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Postby ogr1 » Wed Sep 24, 2003 10:46 pm

lorrine and caroline i dont have your e-mail address any more. they went with my computer.i hope you all are managing.<br> i had a good v-kay with my sisters.it has been real busy sence i have been back. my father in-law had a knee replacement surgery done this morning, that went real good.<br> my sister in-law called to day. i havent herd from her sence we lost moses. she wanted to know what was wrong. i had called her and left a messege that her dads surgery went good. she told me that i sounded angry and didnt know why i would.<br> the sun is shinning and i onloy cried once today..<br>love becky
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Postby woppa » Thu Sep 25, 2003 1:07 pm

Hi Becky<br>sorry i havent been in touch sooner but you know whats its like !!!!<br>Hows things with you?? Glad you had a good holiday--just what you were needing.<br> I can't beleive your sister in law asking what is wrong !!! Stupid b^%&*h !!! I think people think you have forgotten your son and that life carries on as normla and it doesnt !!<br>anyway our turn for a few days holiday so catch up with you soon<br>love<br>Elaine<br>xxx
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Postby Grace » Thu Sep 25, 2003 1:46 pm

Hello Becky<br><br>Glad you had a good time with your sisters. I have two sisters myself and they are also my best friends. I always feel better when we get to spend time with each other.<br><br>As for you sister in law, what can I say. Some people just have no idea how insensitve and down right cruel they are. As Elaine said how do they imagine you can carry on as normal after such a terrible loss only a few weeks ago. I really cannot understand people like that they make me very cross.<br><br>You are doing really well Becky, you are so kind to all of us on here, while at the same time going through such an awful time yourself. I wish I could do something to ease your pain but all I can do is send you a massive big hug through cyber space.<br><br>Write again soon.<br><br>Love Gracexxxx
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Postby ogr1 » Fri Sep 26, 2003 2:21 am

do you guys know how amazing you are.. it is so wonderful to have such good friends that i havent even ever ment..<br>you all have touched my heart.. <br>so what have you both been up to?<br>love becky
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and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Postby Tracey S » Fri Sep 26, 2003 9:24 am

BEcky<br><br>just sent you an e mail - oh and you Elaine! We are off to Tuscany for a few days as we were supposed to be decorating the nursery etc - you know what it's like - hardly call it a holiday. You s in law sounds most insensitive - you know what people can be like Grace is right - they just carry on and seem oblivious to our pain. A friend Of DH at work asked where it is he lives yesterday - when he told her she turned round and went "oh yes now I know it -that is where my midwife live - she is very good you know" and off she walked. as if I don't know the midwife - she is/was mine too!<br>I had to stop myselft getting the clay and pins out I can tell you.<br>TAke care all<br>Love<br>Tracey<br>xxx
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Postby Loonpants » Fri Sep 26, 2003 3:00 pm

Becky<br><br>Glad you had a good holiday, much needed and deserved. Good to see you back to keep us all in check.<br><br>Sister-in-law is a stupid moo!!! There are so many people the same I'm afraid. Sometimes I don't think they think before they speak. My next door neighbour has just found out she is PG (can't cope with the one she has silly cow) she knows I had a miscarriage but still told me all about her pregnancy, birth she is planning etc and I just wanted to shout 'Shut up you insensitive b****' I am pleased for her but she didn't need to tell me so much detail. Then I had to look at scan pictures of a colleague and make all the right noises. It's been a hard week but unfortunately the world does not stop turning.<br><br>At least we all have each other to support us and I think of you all often. Becky time can heal but we will never forget. Hope I don't make you cry again!!!<br><br>Don't forget we love you :~)<br><br>Lisa(Loonpants)<br>xxx
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Postby ogr1 » Fri Sep 26, 2003 6:15 pm

lisa the cries i get from here are cries from the heart. i would like to think that they are healing and understanding cries.. <br>my husband and i started to argue this morning.we both cried. i dont really know why or what started it.i geuss it doesnt matter. <br> it seems like things should be getting easier, but at times harder.. if i laugh then i feel guilty. <br>i would have been 31 wks pregnant.<br>ok this is getting sad.the what ifs and the would of could of should of are places where none of us need never go to!!!!!!<br><br> we are bring my father in-law home today. the surgery went great.<br>its 82 outside. there is a home football came today. 5 of the boys are going to there dance to night.. saturday shawn.travis,dan,rich,and aaron are getting baptized.<br> i wish all of you could come here for a v-kay. it is very peaceful..<br> love becky<br>
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Postby Grace » Fri Sep 26, 2003 9:58 pm

Dear Becky<br><br>I know what you mean about a healing cry. Sometimes you hold it in for so long but when you do actually cry it is often a good thing.<br><br>I think it is good that you and your husband cry together. We all argue don't we? but sometimes it is just a way of getting rid of the tension that builds up insdide us.<br><br>I think we all think of the what ifs etc Becky. I have n't had a loss like yours. But I often think of what it would be like if things had gone to plan and we had a family of two or three by now. It is only natural that we wonder what it would have been like.<br><br>It does sound very beautiful and peaceful where you live, it is on a ranch is n't it? I live just outside London in Suburbia really. I am originally a country girl though, and do miss all the open space. Hoping that we will return one day soon.<br><br>I hope you have a good weekend. Sounds like it is going to be a special one with the boys being baptised.<br><br>Talk soon, take care Becky and everyone else too<br><br>Love <br>Grace xx
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Postby Loonpants » Sun Sep 28, 2003 12:29 pm

Becky<br><br>Hope the baptism went well. You'll have to tell us all about it.<br><br>It does us good to cry now and again and I like you have a hubby that doesn't think he's too much of a man to cry. It does them good too cause they tend to bottle up more than we do.<br><br>Thinking of you on this beautiful sunny Sunday, another thing to make us smile I guess.<br><br>Lisa(Loonpants)<br><br>xx
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