Question for you sucessful girlies

by **bb1** » Wed Jul 02, 2003 1:35 pm

Hi I am 20 weeks pregnant & was only advised to take it easy with no heavy lifting. Also was told not to work for 3 days after ET. As I already have a child, I had to do a certain amount of work but watched lots of tv in first week. I also had a bath to try & relax (didn't know about that one) & ate quite a lot of chocs & coffee. A bit of a naughty girl I suppose but I am pregnant. My advice is just relax, treat yourself (shoes?) and if you're in doubt of doing something then don't. I did do a lot of praying however & I'm not a particularly religous person. Lots of best wishes for you. ps, also told no sex! [Edited by bb1 on 02-Jul-03 14:37]

by **RLV** » Wed Jul 02, 2003 7:04 pm

Hi Caz I took the prenatal vitamins, drank lots of water, fruit juice & milk, didn't have baths (showered instead - didn't just rot!) and generally didn't do much. I was only working 2 days a week in an office which I still did but I gave up lifting and hoovering etc. As for symptoms, felt exactly the same as if AF was on her way really (odd pains, sore boobs etc) so really didn't know either way till I tested. Good luck anyway - hope you join us over here soon! Luv Rachel X

by **caz** » Wed Jul 02, 2003 7:15 pm

Thanks guys. I know this seems crazy but a problem I have is that I SIMPLY CANNOT IMAGINE MYSELF EVER EVER EVER BEING PG. I have freinds who say that they always imagined they would be pg, I just have this gut feeling I wont be and I certainly cant ever imagine it actually happening to me Am I alone in this - did any of you feel this way ? or did you all deep deep down know that you were meant to / destined to have a child and could imagine actually being pg Stupid question - but it often plays on my mind. Sorry and thanks SO much for advice - I def gonna take it very easy at work , and havent been to gym yet and not sure I'll bother for a couple more days!! Cazx

by **Mags529** » Thu Jul 03, 2003 7:39 am

Hi Caz I always thought I would be a Mum, and while I was on 2ww I used a lot of PMA - I still can't believe its real now, and probably won't until I hear screaming (mine or babies) in about 3 months time. It can and will happen to you!!! just remember that. Love Mags

by **SallyP** » Thu Jul 03, 2003 8:44 am

Caz, I never ever in my life imagined myself either being pregnant or having a child - I have never ever thought of myself becoming a mum - but weirdly at the same time I couldn't imagine myself and dh being on our own for the rest of our lives, without children. Also, I have never been maternal, always been very career focused (until now when I couldn't give a stuff about it!) and don't particularly like other people's children, esp in supermarkets (that hasn't changed!)! During the cycle and the 2ww I was really positive and desperate for it to work and kept telling myself that it had already worked (what you put out to the Universe comes back to you, so your PMA needs to be that it has worked, rather than you hope it works if you see what I mean. You can just say 'This ivf cycle has worked, I am now pregnant' over and over again and that is it - what you put out you get back). So when I got a positive result I was really shocked as I just couldn't imagine myself being pg, and I certainly didn't feel any different during the 2 ww - i just felt like AF was imminent (foul temper, weepy, tired, terrible af pains, terrible sore boobs), so I just thought it was a worse period than usual. I'm only 8 and a bit weeks now, and apart from sore boobs and nausea don't feel any different than I ever did, and certainly haven't felt impending motherhood washing over me in a big life-changing way - more phobia about childbirth! Just remember the positive affirmations, take it easy and think of the pink line on the hpt! love sally x