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Postby Tracey D » Thu Jan 09, 2003 2:51 am

Dear All,<br><br>As you can see from the time I wrote this message that I am unable to sleep! I went for my 12 week scan today - I was really worried about it and after reading what happened to Sarah I was even more petrified.<br><br>The sonographer wasn't exactly friendly but once I could see the baby moving and the heartbeat i started to relax until she told me to get dressed and wait in the waiting room as she wanted to speak to a doctor. My heart sank to the floor, we knew that something was wrong.<br>To cut a long story short, the sonographer had picked up that the fold at the back of the babys neck was thicker than normal which could indicate that I may have a chance of having a downs baby. We are in shock and devastated. I have now got to have a nuchal fold scan on Friday morning which will tell us more and give me the odds of having a baby with abnormalities.<br><br>I feel like I am living a bad dream. We have been through so much to get to this stage and now it all seems spoilt. I'm only 29 and I purposely opted not to have any tests, ie the nuchal scan, triple blood tests etc but now this decision has been taken out of my hands because some sonographer was too bloody good at her job.<br><br>Tracey D
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Postby NickyJ » Thu Jan 09, 2003 6:33 am

Tracey,<br><br>Big hug to ya....If I remember even with this sign the odds of having an affected baby are still reltively slim. It wont be an easy week or so, but I had a friend last year who was told her baby looked like he had a major abnormality and woudln't survive much past the birth, she had a two week wait to get results back and all was fine, Kieron is now 2 and a little tiger!!! It doesn't seem fair as we have already been through the nightmares the waits and the praying adn now it seems you start it again. I have everything crossed for you and just know it will work out fine. Again big hugs to you and dh and everything crossed.<br>Love<br>Nicky
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Postby Sarah30 » Thu Jan 09, 2003 8:45 pm

Hello Tracey<br><br>Am sorry to have got you so worried after posting my message (didn't think about people who hadn't had their scans - sorry to have been insensitive).<br><br>Also am very sorry to hear your news - what a worry. I suppose the only consulation is that the nuchal scan is by no means certain at all - it can only tell you what percentage at risk you are to help you decide whether you would like further tests.<br><br>I'm praying for you that everything will be fine, as I'm sure everyone else on here will be.<br><br>Good luck for tomorrow, try and keep positive and I hope it all work out fine.<br><br>Thinking of you<br><br>Sarah x<br>
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Postby Michelle » Fri Jan 10, 2003 9:55 am

Tracey<br>I am keeping everything crossed that all will be fine with baby. <br>Please try to stay positive - I'm sure it will all work out well.<br>Love, Michelle x
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Postby Tracey D » Fri Jan 10, 2003 6:24 pm

Hi Everyone,<br><br>Thanks for all your support, it really is appreciated.<br><br>Sarah, don't even dare say that you were insensitive. When I read your posting about your terrible news, I cried. Not because I was worried for me but I just felt so awful for you. I don't know what to say to you. Sorry is such an empty word but I am sorry, sorry for what you are going through.<br><br>I just feel that I am in the middle of a nightmare. We went to have the nuchal fold scan done today and there is a thicker than normal nuchal fold which could indicate downs. We are going to Kings College Hospital on monday where they will monitor the babys heart and then I am going to have a CVS done. This has taken a lot of thinking about and we just wish it was a decision we didn't have to make. I keep crying all the time and I can't even begin to imagine what I am going to do if there is a problem with the baby. Well to be honest I have thought about it a great deal and it's horrible. This time next week I should have the results and I just have to pray that the procedure doesn't give me a miscarriage. God can you imagine how awful that would be to lose the baby and then find out that nothing was wrong? But I know I can't bury my head in the sand, if I didn't have this test done now and then go for my 20 week scan and then they can see there are major problems, how would we feel?<br><br>Why us? That's all I keep asking myself. The odds of having a downs baby, that the doctor gave me today, was 1 in 44. Knowing my bloody luck I'll be that one.<br><br>Please all keep your fingers crossed for me. Just don't know how I am going to cope for the next week.<br><br>Tracey<br><br>
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Postby Sarah30 » Fri Jan 10, 2003 11:00 pm

Fingers, toes, arms, legs, even eyes crossed for you Tracey. I've had the back luck, so hopefully you have the good luck - one of us has to!<br><br>Will be thinking of you.<br><br>Love Sarah x
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Postby Traci » Sun Jan 12, 2003 11:33 am

Dear Tracey<br>God I am really feeling for you , What a long time to wait , I will be thinking of you every day and will have everything crossed !<br>Tracix
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Postby fi » Sun Jan 12, 2003 6:42 pm

just wandered over from the other side, but wanted to wish you all the best for tomorrow,<br><br>love Fiona
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Postby tshepher » Mon Jan 13, 2003 12:27 pm

Tracey<br>Am really thinking of you, between you and Sarah I think it's all of our worst fears reliased and my heart goes out to you both. I'm at 9 weeks and already started to have all these irrational thoughts but you have to hang in there don't you. <br>I do know that a friend of mine was told after the NF scan that she was odds-on to have Down's twins, both with heart problems. She carried on with the preganancy and had a healthy , happy "normal" little boy and girl that are about to celebrate their 5th birthday.<br>Am wishing you loads of luck.<br>LOL<br>Terri<br>xxxxx
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Postby Helen G » Mon Jan 13, 2003 4:38 pm

Tracey<br><br>I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Nothing in this life is certain so don't give up hope!<br><br>Helen x
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Postby Louise » Mon Jan 13, 2003 5:12 pm

Hi Tracey<br>Just wanted to wish you the best of luck and to say that I am thinking of you.<br>Lots of love<br>Louise XX
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