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is it me or the greeving?

Postby kyndra » Mon Oct 02, 2006 10:48 pm

I became pregnant days after my highschool graduation. i was upset at the idea first. Not because i didnt want children but because the time just didnt seem right. imean everyone was dissapointed in me. i married my boyfriend b/c i love him and it felt like the right thing. i delayed going to college, i basically changed my entire life because i knew regardless of my age and life plans i loved the baby i was caring. i lost it at 8 weeks. i know i wasnt pregnant for long but that baby became my world. i am devastated........its been 2 and 1/2 months since my lost. but now all i can think about is getting pregnant agian. i cant go anywhere with out seeing a baby and wanting to cry because it doesnt seem fair. Ive prayed about it every night. A big part of me is scared to get pregnant agian because i feal the same thing will happen. Is this normal?
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Postby DeniseM » Tue Oct 03, 2006 12:39 pm

Totally normal. I think you mourn the idea of what the baby would be too. Take time to sort out your feelings before you make any quick decisions. Another baby will not make you stop grieving the one you lost. Hugs and prayers, this does get easier.
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Postby TansRN » Sun Oct 22, 2006 8:17 pm

This is totally normal to feel this way. I know exactly how you are feeling as it has been about 2 months since I lost my baby at 12 weeks. It was devastating for me to sit there and hold her and wonder why this happened. I am still heartbroken about it. Take the time you need to heal and to refresh before starting up again. You need to have a healthy body and mind. It is so important. I wish you the best.

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