and joy in the world.

What is your little boy's name?

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Postby Lucy36 » Sat Dec 03, 2005 9:50 pm

Thanks for the messages
Our little Man has moved in and already seems to be very at home. We are over the moon.
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Postby NickiMark » Sat Dec 10, 2005 12:58 pm

Oh I am so happy to hear your little man has moved in thats great xx
TTC 6yrs......Have jumped off the rollercoaster for now, too many BFN's and too much heartache, to keep going....Moving on to fulfil other dreams!!!
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Postby Mandy » Mon Jan 23, 2006 6:28 am

Hi Lucy,

Just a quick hello from one oldie to another ( back in the days on the old message board) 1stly congratulations on becoming a mummy to your special little man. i am sure xmas was just fab.

We to had 6 icsi and then went onto adoption and i also became a mummy last year to our wonderful son who came home on 10th of june age 9 months and is now a very active 16 month old. Christmas in our house was just the best. We get to court at the end of this month so then it will all be legal, yipeeeeeeeeee.

It would be great to catch up somemore so please pm me with your e mail if you like.

have fun.

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Postby AngiePangie » Tue Jan 24, 2006 10:20 am

I'm so happy for you :D Many more to you always...........

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Postby UrchinTraksx » Tue May 16, 2006 2:50 am

Oh really ? :) :)
This world is mine guys!
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