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Bottle Feeding and Routines...

Postby Ems1971 » Fri Jan 11, 2008 4:45 pm

Can anyone help me? I am becoming a little obsessive about trying to get our 11 week old baby into some sort of pattern. I am bottle feeding and have been since she was born. She's a healthy, happy and hungry baby and has always fed around every 4 hours. Over Xmas we managed to get her into a little pattern where she fed at 7pm, then we put her to bed and woke her at 11pm for her last feed and she'd go through til 7am. However, we weren't really happy waking her up to feed. She then went into her own room and we started to feed her at 7pm, she'd wake at 12 midnight for a feed and then sleep through til 7am. Not bad at all. But all of a sudden the last couple of nights she started sleeping from her feed at 7pm until 3am and then I'd have to wake her up at 8.30 or so as I have had to go out the last couple of mornings.

Her feeds seem to be all over the place during the day and she has no set pattern. Is this normal? Am I expecting too much of a baby her age? Is she too young to have a set bedtime at 7pm? Is this too early? The only reason we were feeding and putting her to bed at 7pm was so her last feed of the night would be midnight, a pretty reasonable time, and not 3 or 4am.

Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated. I am getting myself in a bit of a state obsessing about this and wish I could relax a bit more and just "take it as it comes".

Emma xx
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Postby Macca8 » Fri Jan 11, 2008 10:45 pm

Hiya Ems,

How's that gorgeous little girl of yours? I've still not seen any photos yet honey.

My two sleep through from 10pm. Their last feed now is 2130. What I do is feed them every 4 in the day and then make sure they feed at 6pm then 2130 and that takes them through to 7am but beware they start waking again at 14-16 weeks as they need weaning. My two have just started to wake at 5 -7 am. The health visitor told me to wean early so they started baby rice this morning. Lets see how they get on.
They are brilliant babies, so easy going too. Bet they're going to be a nightmare as 2 year olds instead.

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Postby Ems1971 » Sat Jan 12, 2008 4:49 pm

Hi Lisa

Great to hear from you. Ruby is doing great. She's such a laid back baby (obviously takes after her daddy - not me!!) and I know I am lucky to have such a good sleeper. You sound like you have it sussed. Its great they go from 9.30 til 7am. I'd love Ruby to do that but when we tried it she was waking at 3am instead! I just don't think she's going to go for longer than 6 or 7 hours at the moment. Maybe she will when she's a bit older. This is why we started the 7pm bedtime so at least she'll wake up around 11 or midnight for her last feed and then go through til about 6 or 7 am. Not too bad I think really, do you? She's still feeding around every 4 hours in the day too.

Last night we fed her at 7pm, then DH got her up at 11.30 and fed her, she was no trouble and pretty much fed in her sleep, then went through til 6.30 am. I think if this works for us then perhaps its fine to do it. There isn't a right or wrong way is there? I do worry all the time that I'm "doing it wrong"!!!

Can you PM me with your email address and I'll send you some piccies...

Glad your boys are doing so well!! Its great isn't it!!??

Love Em xx
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Postby beth » Mon Jan 14, 2008 5:46 pm

hi girls,
Congratulations on your beautiful babies!

Emma,
I too used to stess over doing it "right". Don't worry so much about the pattern, I also tried to establish a pattern, but then I learned to just feed the baby when she was hungry! They go thru growth spurts and may be hungry more often than not at times.
My DD started sleeping thru the night when she was about 10 weeks old. I would feed her around 7 or 730, then wake her around 11pm to get her to sleep longer during the night. Then, I thought, "am I crazy? waking a sleeping baby?" (she was a tough one to get to sleep at all) So I started skipping the 11 pm feeding, and she would sleep until 630 or 7 am! sometimes she woke at 4am to feed, but most of the time she didn't!
Eventually, the babies will have to learn to sleep thru the night without a feeding, and maybe yours is too young to do that now.
There is no wrong way, do what works for your baby most of all.

good luck and I hope you get more sleep!


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Postby Mazy++ » Mon Jan 14, 2008 7:00 pm

Hi There,
My pediatrician told me "we don't believe in scheduling babies". They said it's not good for the baby and causes too much undue stress for the mother. They don't sleep through the night either and that sleeping through the night actually means sleeping for a 5 hour stretch. Knowing these things helped me to relieve some of the pressure I put on myself, I hope it helps you too. :wink:
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