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Would of been due date approaching

Postby fitzjr11 » Tue May 18, 2010 12:05 am

This weekend was my due date for the triplets i lost back in Nov- how does everyone handle knowing your date is approaching and you have nothing? Knowing it was triplets the due date would of been earlier, therefore possibly giving me my 1st mothers day. My husband is difficult to talk to about how i am feeling and my friends are telling me i need to get over it- if i could i would, ive been doing good last several months but this month is really hard. We are going away for the weekend, hoping if i stay busy it will help.
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Re: Would of been due date approaching

Postby jenice » Wed May 19, 2010 3:59 am

so sorry for your loss. I've lost 3 pregnancies all pretty early and I do think about it sometimes. I think about how I would have the baby when the due date is here. People don't understand unless they have walked in your shoes how you feel. It gets easier with time. This summer I would have been due, I was excited to have a summer baby.I'm Hoping for a next time to stick like glue.Take time to grieve, they were your babies and nothing can take that away from you. I hope you find peace :) :)
ME 38 mild endo, removed left tube,2 ectopics DD born 2005 :)
DH Low Morph
IUI Feb 09 BFN
IVF #1 & 2cancelled May 09 & July 09
#3 BFN Sept 09
FET Nov 09 Chem Pregnancy
IVF #4 BFP June 10 Beta # 324, Beta#2 10,078 DS born 3/1/11
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Re: Would of been due date approaching

Postby wishingwell » Mon May 24, 2010 10:08 am

Fitzjr11 and Jenice - I am so sorry for your losses. I lost my precious little bean last year and remember the EDD in October being very hard. My best friend also had her baby within 2 weeks of the EDD which was so tough. We took a holiday to Cornwall as there was no way I could have been at home that day - it was hard and heartbreaking but therapeutic too...DP and I sat on a cliff top with our scan photo, a poem and a candle and just reflected and cried for our much wanted and much missed little angel in heaven. We felt much stronger afterwards as we felt we'd really recognised and remembered our little one. Not a day goes by when I don't think of our baby, but it does get easier. I send you much love and peace at this difficult time...allow yourself all the time to grieve and remember xxxxxx
Me - 35, DF - 38
TTC 4yrs (previously TTC 6 years with ex incl one failed IVF attempt)
Clomid BFP after 6 months!! MMC March 2009 at 7.5 weeks :(
Clomid for further 6 months - No BFP.
start IVF 21st May 2010...hoping for a happy ending xx
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Re: Would of been due date approaching

Postby Sara30 » Mon May 24, 2010 3:13 pm

Hello fitz

Grieving is so important, I also lost my pregnancies and it does get easier over time, Jenice is so right noone can understand unless they have walked in our shoes, take your time and allow yourself to grieve. I did all the first year after my baby would have arrived and I marked the special days, mothers day, birthdays, christmas, I bought some flowers and put them on the rose bush we bought, and I started a journal with all my thoughts and feelings in. No-one has the right to tell you to get over it, you will learn to live with it in your own way as time goes on.
Find a way that comforts you and allow yourself to do that,
Thinking of you
Take Care
Lee xx
Finally I am a mummy, we are about to adopt our beautiful little girl xxxxx
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Re: Would of been due date approaching

Postby fitzjr11 » Thu May 27, 2010 1:10 am

thanks for all the support, we did go away for a few days and that was nice. we are looking to try again this summer and hopefully it will turn out better this time having this board is a big help, being able to vent w/ others who really understand is a huge help
1 IVF/ICSI and Pregnant 8/09
triplets-miscarried twins at 11 wks
singletown at 13 wks
2nd IVF July/Aug 2010
DH low sperm count
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Re: Would of been due date approaching

Postby myjourney911 » Wed Jun 02, 2010 11:38 pm

My EDC was 4/14/10. We had a failed IVF attempt in march '10. We are doing FET from our March cycle this august. My sister-in-law is due end of July this summer. I try to stay positive but sometimes its hard you feel like maybe God it trying to give you a hint when you don't give birth. I know that's not the case but sometimes you can't help feeling that way. The EDC is always a hard date.
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